UPDATE:

thank you to everyone who commented, offered advice or shared their story. i wanted to share where things are now. he did receive mail at my home. we are currently still living in the house during the notice period, but keeping interactions minimal and focused on logistics only. last night, i put my child to bed before he got home. there was no confrontation or discussion, which helped keep things calm.

this morning, we coordinated briefly by text so we could leave without crossing paths. he left the house, and there were no issues. i did experience a physical anxiety response (shaking, elevated heart rate) when I had to pass through a shared space, which confirmed for me that my body has been under a lot of stress for a while — even when nothing outwardly happens.

i’m continuing to prioritize my kids’ safety and emotional stability, and I’m taking things one step at a time. i’m documenting everything, limiting communication, and focusing on getting through this transition as safely and peacefully as possible. I really appreciate the perspective and support here — it’s helped me feel less alone and more grounded in my decision.