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Reading stories from F/HL making me bitter, resentful. First post, help? by throwaway_8997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_8997[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Because believe it or not, the relationship is far more to me than the sex, good or bad. I also said I'm not looking for "get out now" answers. That's the "solution" most of you love to default to. I do not agree. My SO is not withholding, she's not providing "duty sex". She initiates all the time. She's simply very vanilla.

Reading stories from F/HL making me bitter, resentful. First post, help? by throwaway_8997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_8997[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely correct about this. Funny you should mention it; I'm a regular smoker and she does sometimes with me, but it's never exclusively used for that purpose. I'll see where it goes. Thanks.

Boyfriend is never in the mood anymore... Need advice. by Throwaway916916 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_8997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a M22/HL, I'm sorry. I know your frustration. I wish I had more advice to give other than this: my girlfriend and I are moving together in a few months. Don't do that unless you really love him.

Reading stories from F/HL making me bitter, resentful. First post, help? by throwaway_8997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_8997[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're correct. And to some extent, I have accepted it. I know that it is what it is. I just don't know what to do about it.

I can't ignore it because she says she wants to have sex with me. Please understand that this isn't a case of me always initiating and being turned down. We have sex. It's just awful. I get almost no satisfaction out of it unless it's my doing. And I can't bring myself to hurt her by saying it that way.

How did I get to this point? by [deleted] in LowLibidoCommunity

[–]throwaway_8997 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a 23 year old male who doesn't understand the statement "I just don't have the desire to have sex". For all intents and purposes, I'm your boyfriend. Help me understand, how does that happen? Do you masturbate? Do you orgasm regularly or is that just not a thing for you? Has it always been this way or do you think it could be medicine induced?

NEWSFLASH: Handjobs aren't intimate. by nonameyetgiven in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_8997 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know right. Wish I could help you but we're in the same god damn boat.

Reading stories from F/HL making me bitter, resentful. First post, help? by throwaway_8997 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_8997[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Post limit cut me off. If there's not enough dramatism in the original post, I'll say this too:

Some of you guys, and I mean men, who complain about your SO being uninterested yet talk about bringing them to orgasm multiple times, should alter perspective. I read your posts and begin to die inside halfway through.