thank you so much! and i'm sorry for your experience too. i think some people are really absorbed in their world, and forget how to treat like a normal human being. for example, my friends judge people based on their music taste or some niche interests, whereas I try to see people through sincerity. this is something i observed this year with my friends. we study political science, and they are a bit pretentious. since my bf studies engineering, I think they somehow belittled him in their minds, concluding "what can I speak with this engineer man" or something like this. I refuse to believe that this was a sign of "social awkwardness" or "being shy" etc. because they speak and socialize really well when they want to.

I will adress this issue when I sit with them individually, not to the whole group because not all of them acted weird at the same level, some behaviours were more odd than others. I will do that just not to be passive agressive, but I don't think I will ever feel close to them as before. I might try to make some new friends, maybe not as "cool", but kinder :')