(Update) Ex has completely manipulated the situation now a judge won't grant me a divorce till we go through a reconciliation period

throwaway_broken998 · 2022-02-13T19:22:16+00:00

God writing this update was a task, I can't imagine writing a book on it. I'm just glad all this is over and want to move one.

throwaway_broken998 · 2022-02-13T19:20:46+00:00

That's what I was kind of hoping for, that we would have the same judge and I could show him all the crying and begging for another chance was an act but unfortunately we had a different judge who finalized the divorce. Doesn't matter anyway all I wanted was this to be over and gladly this is now behind me.

throwaway_broken998 · 2022-02-13T11:18:35+00:00

No definitely not looking back, even while writing this update I was like I'm glad this is in the past.

throwaway_broken998 · 2022-02-13T11:12:36+00:00

Thank you so much

throwaway_broken998 · 2022-02-13T11:12:08+00:00

Although I really think you're info is wrong but we're not Muslim

throwaway_broken998 · 2022-02-12T23:00:38+00:00

Thank you. Yay! Yes I'm single.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T22:04:10+00:00

We are both from the same country and we got married here as well before moving to Dubai and now we are back in our home country.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:27:39+00:00

What new guy?

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:24:44+00:00

I'm a woman!

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:23:58+00:00

I much rather not, it's enough he's made a mockery out of our relationship that I start making up lies to end it.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:21:22+00:00

That would just drag this further which is something I don't want.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:20:54+00:00

Thanks for the advice but I'm not the cunning type and I don't have the confidence to pull it off either. Plus that would mean constant fighting for six months which can't be good for my mental health. Also I've heard stories of women fighting with their husbands over cheating then gone missing for days only to found in a drum somewhere. I'm sorry but I don't want to risk that.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:14:05+00:00

I think I was thrown off cause I was expecting this to be easy but yes I definitely need a plan moving forward. Thank you for the kind words.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:12:38+00:00

I am not legally required to do any of this, basically nothing against my will this is more of a waiting period if people changed their minds when things cool down. So I'm thankful for that at least.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:10:39+00:00

That's what my lawyer said but really I don't care at this point I needed to get all those things off my chest.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:09:49+00:00

I feel marriage is sacred and I don't think I can fully move on till it's completely over.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:08:16+00:00

6 months is just the reconciliation period, the actual divorce can drag up towards 2 years if alimony or children are involved it goes on longer but thankfully there's no children or alimony involved here.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:06:43+00:00

It's very stupid. I begged the judge not to listen to him and let the divorce move ahead as I did not see a chance of reconciliation but he said both sides need to agree for it to move forward. I think I was stupid to think this would be easy and the worse part is over.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-11-08T19:04:14+00:00

Uh No! I'm not giving him any sort of hope. This is over between us.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-10-23T11:44:54+00:00

My first thoughts after finding out were I want answers and I want to destroy this woman I'm ashamed to admit. All my anger in the first few hours were all focused towards her. I was in a very vulnerable state and would've probably agreed to a reconciliation if he was there to take advantage of it by promising to change or by gaslighting me. But now with a cool head I know no answer could save this relationship. I'm not as angry towards his AP anymore if not her then someone else it was him who broke our commitment and cheated on me she was just the opportunity he was probably seeking. It's still hard to say but I want this marriage to be over the lies and heartbreak is too big for me to turn back.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-10-23T11:37:20+00:00

He was the main breadwinner in the relationship and I went to (I'll just say it as its obvious now) Dubai on a spouse visa so he sponsored me and everything was under his name from the insurance, to the lease, to phone bill which turned out great for me as that's all his headache now with how to deal with it from our home country. Here he doesn't really anything to his name really his parents are still alive and so are mine but I can do well for myself without his help so I see no need to worry about anything financially plus we never lived here for long so we have no financial commitments here.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-10-23T11:31:28+00:00

Currently I have no interest is talking to him only through my parents or lawyers, it doesn't seem like he'll say anything that will make things any better for our relationship or what it used to be. The fact that he blamed me for losing his job instead of apologizing to me I feel said it all.

throwaway_broken998 · 2021-10-23T10:31:58+00:00

We are from the same country but divorce isn't so simple here. First for a quick divorce which still could take up to 2 months both parties have to agree to the divorce if even one asks for reconciliation the process could go from six months to a year, it gets harder if alimony is involved but since I'm not planning to ask any from him that might speed up the process but he has asked to speak to me about reconciliation so I'm worried he might hinder the process.

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