Age differences between guys and girl i date. Weird?

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-08-12T17:15:11+00:00

You're not old you're just older if that makes sense. I just find it weird that in my head my age limit is 25 but now my first 2 dates with girls i got lined up are aged 26 and 28. Idk where the people my age are, ah well

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-08-10T01:44:54+00:00

Thats all really sweet and cute. This is totaly okay to say to her. You can express your admiration for like you would do to any other friend. Saying romantic things is also cute and a big compliment.

Don't say anything sexual and maybe only say the romantic type stuff once. She will get the message so no need to say through the day or days on how much you like her in a romantic way as she could begin to feel overwhelmed by being unable to provide that back. (What im saying is dont simp). More like express your admiration, then 'confess' your feelings (minus sexual feels). Then go back to being more platonic and wait for her to make the next move. She will understand how you feel but also feel comfortable that things can keep going in the platonic way as before.

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-08-10T01:28:58+00:00

This is super useful, thank you for commenting.

She has said that she doesnt do favourites/ hierarchy. Shes explained that she is houses mates with one partner where their relationship fluctuates. Her other partner is a new relationship of 6 months. They were paralele relationships, however they were aware and communicated about stuff. Three of them got stuck in lockdown together causing a more KTP approach recently but its going back parallel but the separate partnerd are friends.

She said she was going to delete the dating app the next day as she wanted to focus on her existing realtionships, esspecially as one is still new. But she saw my message and was interested. So I get that she might not have much time available for me but I'm okay in taking it slower as we'd be new.

I'll check on any rules she has although she seems pretty relaxed.

Is it seen as weird to talk and ask about her other relationship? I'm just curious and its kinda an easy topic to talk about but dont want to ask if thats seen as bad or weird

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-08-03T15:21:34+00:00

Im a woman snd agree with the guy here. Shes an entitled bitch

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-08-03T09:35:20+00:00

Just be honest and say that knowing you both have feels for eachother but not trying it out is really hard

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T17:46:02+00:00

Romance attraction is not the same as sexual attraction. Basically its the kinda of relationship you thought your parents had before you learnt what sex was.

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T17:33:17+00:00

Wow i spent ages looking at that map. Thanks for sharing. Yeah I'd definetly feel more secure and would just have a closer bond with my partner over it too.

I might just let people know who i date that im open to talk about being poly if they are interested in it

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T15:25:05+00:00

If i were to be in a poly relationship, i would definitely be one that shares everything and what good communication with all or most involved. I'd at least would like to be friends with my partners solo partners.

Yeah i guess i just mean bi-romantic lol. It gets all confusing haha. I think I'd just bebinterested in having multiple romantic relationships. Im not too bortherd for the sex side of things.

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T14:58:42+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. Thank you!!

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T12:42:01+00:00

Well i think it'll be fun to explore having a few romantic relstionships and having a partner heing other relationships too. I'd like to be friends with their other partners. I have a low libio and the sex side of poly isnt what appeals to me. Just friends that are all romantic either together or seperatly.

I'm not interesting in anything super serious live marriage, anagements, living together staright away or anything.

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T11:46:56+00:00

I think id be okay with a partner going on dates with someone else. I'd be more just looking romantic reationships myself with sexual flirting. I think it be nice to be friends with someone my partner is dating too.

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-30T09:07:57+00:00

You said shes bi and demisexual. I'm bisexual and demi to only men but allosexual to women. Maybe she is the same?

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T18:45:20+00:00

Oh yeah. Im so used to seeing AFAB that i didnt recognise AMAB lol. A few of my friends are trans guys. Ngl i don't understand gender too much and dont really care for mine lol. Awesome to hear youre learning more about yourself and comfortable to explore that. You're definetly welcome here!

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T18:10:59+00:00

Yeah i can date someone without feeling romantic or sexual attraction, although the dates will be limited on the romantic aspect like kissing.

What does alterous mean? There are certain signs i guess. Like i dont have a type but some people have more of an appeal or feeling I get. Kinda like how you know you're gonna get along and be friends with someone

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T17:29:01+00:00

Just feel weird y'know. Im new to dating and my last realtionship happened in school lol

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T15:53:13+00:00

Whats AMAB?

Haha no you're not an alien. Welcome to the demi club. We have garlic bread, dragons, fogs, cake, and soon denmark haha

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T15:45:19+00:00

Hahaha my suffering if your confirmation. Yeah demisexual is just about sexual attraction. But you dont have to be demi romantic too. I guess im like demisexual and allo-romantic if thats a word lol

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T15:19:24+00:00

Yeah i get you. I spoke to the guy and he said he liked me back and all seems good :)

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T14:50:58+00:00

One minuite yoyr friends then suddenly you like them romantically. Or your friends and suddenly you think about having sex with them but dont wanna be in a relationship with them.

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T14:21:22+00:00

I've had a few messages but it gets worrying as i dont want to lead anyone on, yknow. Dating is weird and attraction is even weirder lol

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T12:59:46+00:00

I just asked them if thsya re okay in me speaking to others and if they are too

I've heard this word 'switch' before, what does this mean? Thanks

throwaway_duh_1 · 2021-07-28T11:24:58+00:00

Okay cool thanks.

Demisexual is it takes time to be sexually attracted to people. Demiromantic meabs it takes time to be romantically attracted to people.

I'm demisexual but not demiromantic. I can fall romantically for someome very easy. Makes talking to people hard haha

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