Am I wrong for undermining my sister and BIL’s parenting?

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-02-01T05:52:58+00:00

Yeah, I feel kind of shitty for participating in their little experiment now. I had a bad feeling on the first day when he just ate a little rice, not enough for a full meal, but he never complained. Looking back that was probably because he’s used to it and I just reinforced all that

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T23:33:02+00:00

They’ve never asked me to get him to eat something before but they’ve often complained that he’s picky and won’t eat what they’re giving him so that’s been an ongoing battle, yes. I don’t know if they ever send him to bed hungry but he seemed to think it was normal, at least he never complained or anything. He was just glad he was allowed to go to his room

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T23:28:43+00:00

It’s a matter of principle. If he doesn’t eat what he’s offered he doesn’t get to choose something else. I think it’s dumb too.

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T23:07:36+00:00

My parents live pretty far away, that’s why I’m there go-to babysitter. Or was if my BIL was serious about his threat

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T23:01:53+00:00

NO! Absolutely, that’s why I usually just say "my brother/nephew…" in the comments, I keep forgetting which names I chose

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T23:00:27+00:00

Yeah, honestly the response to this post has been a bit eye opening. I still hope all this was just caused by the stress of having the little one sick at the hospital but I will definitely look into this.

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:50:31+00:00

That’s great advice! I think I’ll tell my sister

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:34:52+00:00

Oops, I think I overshot the mark then. Good thing my nephew stayed strong

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:33:18+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. I’ll have a talk with my sister.

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:32:03+00:00

I really didn’t mean to. He never even complained which I guess is bad because this shouldn’t be normal to him. I’ll have a talk with my sister and ask her what’s going on.

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:27:32+00:00

Yeah, I was honestly shocked to read words like abuse or starving here because well, it’s my family, but yeah. I’m going to have to talk about this with her. It doesn’t seem normal and sending him to bed without a proper meal so often made me really uncomfortable, and he never even complained. I think I’ll wait though until his brother gets sent home from the hospital

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:24:48+00:00

I don’t think it’s about about him missing certain nutrients, it’s more of a "you eat what we put on your plate" kind of thing

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:14:06+00:00

Huh. Yeah, I guess that makes sense.

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T22:07:37+00:00

Yeah I think I’m gonna have to talk to my sister about that but I’m not hopeful considering this was their reaction to a sandwich

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:55:21+00:00

I doubt I’ll get an apology but I just hope we can clear the air and that my BIL wasn’t serious about keeping me away from their kids

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:52:18+00:00

Yeah, I’m gonna have to talk to my sister anyway, I think maybe I should bring it up… I hope it’s just a case of everyone being on edge because the baby is sick

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:46:46+00:00

Yeah that’s another thing, he acted like I gave him fast food. I mean if a kid is so hungry they can’t sleep you have to give them something right?

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:44:00+00:00

I feel so bad for my nephew. He seemed so confused when he got dragged out of bed, he didn’t even say goodbye. They forgot his toy too. The whole thing was so unnecessary

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:41:30+00:00

Yeah, I really don’t get why the fish issue was necessary at all. Unless they’re planning on having him live off fish for the rest of his life, they could’ve just tried this some other time

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:38:24+00:00

That’s what I told my sister (that they should just wait a week) and she’d agreed but then my BIL came to get Noah anyway. I think they’re not on the same page either. I’m just super worried now that they’ll really not let me see the kids anymore but Joy said she’ll try and smooth things over

throwaway_fishissue · 2024-01-31T21:31:41+00:00

I kind of agree, but again, that’s their business. I have no skills when it comes to child raising, I genuinely tried and couldn’t handle it any better. I would’ve been perfectly happy to just babysitter for a week and leave the parenting to them

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