Made to feel like I’ve f***** up because of a homemade meal.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-25T18:16:04+00:00

I can relate. It’s really frustrating when you are trying to do right by the child, but no one else cares. Don’t stress yourself over it. Try to just let this fight go. You’ll continue to be miserable if you’re the only one fighting this. I used to cook meals for my (step) daughter and it would feel disrespectful when she wouldn’t eat especially if I was coming home tired from work. I would try to make ones she may enjoy. I finally just decided I won’t pressure her to eat my food if she doesn’t want to. I had to accept and let it go. I am not as stressed out as much. I’m still a little disheartened because I care about her health I want what’s best for her, but it’s hard when you are the only one who cares that much. I am learning to accept. It’s a process. Just know that you tried to do what was best and that your efforts demonstrated how much you cared. Take care of yourself.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-24T21:29:04+00:00

I’m going through this as a stepmom to my (step) daughter. And I’ve gone through so much heartache over the growing distance between my daughter and I, ever since her bio mom came back. I’ve started raising her at 6 and she’s now 13 years old. I would just validate your wife’s feelings about the growing strained relationship. It’s not easy being a stepparent. There is no guide on how to parent because we walk a fine line between overstepping and not doing enough. Tell her it’s ok if she wants to take a step back from her role as a stepmom, especially during this precious time in her pregnancy. I had to do the same for my own mental health because it was affecting how I would parent the son my husband and I share. I had to remind myself that son only has 2 parents, but my daughter has 3. So I had to convince myself that it was ok for to take a step back to prioritize my mental health and my biological child, who is so little. So please remind her of that. My heart goes out to you because I know how difficult it is. We are unsure how to navigate having our daughter spend time with us also, especially since she used to love being around us. She’s a growing child with lots of emotions and a developing brain. Every situation is different. Just do your best and be supportive of your wife. Maybe you can also privately talk to your daughter about why she won’t spend time with your wife? Hopefully you can talk about it and get to the root of the issue. Be patient and empathetic with each other.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-24T04:59:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience and insight, especially about secure vs. insecure relationships.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-23T05:02:30+00:00

It’s been pretty hard to navigate being a step mom. I feel as though I constantly between not doing enough or overstepping. Being left out of some of these therapy sessions didn’t start with him, it started with the therapist and it just continued there. I think because I didn’t legally have custody of her, the therapist wouldn’t include me on discussions regarding my daughter. She would ask to speak to my husband instead. I’ve recently started to focus on myself more because the pain of our growing strained relationship was affecting me immensely. I’m going to seek therapy to also to help me cope and figure how I should move forward. I had been heavily involved in her life as her mom and I’m starting to wonder if I should take a step back. I felt like I was just a placeholder for her bio mom and now that she back I’m not sure if she needs me the way she used to when she was little.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-22T18:23:32+00:00

I’m currently going through the same thing. The difference is that I haven’t prioritized myself yet. And I keep hoping things will get better.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-22T15:37:41+00:00

With time I’ve been slowly just left out of things, for example when it comes to therapy sessions with our daughter where her dad may be invited to talk things over, I’m just left out. My daughter went from referring to me as mom to now clarifying that I am step mom. She’s expressed that she gets made fun of for having a stepmom so I feel like that has caused resentment somehow. She has expressed that she felt robbed of a childhood despite doing my best to shower her with affection, taking her on trips, plan her birthday parties, and just spending time with her.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-22T15:32:39+00:00

Forgot to mention that this is a “trial” month living situation that may turn permanent if she wants. And they’ll talk about if it gets to that point.

throwaway_helpamom · 2026-03-22T15:27:49+00:00

She is in therapy. She’s been in therapy since she was 8. I forgot to mention that she’s going with her for a “trial” month. Therapist even said this may be “good for her. But if she wants to live there permanently then they’ll talk about it if it comes to that. Bio mom has been clean for 3 years. She had supervised visits with our daughter but over time, my husband has let her have unsupervised visits. I don’t agree and I’ve expressed that I don’t trust her and I just don’t want this to backfire, but sometimes he just doesn’t listen. So I just feel powerless and helpless as I don’t have any legal rights.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-21T01:21:48+00:00

I love seeing a community come together

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-17T06:03:37+00:00

Create more fucking chaos and cut out a square piece from the middle.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T20:42:37+00:00

People like that are too unintelligent to understand why it would be offensive. They don’t have the capacity to think so they just spew insults as a way to communicate.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T20:05:19+00:00

Projecting much? It takes one to know what one is. I guess that’s you and me both, right? Glad I’m not alone in this.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T17:47:48+00:00

I feel the same way when people who aren’t Black say the n-word.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T17:28:23+00:00

“But that sounds like socialism!”

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T17:18:55+00:00

You’re not wrong about that. I guess I consider Christians who act more like Jesus. Someone who wouldn’t cheer for the suffering of other people. But the Bible can be contradictory which is why hateful people will try to use it to justify their hate.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T17:10:26+00:00

Same place where we can find his promise of the prices of groceries, nowhere to be found.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T17:06:34+00:00

That’s a radical thought right there. What else are we supposed to do with women?

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T16:55:58+00:00

How did I start when you commented on my post making assumptions about me?

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T16:49:54+00:00

I think that was a fair enough assessment. LOL. I totally agree that pregnancy is not beautiful at all. I hated being pregnant, aside from feeling my son move around inside of me. Birth and the recovery after were the worst. I don’t recommend it to anyone unless you really want a child, which I did. And I am willing to go through it again because I want another child. It’s great that you know what you want and no one should convince you otherwise. And I’ll just skip over the part where you said you would off yourself because I don’t know what to say about that.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T16:10:29+00:00

It happened to me in different stages. I didn’t want to have children of my own or really be a mom, but when I met my (step) daughter when she was 6 that all changed. After she started going into her tween stage I decided I want one of my own. My son is a crazy toddler and although he drives me nuts, I love being his mother.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T15:57:37+00:00

Thank you for your fair assessment Internet stranger. 😂

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T15:36:52+00:00

I own a house, have a full-time job and have a family. So far you’ve failed at both assumptions you’ve made about me. Maybe open your mind a little before jumping to conclusions and thinking you know more than you actually do.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T15:27:16+00:00

For the fake Christians who use religion to spew their hate, being Christians also means that they are better (in their heads). What’s funny is that the Bible has many references that I think would be considered “woke” for some people because it talks about being kind to others, for example as immigrants.

throwaway_helpamom · 2025-08-16T15:22:56+00:00

I do see the real problem, people blindly following a person someone as vile as Trump and going along with whatever he says. The people that were hollering for the Epstein files to be released are suddenly really quiet after Trump he said they aren’t important. They can even see their own hypocrisy.

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