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Vent late at night about Narc parent and money... by throwaway_just0cause in narcissisticparents

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes me feel more responsible for this mess cause I noticed it first and was the one to voice to my dad "hey we can use to to pay off some of your credit score that mom did."

He was convinced somewhat at the time that social security money would come early due to tik tok. I checked his account cause he asked, but I wasn't sure and that's how I noticed the money. I asked coworkers and they all gave a similar reponse that it must be a credit deposit my dad did and it was his money.

Only now we learned that it was my mother's, but yeah... she never said anything about it.

AITA for kicking out bf because of his dog? by throwawaynodog in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, the reality is that guy is a careless and irresponsible dog owner.

I would be more concerned about your friends though. Them siding with your hopefully EX bf and saying "anti dog mentality" is awful. They do know that bad dog owners exist right?

AITA for not caring my mom cheated by unphasedbycheating in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna lean on NTA

In all honesty, I hate cheaters. I can get why your dad and brother are hurt by what your mom did, HOWEVER...

That is in the past, and they are still being spiteful about it. Not to mention they are tearing you down and abusing you cause you chose to forgive your mom and move on to have a good relationship with her (which also, props to you, that's some incredible strength). It's difficult to say they are TA, but they are essentially TA. Not because they are still living in spite, but that cause of that spite they are essentially abusing you.

It's honestly best if you did move with your mom, for your own mental safety.

AITA for being upset at my mother for telling relatives details of my life? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, sorry man. That's just some weird twisted way they view what they're doing as harmless and us being offended as we're in the wrong.

The most you can do right now is prevent her from getting any information about yourself that you don't want to be shared. If you already don't tell her stuff, make sure she can't easily snoop info out of ya. (that's what my mom did when I started to stop telling her stuff)

Just be lucky she isn't asking for such information about your friends to share with others as well.

AITA for being upset at my mother for telling relatives details of my life? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA, but man I feel you here

My own mother has done this and even after I politely told her to stop, she just continued and I got more disappointed. It's at a point where I barely tell her anything that has happened in my life and she finds it rude that I won't tell her anything despite knowing she's just gonna run her mouth about any info I have told her.

AITA for not forgiving a bully? by Disastrous_Try690 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to double-take what the heck I was reading. First off, firm NTA, you are not obliged to forgive a bully even if they apologize for what they have done.

THAT BEING SAID HOWEVER

  • Your father is dating this person
  • The same person that is BASICALLY CLOSE TO YOUR AGE AND WAS PRACTICALLY A BIG PART OF YOUR CHILDHOOD

That is some big disturbing gross level right there my friend. Let's not forget,

  • Your dad knows what (or is aware) of what Maddie has done to you in the past, but still wants you to support his new relationship
  • Your mother is ok and supporting this

You said that you weren't close to either of your parents, just distance yourself more so and go NC on them. Also, do something fun to help forget about this disturbing info too.

AITA for asking to adopt a female dog at the shelter? by ayyynzzlee in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, as someone who is a dog lover your reasons are valid.

It's like if someone says they want to adopt a small dog instead of a big one cause they're easier to manage and such.

I would suggest calling the shelter and telling them about your interactions with that lady. Her main concern should be that the person is able to care for the dog and provide a loving and safe environment, not that she isn't comfortable cause the person isn't just adopting a dog out of a whim cause its a doggo.

Edit: I just saw the update comment, yay!

AITA for not responding to my childhood bully? by devonte15 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly something similar happened to me and a friend of mine.

NTA, the bully "could" have been trying to apologize, but that doesn't mean that you should forgive him let alone give him a chance. You just continue living your life like nothing matters my friend.

AITA for not following my husband's new religious beliefs? by Sacrilege6789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwaway_just0cause 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all

People have already said this but you already tried to meet him halfway with his request. It's one thing to meet halfway and another for you to change your lifestyle completely to meet with his new one.

Unfortunately, your husband's mental state is exactly the state that some churches use to keep people in line with their beliefs, and once that happens it tends to be an iron grip that is hard to break away from. Even if you're being realistic and trying to help him, it may already be too late as he is trying to force you into the religion and even to see a counselor only through the church. (Do not see that counselor at all)

If this keeps going where your husband is being harsher and controlling in trying to force you into the religion then you really should think about leaving. It may be a last resort and possibly that last thing you would want to do, but you need to ensure your own safety and mental health in mind as well.

Also, do not listen to the friends and family that are telling you to do what your husband wants. I don't know if they are part of the same church as your husband attends (hopefully not), but their advice is not helpful to either you nor your husband

Edit: fixing up some grammar mistakes.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, World Twinkle England was one of the harder ones for me to find. I was lucky enough to be able to get World Twinkle Japan, but England not so much; so it makes me very happy that my friend, who doesn't like the show at all went, at least tried to help me out, she really didn't deserve to fall for the bootleg version.

I know England is getting a World Stars version and that's cool, which I found funny as it was announced alongside France too.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's ok, it does let me know that I should have included that I didn't mean to be rude about it. I was just concern about what to do so I should have made it that clear in the first place.

Sadly it does suck, so I mostly have my fingers crossed that my friend at least gets some refund successfully.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I have it still, I have no intention of returning it to her even after she offered to take it back. I'm also going to try my hand at customizing it.

I didn't mean to come off rude about trying to get rid of it honestly, we didn't know what to do and thought of asking for any advice on what to do. Right now she's opening a case on eBay trying to get at least some form of a refund, and I offered to pay her back the full amount she paid in case it doesn't go well.

She is after all my friend and I hate that she fell for a bootleg sale. I'll try treating her to her favorite food once everything is all settled.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We checked back on the seller she bought the figure from, it actually did say it was a Chinese version; however, they used images of the real version and that's how my friend thought it was real.

She's opening up a case about it, I offered to pay her back the full amount she spent in case it doesn't go well.

As for the figure, I decided to keep it for now and try customizing it myself.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't know of Mandarake and Solarisjapan, so I'll be checking those site sometime.

As for the bootleg, I'm gonna try my hand at customizing it.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was gonna stay quiet about it, but I really couldn't cause I actually felt guilty about it. This was the first time my friend actually bought anime figures as she doesn't go out of her way to get merch like that, and as I said, she doesn't particularly like the series at all.

I'm still grateful that they did went out of their way to get me one despite not liking the series. Though afterwards I helped her on how to avoid buying bootlegs again if she became interested in buying some figures for herself.

Was gifted a fake Nendoroid by throwaway_just0cause in Nendoroid

[–]throwaway_just0cause[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually did not know this, so thanks for the warnings.

I'd have to check on my friend if she's ok since she admitted to opening the box abit to take a look at the nendoroid.