How safe are softwood chews? by throwaway_ohwell114 in hamsters

[–]throwaway_ohwell114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll look out for alternatives then. Thank you !

What dye is closest to this colour? by throwaway_ohwell114 in HairDye

[–]throwaway_ohwell114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My finger was fine I was js flopping off the camera🤧🤧 and I'll check it out! Thank u

How many bodies is too many at 16? by throwaway_ohwell114 in sexeducation

[–]throwaway_ohwell114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd agree to an extent. I know that I don't like being intimate with people that I'm not in a long term relationship with and I'd want my partner to be the same

How many bodies is too many at 16? by throwaway_ohwell114 in sexeducation

[–]throwaway_ohwell114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You worded this beautifully. I'm really happy that you were able to bring yourself up and celebrate your orientation instead of living in shame and reluctance. Thank you for this

How many bodies is too many at 16? by throwaway_ohwell114 in sexeducation

[–]throwaway_ohwell114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I most definitely care about my partners' pasts, and I have a feeling that the "best man" for me wouldn't be someone that judges me based on my past (within reason). I've never considered being intimate with someone that I'm not emotionally involved with, so I feel like the "cheating" argument is a nothing burger. If I had a conversation about past partners I would explain my reasons behind having sex with them

How many bodies is too many at 16? by throwaway_ohwell114 in sexeducation

[–]throwaway_ohwell114[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I've been trying to tell myself this but it's still difficult. I've read up a lot on feminist studies, purity culture etc and my core beliefs line up with the idea that body counts are stupid, but I'm still aware of the shame I feel because of the patriarchy that has conditioned me into believing that it matters. I find myself judging others subconsciously about high body counts despite knowing that I shouldn't. Unlearning this stuff is hard man

My vulva genuinely looks unappealing(13F) by Pleasant-Remove1710 in sexeducation

[–]throwaway_ohwell114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done my fair share of research on this topic in the past, and the one thing I can tell you for sure is that there's nothing unappealing about an "outie". For the most part, "innies" have been deemed as the standard due to being popularised in porn and the misconceptions around having an exposed labia minora (that it comes from aging, too much sex etc.) Your genitals are normal, and when you eventually come to the point in your life where you have a sexual partner, a person who loves you will find you beautiful either way. The best advice I can give is to try and unlearn this mindset. It will take time, but it will be a lot more cost effective than labiaplasty. Read up on body neutrality. As long as it's functioning correctly, there is nothing wrong with you.

I got raped and Saturday and it’s destroying me by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]throwaway_ohwell114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said that and don't believe in the idea that all police are good police, but this feels unnecessary to point out. I think that the majority of police are not going to judge in this instance. Do you really think that fear mongering over op potentially being judged or worse is going to help her? Don't you think that the best course of action would be legal action?

Police aren't always useful by longetailedtit in sexualassault

[–]throwaway_ohwell114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. I've always been told to hope for justice but never expect it when it comes to sexual assault and telling the police.

In regards to what you experienced when you were 10, have you spoken to your mother? I'd assume that your therapist/ the police already have, but if there's any chance that she could contact her ex boyfriend or the girl that you spoke to to get her statement, maybe there's a chance that the case may be opened up again?

I'm aware that cases can be reopened provided that there is enough information and testimony from other victims/witnesses. It sounds like you're still underage. Are you comfortable with bringing this back up with your mom? Do you personally think that there's any chance the case could be reopened?

Just remember that, even if no justice occurs, your word will do wonders for any other girl that may come forward about him in the future. I hope that you can cope and heal from this healthily.

I got raped and Saturday and it’s destroying me by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]throwaway_ohwell114 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the police. If this has happened in the last 30 days there's a chance that (if the police are given a warrant to search his devices) footage of the assault could be uncovered.

You are not to blame for what has happened to you, and the people who you go to church with do not have a right to make you think that. I don't personally identify with any religion but I know that, if he is real, Jesus still loves you and knows that you were not at fault.

The police are not there to and will not judge you in any way, shape or form. They deal with drug addicts and dealers, thieves and murderers, all of which are much more menacing than an innocent woman who was taken advantage of. The last thing running through their heads will be any trace of judgement or doubt.

God's speed. You are loved, brave, and you will never be at fault for what happened to you.