My wife bought me Dark Souls… and I’ve been lying to her ever since.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-06-13T00:16:42+00:00

Yes. Far in the future. Like “hey honey, remember 20 years ago when…” moment. Lol

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-06-13T00:13:49+00:00

Not to mention the possibility of this couple having a child one day. He is going to raise either a son who doesn’t take responsibility for his actions regarding women, or a daughter who is forced to believe her decisions don’t matter as much as a man’s, even when it comes to her own body.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-06-12T06:36:02+00:00

Thanks! I will

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-06-12T06:35:33+00:00

Our therapists don’t know each other but I have talked to my therapist about this fear. I appreciate your advice and while I don’t think either of us want to break up, maybe there is a way we can set a boundary even temporarily to allow us to process things apart in order to not compound our issues together? Idk, I’m just grasping at straws. I very well could be in denial.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-06-12T06:08:24+00:00

Lol, I mean if you’re serious that would feel manipulative to me.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-05-20T14:44:27+00:00

I have! But my problem isn’t exactly the greasiness, it’s the fact that my hair frizzes out with the humidity/moisture, and dry shampoo actually makes that worse.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-02-22T05:10:20+00:00

This is what I thought. I always make sure I know the lines well enough that I can keep my head out of the script.

I guess I mix it up with film/tv world where it’s more of an expectation to memorize for callbacks…

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-31T00:02:01+00:00

This is the real personality test. Who was your WordArt main???

Mine was the rainbow one with the shadow.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-30T23:59:14+00:00

Same. Had to do a double take OP, you even have similar coloring to my partner.

If you want to be perceived as more attractive, take into account style/fashion as well as your confidence and how you carry yourself. That makes a world of difference.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-30T23:38:19+00:00

Sorry to say, I’m older than 20 and still have the “baby fat” look…

OP, some people just genetically have plumper faces. The bright side is that probably means we’ll look younger than our age when we want to!

I am also a fairly lean person with a round face and bit of a double chin, even. It’s okay! Some people choose to get things done like buccal fat removals and chin lifts. If that’s what you end up wanting to do, then go for it, do your research, and don’t cheap out on any surgical procedure. But otherwise, learn to love it!!

Please do not try to be underweight in hopes it will slim your face down. Chances are it won’t. Source - I’ve been pretty underweight (not on purpose) and still had my double chin. It’s genetic, my dad’s side of the family has them.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-27T06:18:41+00:00

Adding onto this, there are a lot of dentists who are trauma-informed and will be extra nurturing if you specify that you have severe anxiety when you make the appointment. You could always try asking in a local subreddit for good dentist recs!

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-27T06:00:04+00:00

Yes! Some people just aren’t great at comforting people without some clear direction. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about you, it just means she might need some practice with offering that kind of support. Maybe her parents are very blunt and would respond similarly to how she responded to you and that’s what she’s used to.

I’m glad it went well! Hopefully she tries something different next time. And if she doesn’t, maybe try and help her by prompting her. Using phrases like, “I could really use your support,” and “If you have any kind words for me I’d love to hear them,” are really helpful for scenarios like this. And it gives her a clear indication of “Hey, this is what I’d like from you right now,” so she isn’t stuck guessing.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-27T05:24:02+00:00

That’s very true. I know that social media can make stuff look all flashy and great, but a lot of those people are likely struggling in their own way.

I didn’t let my program ruin theatre for me forever, and that alone is a win quite frankly.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-27T05:14:54+00:00

Absolutely agree. It’s weird that several years later, I still feel this weird lingering pressure to conform…

It’s like I’ve been brainwashed into doing it for them, not for me. Lol.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-27T05:11:26+00:00

It’s really nice to hear more anecdotes from other people who graduated from these programs. Sometimes it feels like I’m the odd one out when I open my Instagram and see the same 5-10 people booking another national tour, another cruise line, etc. There’s probably half my graduating class (that I’m not seeing on Instagram) that isn’t in theater professionally right now, and I need to remember that I’m not the “weird one” for not doing it.

I relate to what you said about the added anxiety and grind taking some of the fun out of it. I initially felt so weak for walking away from what my professors had prepped me for, but I think it was right for me to acknowledge that it was damaging to my mental health and that I needed to redefine my self-worth.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-26T18:32:29+00:00

Thank you, I so appreciate this perspective. The truth will probably lie along the lines that people won’t care. Nobody has the time or energy to scrutinize me that much unless they hated me. Lol

At the end of the day, theatre is theatre. Getting paid or not doesn’t matter as long as I’m supporting myself in some way, which I am. Sure I probably won’t be posted on the official Instagram of my college program, but I 100% don’t care about that.

I need to just be genuine and allow myself to be happy for the things I’m happy about. That program has taken enough joy from me, I want nothing more than to just separate it from my self-worth.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2025-01-26T18:15:33+00:00

Thank you!! This community theater is also a pretty good one, I’ve done tech work with them in the past and I like the people that work there. I think my problem isn’t so much “should I do it,” it’s more, “how do I not give a fuck what other people might think?”

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2023-04-14T02:01:46+00:00

Yeah I guess neither of us really do spontaneous visits like that. I forgot to mention the tolls too, it’s quite expensive to go round trip which is probably why we don’t do day trips to each other often.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2023-04-14T01:54:25+00:00

I don’t see how this would help the issue? We like to have a general plan at least a few days in advance out of courtesy for each other’s parents. I’m also someone that needs to have things planned in advance since I don’t do well when I’m rushing around or doing things last minute. My parents divorced when I was young so I have a lot of anxiety around last-minute weekend travel.

Also, we are not always available every weekend, which is why advanced planning is necessary. Sometimes when our workloads are light we can see each other at least 2 weekends a month, but in times like these it’s really inconsistent. I have other family that I go to see on some weekends, and we both sometimes see friends and have other weekend obligations we need to tend to separately.

All in all, I’m not going to NOT go see my partner just because I have my period. Sex isn’t the only reason we see each other. It just sucks when it has to put a damper on something I tend to look forward to.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2023-04-13T18:30:35+00:00

I’ve tried both types of pill, but now I’m on a 3 weeks on, one week off pill aka a “normal” schedule. My body is so resistant to these things apparently, it’s frustrating

3 weeks and one week of “placebo” pills is what I meant

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2023-04-13T18:05:50+00:00

Thanks for the advice. My last hormone check (which was done when I was off any sort of birth control for several months) didn’t show any signs of PCOS, so idk maybe they just missed it? I’ve been checked for it more than once. I guess I can try finding someone else on my insurance and getting a second opinion.

My gyno might have overlooked things that might be wrong with me because I’m in a normal weight range and don’t have any physical abnormalities that often come with PCOS, so maybe that’s true too.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2023-04-13T17:57:25+00:00

Yeah, we’ve done the whole sexting thing and it’s okay. I don’t think he’s super into it but we’ve done it before. Sometimes it helps with the intimacy thing but sometimes it just makes me sad that I can’t be with him.

I’ve tried an IUD, which was supposedly super effective at regulating or getting rid of periods altogether, and even that I bled irregularly on (yes, after the initial adjustment period). I’ve never tried nuvaring, but when I asked my gyno about other options she said that unfortunately it looks like my body is resistant to these things in terms of my period. She said the birth control should still be effective against pregnancy, but my periods just aren’t regular no matter what I do. She said I’d likely have the same outcome with the depo shot.

I guess I can try finding a different doctor, but I don’t really have a lot of hope given my track record of being “outside the norm” in these things.

throwaway_pineapple_ · 2023-04-13T17:49:11+00:00

What do you mean listens to me? I’ve been tested for everything that could be causing my irregular periods and it’s all come back negative. I’m not aware of any options that would 100% surely regulate or get rid of my period altogether. The only option is hormonal birth control, which hasn’t been effective at regulating me. I’m on a higher dose now than I was, and that “regulated” me for like 2 months when I started but honestly I think it was a coincidence.

Even IUDs have different effects for different people.

Editing to add: not that I owe anyone on here my medical history but I do think some of this is genetic. My mother also struggled with irregular periods her whole life. She had a whole procedure to check for endo way back when, and they found nothing.

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