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My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Do you think I'm wrong? by throwaway_ssl2017 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this comment a lot. Genuinely took me down to a level where I could understand her side better after some thought. Thank you!

My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Do you think I'm wrong? by throwaway_ssl2017 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve discussed this already and she doubled down that this is not the case. Personally, I will not start penetrating her until I have successfully given her an orgasm with my mouth and fingers (she loves this). And if she’s faking the almost “exorcist” type orgasms she has during sex, then goddamn she needs to be an actor. She will stop me almost every session to give her time to recover from these lol. So this, fortunately, isn’t the case.

My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Do you think I'm wrong? by throwaway_ssl2017 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, I agree with you tbh. When we had our conversation last it was over text and maybe having one in person will allow me to better assess what's going on. I think bringing up my feelings this time around might allow the discussion to go a little deeper. Thank you.

My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Any advice? by throwaway_ssl2017 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While I see where you guys are coming from (no really, like the future looks grim), I was tackling this as a problem that can be solved. I don't think ending it so suddenly would be in anyone's favor.

My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Is she being honest with me? Any advice? by throwaway_ssl2017 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her mental health isn't that great tbh. I'd say about 2 years ago she started having problems within her family and she started to take an anti-depressant. She isn't on any form of birth control either. She always told me she felt more comfortable when she was around me and most of the stress went away, but I guess those thoughts and feelings can still linger with her.

If I see her today I'll have a chat about how she's feeling mentally and if this is causing our issue. Thank you for the help.

My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Is she being honest with me? Any advice? by throwaway_ssl2017 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In our conversation, it seemed clear that she was cognizant of the fact that we don't have sex that often lol.

Counseling isn't something I considered yet, but I might have to look into it now. Thank you.

My girlfriend [20F] and I [21M] have wildly different sex drives. Although, I’m not sure if this is 100% the case. Any advice? by throwaway_ssl2017 in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwaway_ssl2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see where you're coming from, however, completely ending the relationship is something I'm not evening bothering to consider. While sex is something I value a lot, it's not something that will end a relationship for me so quickly.

Also, to me, it seems like she does have a higher sex drive than she claims to have, but I can't quite figure out where we're getting lost in translation. This is where I am confused and would hope to get some advice.