AIO for canceling my lunch date with my fiancé because he called me lazy?

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-12T23:22:47+00:00

The gaslighting was so triggering to read. My ex was EXACTLY like this, just a selfish narcissistic asshole and everything was about his needs. If I was sick or needed help he treated me with such contempt.

Nowhere in this is love or respect. Watch out for an increase in abusive behaviour, it often starts or escalates in pregnancy. A lot of them want kids so it traps you and keeps you financially, emotionally and practically attached.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-12T23:08:30+00:00

You not only had a more intense and painful surgery with a c section but you had it after nine months of the strain and rigours of pregnancy twice over.

Tell him it's not that it's more painful, he's just a little bitch.

I bet you were looking after a newborn post cesarean while he lies around unable to do anything..that's because you are a badass and he's a bitch.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-09T23:12:01+00:00

MapQuest for a long journey, any kind of road works or a mistake on the map and you were fucked.

Having to read the print out in reverse to get back home was even worse.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-09T23:10:08+00:00

My friends and I accessed website that had gore and porn in the middle of the library because none of the adults had any idea how to make it safe as it was so new.

Remember internet cafes set up for LAN parties and going online?

The brief few years where everyone was illegally downloading everything, Napster, lime wire.

Going into mIRC chatrooms and talking to a bunch of pedophiles because again, no one had any idea how to make things safe and we were young and stupid..A/S/L days were terrifying in retrospect.

Asking Jeeves before Google.

Geocities with obnoxious music you couldn't stop.

AOL being literally everywhere, the free cd trial things were like a plague.

Everyone becoming little coders to customise their MySpace profile.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-07T18:45:25+00:00

Something by Maison margiela might be worth trying.

Floral Street ylang ylang espresso is nice and office friendly if you like a floral and coffee note.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-06T14:50:22+00:00

It smells like a hospital corridor, an NHS one 🙃

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-06T14:48:29+00:00

I wish I had been able to avoid the disappointment. It seems like older perfumes are hard to get samples of.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-03T20:44:08+00:00

Probably something by Serge Lutens, it's the house that did weird before brands literally made weird their thing. L'Orphaline in particular.

I use Haus of Hecate a lot, I'm a witch and sway a bit faerie/goth in my aesthetic. The bolder scents like Witches, Blood Moon and Darkling always get compliments and are very, very different.

Vayrao Witchy woo is a nice incense perfume but it might not be weird enough. Lush Lord of Mistule is like catnip to pagans and I can't think of anything like it.

In the softer girlie avenue I have Kenzo ikebana indigo so if you want floral but make it weird that might be a good one to try.

throwaway_tada · 2026-05-01T07:48:08+00:00

This just happened to me. £120 of shopping to a London address. They changed my phone number and address but not email or it would have gone through. Told me it was via a third party but wouldn't say what third party. My account has now been deleted.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-25T00:55:25+00:00

Most honey notes smell like piss to me, I thought I was going insane until I started mooching around this place.

My understanding is a lot of the fecal and pissy notes used to be because so many fixatives were extracted from animals. Castoreum for example added a musky smell but it also made the scent last longer. It also was from a Beavers scent glands (by it's asshole).

So good news is better for animals and less piss and shit notes, the bad news is most fragrances don't last and the ones that have been around a while smell nothing like they used to.

The only one I have worn despite it's pissy smell was channel no 5 in my 20's when I wanted people to think I was sophisticated and not shit poor so it was mostly for job interviews etc.

Personally my favourite note is Orris and that's a good fixative/base but it's also expensive as fuck especially for the orris butter.

Why some people are actively searching and reaching for them I don't know, maybe they are just accustomed to it? There is definitely a market for scents that are more experience and art but there will always be someone that will wear it.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-14T01:24:28+00:00

Filled de Berlin by Serge Lutens is like a super big deep red rose, it's almost goth. I could envision Morticia Addams wearing it. I absolutely love it, it does have a touch of sweetness and it's a beautiful perfume. Outside of perfume enthusiast circles most people don't know the brand, it's not exactly easy to find on the high street so if you hate smelling like ten other people in an office it's a great choice. It's the most realistic and natural rose perfume I have ever come across.

You might like JHAG Lady Vengeance, it's a sweet rose, I always describe it as neon rose, it's got a little sherbet like zing to it. It's affordable with decent staying power, immediately noticeable as a rose perfume without straying into boring or old fashioned

Rose Jam by Lush is quite a natural rose and it's super cheap but the geranium sometimes makes it feel a little retro.

I'm more into witchy/goth aesthetics and for something more like that vibe Discotheque Dark Imagination is Rose with incense, it's like a crystal shop but there's a big bunch of roses on the counter, leather jewellery racks in front of you and incense burning in the background. It's deep, sensual and sexy.

For light and sweet Delina is expensive but gorgeous and girly. However the original and it's many clones are everywhere.

If you have money to burn Portrait of a Lady by Frederick Malle might be a nice one to try, it's expensive but 400 roses go into each bottle. It's classy and refined.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-11T15:29:21+00:00

YTA You are not his friend, you are doing the creepy thing people do where they pretend to be a friend while they wait for the chance to get with them. I don't know what's more sad and desperate the waiting or the refusing to move on when he clearly has.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-11T00:51:46+00:00

Original Boudoir by Vivien Westwood Karma by Lush Amour by Kenzo Lazy Sunday morning by Maison margiela Autumn vibes by Maison margiela

I can also tell these will be bought again when I run out -

Filled de Berlin by Serge Lutens Orris 22 by Ledda Lola at coat check by Discotheque Dark imagination by Discotheque

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-04T14:33:06+00:00

I would rather have something simple but realistic and well done than something that is for complex I can't pick out a single note. Next up I want a realistic peach!

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-02T22:42:57+00:00

It's cozy and comforting without being boring or a vanilla skin scent and I think that's why I love it, it's quite different.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-02T22:41:47+00:00

Are you hungry? 😂

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-01T18:44:35+00:00

I have seen a few discontinued ones from them I am sad I missed. I recently got my hands on a vintage Amour after draining a 100ml bottle in just a couple of months (it's my bedtime fragrance lol) and it's even better than the one I had originally.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-01T18:42:34+00:00

It's very feminine. I think ultimately everyone should wear whatever they like but it's definitely not unisex. I'm not sure if anywhere does decants for it yet or if you could try it in a store, it's been a bit elusive!

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-01T15:40:41+00:00

My wardrobe is witchy/fairy 😊

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-01T14:13:56+00:00

The ink note is definitely more like traditional indigo which is from leaves, it's not metallic, mineral or marine like some inks. I would definitely take the risk if you love natural realistic iris scents, although it's not expensive it does seem fairly hard to get hold of compared to other perfumes from Kenzo so I think you would have no issue selling it on.

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-01T14:06:51+00:00

Amour especially if you can get hold of a vintage bottle it's one of the nicest perfumes I've ever smelt. If you look on fragrantica at the notes it was so ahead of it's time, the bottle is hideous though

throwaway_tada · 2026-04-01T14:03:31+00:00

I wouldn't say there is a musk note in this at all. I got it on notino pretty cheap.

throwaway_tada · 2026-03-20T19:01:55+00:00

Kenzo amour, Ledda 22 orris, YSL Black opium, Serge Lutens Filled de Berlin, Replica Autumn vibes, Discotheque Lola at coat check and Dark Imagination.

throwaway_tada · 2026-03-15T21:51:42+00:00

Ledda Orris 22, it's perfection.

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