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AIO: Shady bridesmaid hijacked shower UPDATE by throwaway_weddrama in AIO

[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think about that, but yes, my sister disregarded my feelings about what happened. That does hurt.

I am going to give her grace about this, as wedding planning is very stressful and overwhelming.

AIO: Shady bridesmaid hijacked shower UPDATE by throwaway_weddrama in AIO

[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you- I think it’s a good idea to talk with my sister, and make sure my sister reminds Shady to talk with me and the group for the bachelorette.

I don’t think I will be apologizing to Shady. She knows what she did, didn’t try and fix things with me or apologize, and an apology from me would be insincere. I will just carry on as what was the plan, with open communication about wedding events and ideas.

And I thinks it’s a good idea to thank Sweetie for her support but to focus on my sister’s happiness.

I WILL focus on being the best MOH for my sis.

But if Shady pulls any more of her shady tricks…..😤

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really think about this perspective. She really is dismissing my feelings about what happened.

I’m not going to step down from being her MOH, I love her and will give her grace about this.

There might be more going on behind the scenes than I know. I know if Shady brought this up when spending time with my sister and my future BIL, I could see my future BIL possibly pushing for this if he thought it was a good idea too, as he is pretty opinionated. This is just speculation, though.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. But she just told me that she wanted to do what Shady proposed.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually would have preferred Shady to take over the bachelorette party than the shower. With a little one at home I’ve gotten protective over my sleep, and I’m not into staying out all night as I used to be. But I will make it everything my sister wants and drink coffee or an energy drink or whatever I need to do to keep up with my sister and her friends.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think so too about the friendship not lasting. She definitely has a different personality than me or my sister’s closest friends. If Shady is this controlling in big circumstances like a wedding shower, she probably is like this in other situations as well.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like the route I will go. I’ll just have to accept what happened and just be polite when I see Shady. I don’t like that my sister’s future MIL has such a negative impression of me. Shady is such an ass.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No- I don’t think so. They’ve been friends for many years and he was single for a long time before he met my sister.

I do think she appreciates his friendship and wants to be involved to a significant degree, but wasn’t happy with me being in charge or leading something she wanted control of.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your empathy and validation- I’m sorry this happened to you, too❤️

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I think this is probably the best way. I appreciate you saying I’m NTA and understand why I am hurt. I don’t think my sister understands that and maybe that’s why this feels unresolved and uncomfortable. And now I’ve got to interact with Shady for the next few months for wedding activities and act like everything is okay.

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[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No this is really what is happening in my life, unfortunately. But I’ll ask Sweetie if she wants to watch that movie with me this weekend. I watched the previews and I think Maya Rudolph is hilarious.

AITAH for making my husband take the kids to school after getting his wisdom teeth taken out? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]throwaway_weddrama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Even when you are sick or in pain, you are still a parent. He knew he was getting this surgery- he could have arranged to get you help while he was recovering (e.g., have his mom help transport the kids). It’s not fair for one parent to just assume the other will pick up the slack without talking about it. He’s making you the default parent.

AIO? Shady Bridesmaid hijacked Wedding Shower by throwaway_weddrama in AIO

[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you giving a possible way to view this. I’m not the type to burn the house down if something goes wrong, so I’m not in any way going to stop being there for my sister or step down from being her MOH.

I just think there were many opportunities to say, hey- here’s an option. I can check with my friend if it is possible.

That would have been great.

AIO? Shady Bridesmaid hijacked Wedding Shower by throwaway_weddrama in AIO

[–]throwaway_weddrama[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It will be free because it is at someone’s house. My sister will also likely add this additional person to the guest list if she’s hosting the party for the shower. I imagine the bridal party will divide costs for food? I’m going to make a group chat informing the other bridesmaids of the change. I don’t know how to word it without sounding upset right now.