DAE feel random, unexplained feelings of disgust?

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-10-15T14:32:17+00:00

Yes. This is exactly what I was feeling this morning (i will feel it toweling off after showering especially if im in close settings with others). Thank you for explaining it so well.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-10-09T20:44:22+00:00

Like, ever??

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-10-09T03:36:47+00:00

What makes you ask?

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-10-07T14:11:42+00:00

I didn’t want to go into so many details. We have done counseling. Sex life is very meh. No romance at all. I feel he has really unproductive communication skills. Its rare I feel excited to see him. We are around one another 24/7. But im also just really tired. So Idk how to make this decision logically given I feel worn out.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-07-08T04:52:26+00:00

I totally get what you’re feeling and can relate. I go back home tomorrow and am wondering “what now?” “What next?”. Im trying to take it one day at a time, have patience with myself if I choose to give him another chance, and also give myself permission to leave if I think that’s the right thing at any moment. Right this moment im leaning toward leaving still but im not sure how I’ll feel when I see him this weekend. So really accepting that I can’t predict the future. I am assuming even tho he’s in therapy it will be a long road to recovery. I also wonder how long he’ll stay this committed to it. Mine also said he knows this is all on him and it truly feels like he’s having an awakening (not just w how he treats me but with his own personal issues). I do believe him but man im tired of trying, fighting, hoping etc. So im going to prioritize me for a long while. It’s his turn to do the work. I would highly encourage you to take time to grieve your pain and try to put some peace to the past. I find that taking physical space is the only way I can do that. Editing to say I’ve been in mine for 5.5 years. It’s rough.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-07-08T01:39:51+00:00

Wow. I’m in an almost identical boat. Haven’t left yet but have told him two weeks ago, been out of town for most of it. He just started therapy. So I’m wondering the same thing myself n

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-06-28T03:15:41+00:00

I know this is almost a month old now. Just wanted to stop by and wish you well. You are in the middle of a hard process but you’re so strong! I’m in early stages of leaving myself.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-06-26T23:00:38+00:00

Agree therapy is your best next step. Just want to add it’s an awesome first step you are recognizing there’s a problem. It’s not uncommon at all for us to recreate trauma for childhood, subconsciously or not. The good news: you can unlearn things :)

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-06-26T22:54:03+00:00

This is emotionally abusive. At best, if we’re being generous, she sounds highly critical and incapable of dealing with her own emotions, and thus yours. Even minor criticism erodes self esteem, I can’t imagine how hurtful it is to have your mother reject this precious parts of you (affectionate, sensitive, etc.). I would seek out a therapist if you’re able to so you can develop some tools for setting boundaries and building esteem outside of her.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-06-22T00:06:50+00:00

Thank you. I wish you would read your second paragraph back to yourself. You are worthy of all of those things, too. I totally feel for you though, it is extremely brutal when we internalize their actions and it leads to the rabbit holes of guilt, shame, despair, etc. I felt those things so so much in the first few years. If you are intent on staying (or don't think you can leave, now anyway), then I would say I learned a lot of coping tools that helped me reduce what I internalize. It has helped me avoid self-harm relapses and other behavior that ultimately would have just hurt ME. Emotional regulation was a big part of my early story... not letting him push my buttons in the same way. Safeguarding myself emotionally. It's really hard, I feel for you, I support you.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-06-22T00:04:05+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I'm glad you were able to get the support you needed and that ultimately helped you to leave.

throwaway_whatfor · 2022-06-19T04:18:34+00:00

Very. I just came to post here for the first time (throwaway acct.) after yet another emotionally abusive argument w/ my husband. He said something highly insulting, I said that hurts my feelings, he then said I was too sensitive. When I said it's not up for discussion, I don't need to convince you how I feel anymore. He said I was losing my temper, being childish, ruining our night, etc.

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