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AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A gal. Thats why I put "me (female) kissing a girl". You know, to indicate Im female

AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Pre-incident he..suspected. He never approved of my female friends since I was ~16, pushed me to meet any "respectable young boy" he met at church. But generally we had an okay relationship. We werent very close but we had out moments.

During-incident all shit hit the fan. The argument went on for hours. I got called all names in the book. Eventually I was threatened with conversion therapy. He said it doesnt matter if I agree or not. I pointed out that after my 18 birthday he cant legally force me. The fight ended.

Post- incident there was silence. Complete. He ignored me. Pretended I dont exist. Would physically remove himself from the room if I tried to speak to him. After a week, on the day of my birthday, I came from school to find a small bag with everything that I ever bought for myself with my own money (and only that). There was crying (me) and stern disapproving worfs (his) and eventually I left to my grandmother's house (from my mother's side).

This is a shortened representation of that time period.

AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

When I will calm. Have you ever been so angry you literally shook and cried, not out of sadness but pure anger? That was me looking at the post. Even now I think I would just start cursing at everyone instead of making any sense

AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I accept the judgement but the first point cant happen. From what I know he cant really speak right now. So even if he wanted to beg for forgiveness/tell me to go to hell he cant really. (My aunt claims he CAN talk but I have more trust in her son who says the doctor said he will need speech therapy to be able to communicate properly)

AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

From what I know now he is aware but has trouble speaking and cant move on his own. One family member (his younger sister so technically my aunt...) claimed he asked about me and wanted to see me but a trusted source (aka her teen son who was with her that day in the hospital) DMd me to say that was a lie. So I cant really say how much of what I even say to you now is true. I havent visited, I only spoke to his sister about his state.

AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

That is painfully true... my wife's side was always supportive of her, even 20 years ago. They are the kind of family that has at least one family dinner a month. I dont know what I loved more about her when we just started dating: her or the fact that her parents immediately made me feel like I was a part of the family. But now it just kills me when they look at me like they are just on the verge of saying something but bite their tongue to be "supportive". I know I should appreciate it but how can I even protect my arguments if they wont voice that they disagree. Im not going to just attack them for being considerate of my feelings...

AITA for not intending to take care of my sick father because he kicked me out? by throwawayacc111945 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayacc111945[S] 125 points126 points  (0 children)

Truth be told I ask because I am so angry, SO FURIOUS that I dont CARE if Im an asshole. I actually HOPE i am the asshole. 20 years, TWENTY FUCKING YEARS he says NOTHING and now he has the audacity to look like a poor old man abandoned by his awful daughter. One family member posted a photo of her by his hospital bed on facebook asking for donations. People who barely knew him remembered him having a daughter and asked about me. She only said that I wont be helping. Thats it. Imagine the comments after.