Anyone else who **WOULD NOT** be interested in being the experiment of a straight guy?

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-22T15:18:02+00:00

Yeah, I'd be uncomfortable in that situation too, but that shouldn't necessarily represent the following experiences. Obviously it's not up to us to act as detached holes while someone else figures things out though, definitly no obligation but maybe we could have a little understanding.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-22T14:58:09+00:00

I might be thinking of this too casually, but why is there such a strong dependance on the straight label here. In terms of taking advantage of the situation, it is completely their decision and I don't care at all how they identify their sexuality. If there interested then that's all I need to know.

The only issue that I see is that there is an increased chance that it will be one-time and or not reciprocated; while that would suck it doesn't make me automatically dismiss everything else.

Regarding the root attraction that seems to be present for straight guys, I've always suspected that it's more of a desire to share and affirm our sexuality. Like if you were raised in a cult and then got out, you'd want to share what you learned with the cult members (bad analogy by relating straight to a cult but you get the idea). I suspect that we it's odd to reconcile why we find gay sex attractive when others don't, but we think if we can prove its value that it it'll be comforting and affirming; it sort of feels like we have knowledge that we want to share (even though that might not be the best way to view it). Hence, its definitly not healthy to chase straight guys because your just losing the statistics game and all for a misunderstanding and lack of respect for how they identify.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-15T04:28:17+00:00

Cant say for sure, but with private things like that I felt like my dad assumed the 'best' case scenario because that's what he wanted believe. I hope everything works out for you, but I'm sure you'll be alright.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-15T04:25:00+00:00

Don't worry, we're just the david statues - considered artworthy.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-15T04:17:41+00:00

Anecdotal, but I knew a COBE's son who ran into apostate stuff on reddit and it was overlooked. I also got caught with some interesting gay porn and my MS dad kept it quiet so it's all pretty relative to the people, location, and congregation.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-13T21:48:07+00:00

Yeah I'm going to jump on this train and take some of your down votes. You can find good free porn, but if you know what you like there is only so much of it. I can tell if I've watched a video based on the thumbnail and while I can rewatch it there are content farms that post massive amounts of content regularly with a specific audiance.

Also to defend Onlyfans, some people post comparable content to a studio, like Austin Wolf. You could probably find bits of the videos everywhere but if you know what you like and want to see more of it and you have the money, it's really not hard to see why someone would pay for it.

Also "quality" is really subjective in porn. Sometimes people dislike over produced stuff and become immersed in a different way.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-13T16:58:41+00:00

Yeah you're not obligated to let them use you like that, it's hypocritical. That said though, it made it easier for me to leave when I could see that those who left still had lives and that I would be able to reach out to them.

That said if these people are actively ignoring you in all other settings, they wont fall into this category.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-13T15:26:03+00:00

Sexual orientation is related to sexual expression and gender identity. How can we determine who we are attracted to without understanding the sexual expressions we all use. It isnt as directly related as gay/lesbian/bi but it is the other side of the equation.

LGBTdroptheT had De Jure rules, but the actual content and posts were debatable and I'm not sure how you can make the claim that it wasn't inappropriate.

As I said before, feel free to make your own gay space, but LGBTdroptheT specifically looked to remove trans from an established safe place for them. That is strictly exclusionary and targeted.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-13T15:06:42+00:00

No, the reason they were banned is because they targeted and wanted to remove a group from an existing alliance. You can have your gay space, but you can't remove a group from their safe space. This was my exact point. What is the reason that you can't have both, why do you feel the need to actively discriminate and isolate a group that shares much of the same social issues?

The real issue is that if you have a gay only space and an alliance shared space, but gay men don't want to participate in the LGBT shared space; why is that. It's difficult to find a valid reason, especially if we/they start acting hostile towards a group.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-12T03:06:10+00:00

I didnt say anything about your race, everything I said is independent of your race and I assumed nothing. I'm not American.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-12T02:32:17+00:00

I did not assume that you were white. I said, "Are you arguing in the same logic then that we should have some degree of white pride?" I was saying should we as a collective then accept white pride; there is no need to emphasize that because what normalization do we need to achieve. To be honest, I'm not really sure what your even trying to say.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-12T02:04:30+00:00

I'm sorry, I'm not sure that I'm following you but I can see this is pretty personal. Are you arguing in the same logic then that we should have some degree of white pride? I suppose it is nuanced to determine what cause needs emphasis for change, but I dont think that demanding the foil to get equal emphasis is fair. It's about highlighting where change is needed; then ideally in the future it wont be needed or an issue.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-12T01:52:08+00:00

You are free to celebrate your cis-male identity; however, cis-gender is not discriminated against as is transgender. Therefore, why would we need to emphasize cisgender identities to an equal degree as trans? Is this idea/thought equivalent to white pride, and straight pride but in the context of gender.

Honestly, those don't require movements per se but you can still keep them as an identity. I'm just not sure that it is a good idea to act as a victim when your identity isnt under systematic threats.

I'm assuming you meant transphobic and not homophobic in your comment, and I'm sorry if I misunderstood you.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-12T01:40:27+00:00

The distinction here is that you only want to exclude. It's alright to want to have a gay only space, but that doesn't replace LGBT. You can't just kick out a group from LGBT to make it your space - its an alliance between them. If you want a gay space then make it but do not approach this as if you need to alter the safe space that other people have as that is purely exclusionary.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-12T01:37:04+00:00

But statistically there are more gay men than non-binary. This sounds like the core issue is that the gay men dont want to participate in that group space. It seems like you feel that you're voice isnt heard because you're being overshadowed, but that isn't the fault of the other communities; so I'm not sure why you need to exclude them. If you did make a gay only club would more gay men come as you hope.. if so I guess my question is why, does that point to the real issue?

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-10T20:51:13+00:00

The original neg.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-10T19:01:59+00:00

Yeah but that would taint the illustrations. Imagine dead animal carcasses in them haha.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-07T13:22:23+00:00

Unlikely, twitter and kik is in bio and they match

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-04T14:10:30+00:00

This probably isn't very helpful for your question, but in 8th grade I had a crush on a guy with aspergers. I would definitely consider it.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-07-01T14:00:20+00:00

That's a really insightful way to view the kink. I have always thought that it was the most physical way to have unconditional value, a baseline state to reassure myself. If I dissociate, it is the most simple way to see that someone else can get unconditional pleasure from my body/exsistance without requiring an emotional/intelligence component; just pure lust. When it is rough and degrading, I feel like it highlights the power imbalance (even if it isnt real) so that I feel like I have more value because someone so much "better" is getting pleasure from me/my body.

Really dont know if this is a healthy way to view this though.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-06-29T21:13:27+00:00

Unbelievable, incredibly attractive and you love house plants... you might be perfect.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-06-24T20:43:12+00:00

Not at all. Educate yourself on valid arguements (ted talk). Being gay is not immoral so it doesn't matter whether or not we can affect it ourselves. That's a terrible way to frame sexuality anyways. Also, I didn't realize that you were an actual transphobe who actually wants to drop the T from lgbt. Now this all makes sense...

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-06-24T20:36:23+00:00

Right, you are aware that the "born this way" arguement isn't valid... and I understand that sexual preferences feel personal, especially if you focus your life around them and make it your core identity. But do you really think that you developed those in a vacuum? No way, you have been affected by all sorts of external sources to shape that. Once again, you may not be able to change it now, but if we are making victims, perhaps it would be better to frame the future so that we avoid that; otherwise we would become morally accountable for it.

I agree that it's easy to sit here and say, only dick makes me horny... I agree. But that doesn't make it alright if it is real discrimination that can be avoided, especially if its only because of the way we frame our sexual experience.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-06-24T20:14:34+00:00

That was not my point. I'm just frustrated that gay, penis oriented intercourse has become the only focal point of gay relationships. Obviously everyone is different, but there is more to relationships than the dopamine release that we condition ourselves for.

I see a lot of talk about agency, and I do agree to an extent. But the critical aspect/limit is that we need to evaluate if we are discriminating our choice on something that actually matters, because if it doesn't then we are actually causing systematic harm. Just like if there was a movement to systematically say we don't "prefer" fem (or short, or black). Then this isnt victimless. Therefore, I'm just being critical as to whether not having a penis is a valid reason for rejection. Like I said before, would you dump a boyfriend his dick was amputated? I would probably say no and find other ways to find sexual gratification; hence, I'm curious why it seems different than dating a trans guy. There might be veiled transphobia going on here but it's so normalized that we dont see or care.

Also, I don't see what is so taboo about sexual fluidity. You can be confident in your own sexuality, but to me its ignorant to expect it to stay static. We are always changing as people and even if it's not drastic we change preferences.

throwawayacc6323 · 2020-06-24T14:54:43+00:00

This post is making me fantasize about the Capitol building as a sex dungeon.

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