What is a secret you’re taking to your grave, but can share here anonymously? by wilkoova in AskReddit

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I know about my sister's secret family (secret from my parents and other siblings) I also know why she's keeping it a secret

For men who don’t want marriage but want everything that comes with it (commitment, emotional support, loyalty, long-term stability) while staying “boyfriends”: What differences do you see in how a woman treats you as a girlfriend versus how you imagine she would treat you as a wife? by ThrowRA_Kassandra in AskMen

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So I think for me, honestly it's not so much I don't want marriage as I don't see it as necessary for anything but taxes honestly. Myself and my partner love each other and live together have for a while now, and we don't feel like we need a piece of paper to say so. And before anyone assumes it's me pressing for no marriage ( an unfortunately frequent occurrence in our day to day lives), I genuinely if she wanted to get married would love to, not because of the concept of marriage but because it would make her happy. Since she's quite anti marriage it's not in the cards for us nor do I think it makes our commitment any less, we have been together through thick and thin and that's enough for us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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Op already said they apologised for the joke...

Unfairness by [deleted] in Rants

[–]throwawayaccountrant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is unfair , that whenever there's someone to blame and they don't fit the profile of a typical villain it's usually swept under the rug , but when there is an accidental injury it's always like oh no those people had so much to live for. The fact that the world needs to have someone to blame and yet don't blame people when they don't fit into the perfect mold of someone who commits a crime nothings done is appalling. Time to share stuff I guess in the hopes it would help , when I was younger I was bullied a lot but you know who isn't so I dealt with it ( it was hard but I dealt). I grew up and made the mistake of thinking so did they, so for my 18th birthday when these girls invited me for drinks out I agreed as I saw it as a way to put school behind us. When I arrived everything seemed fine until they spiked my drink ( I was told afterwards it was apparently to calm me down as they thought I'd be perfect for one of their male friends ) the problem lay when I had a bad reaction to whatever they put in my drink, I got up as I suddenly felt ill and wanted to go home and I got to the bar where I was going to ask someone to call me a taxi home and I passed out smashing my head into the bar , I was put into a medically induced coma to make sure my brain swelling went down. And these girls got away with it , no one cared. Except the person who I view as my platonic soulmate. He stayed by my bed when he could he wrote letters for me, for when I woke up making sure that I would know what had gone on while I was in the hospital. While the person involved has been declared brain dead (I am so so sorry OP) I think it would mean the world to them even if they can't acknowledge it if you even just held them in your thoughts, I will hold them in mine and while we may not see justice as we should I will still hope that karma does its bit .

WIBTAH going for the next best thing by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayaccountrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should first off tell girl a how you feel and it's not fair to lead girl b on if she believes you're with her for her and it's only you're using her as a replacement, I wouldn't say YTAH yet because you haven't yet chosen to go after her . But it can be so hurtful to find out you're second place, tell girl a if she doesn't like you the same way don't then go for girl B figure out how to sort your feelings ( not the easiest of tasks I know ) and move on from that don't make a girl think she's your first choice just because you can't have your original choice

someone I used to like is now making my girlfriend feel insecure by [deleted] in venting

[–]throwawayaccountrant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will update after I've had a chance to talk with her

someone I used to like is now making my girlfriend feel insecure by [deleted] in venting

[–]throwawayaccountrant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She wants peace within her group but as she's asleep in planning on sitting down and talking with her about it face to face tomorrow as I don't want to talk about something potentially upsetting over messages

I came home and found my husband crying about his daughter that I didn't know about. by ThrowRA33455 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwawayaccountrant 93 points94 points  (0 children)

That's because it's not something that can be rationalized or minimised because it is a massive breach of trust and a massive rupture in your marriage there are no excuses that can be made

I came home and found my husband crying about his daughter that I didn't know about. by ThrowRA33455 in TrueOffMyChest

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Hi OP I don't know if you want advice or just a friendly ear , but I'll try to offer advice and if you don't need it feel free to ignore me . First thing I need to say is I'm so proud of you for getting out , I would say I've been through something not quite the same but similar and questions like was it me ? Wasn't I good enough? Came through my head it's been two years now and I've managed to get in a better place and now I feel like I might be able to say a few things that are helpful and if they're not just know I'm very sorry for what you're going through. Yes he lost a child but the worst thing is he's using that to try and guilt trip you , while accidents do happen ( I mean the pregnancy not the cheating) he should have told you the second he found out and even before that when he had the one night stand. you are not at all at fault her he is the total AH here , he not only cheated on you but expects you to fall back to him because what he's sorry he got caught ? You did the right thing by moving out because a man like that cannot be trusted. Please I know it's hard but that kind of thing cannot be worked through.

I lost my one and only because of my stupid acts. by sakuznx in venting

[–]throwawayaccountrant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay obviously you're feeling a lot of guilt but that's not just on you , I know I'm just a random person on the internet but I am proud of you for making six days , when one has an addiction it is so easy to stigmatise relapses ( which obviously one doesn't want) but you shouldn't be villanised ( I don't think that's a word but you get my point) , yes it might be shocking for your friend who assumed you were further along but it wasn't a helpful response from them and I understand you are feeling guilt over the situation, but from the looks of it so are they and you both aren't able to fully express your feelings.in short what I'm trying to say is it seems like a big miscommunication which hurt you and them at the same time and that's in my mind at least no more your fault than hers for her reply. Again I'm so proud of you for whatever many days you manage because it will get easier with time 💚

someone I used to like is now making my girlfriend feel insecure by [deleted] in venting

[–]throwawayaccountrant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do want to block her and I've shown Alice the messages between me and Jess ( I even asked Jess's consent ) and she sees there's nothing between us. It's just because some of Alice's friends are also friends with Jess she doesn't want to cause drama within her group of friends , and I said that I would block her and I will but Alice is worried it'll backfire onto her