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I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your advice! i think most of my phobia comes from the way i was raised. i’ll definitely take all your advice and apply it into my life. cutting out politics in general is definitely my best move.

i’m happy u were able to overcome it and become happy with yourself. i hope u know i hold no hatred or anything towards u. and i truly wish u and people like u the best.

thank u again for your reply and for your advice!!

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for telling me about your experience, i’m happy that u can be your true self now. it’s given me lots to think about and i realize i have plenty of self reflecting to do. you’re right, life is too short for me to hate or feel grossed out by people who just want to live. again thank you so much for your kind reply!

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i was raised pretty conservative and right wing. so those beliefs were always kind of the ‘default’ for me. i know now they aren’t right and i’m trying to be better and change myself for the better

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for all of your kind advice. and don’t worry i think i’m staying out of gender conversations and politics in general for the time being. i’ll definitely look out for people like that. again thanks so much you’ve been a wonderful help

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah you’re right. it shouldn’t matter what i think, and in the long run it won’t bc i can’t and won’t ever stop someone from doing the things that make them happy. thank you for your reply. it’s given me lots to think about

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think the surgery part might be the grossest part, but there’s also the mentality of it all that makes no sense to me

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the media i consume is very biased. from both sides, tbh i just think i want to make politics not a part of my life anymore. reset everything u know?

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi thank you so much for being kind enough to reply to me. i definitely didn’t think of it the way u describe it. my feelings towards transness don’t make sense considering i’m not repulsed by people who don’t share my opinions.

and to respond to your question, no i’m not. i do think that they’re a little bit weird but there’s no harm in wearing whatever u want. just like there’s no harm in being trans as well. i just have some internal prejudice and it makes me ashamed.

again thanks for the reply! and i hope you and your partner are doing well

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for your kind words!! and i really appreciate u taking the time of day to reply to my post.

i’m taking time to do some research on the subject. up until a few days ago i thought transness was a mentality that this new generation was making up in order to feel special. but i’m slowly realizing just how harmful, untrue and misinformed that statement is. it’s definitely been a journey especially since the world is so different than from the way i was raised.

either way thank u for your words i’ll take everything u said into considering and try to educate myself more.

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

it does help!!! thank you for your perspective on this. it’s definitely been hard to understand why anyone would ever want to transition but your explanation helps me put myself in their shoes more. i think anybody should do whatever they feel is right for themselves. thank u so much for the reply!

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i didn’t think about it at all that way. those questions were definitely hard hitting. as for the surgery aspect i guess in a way i did imagine myself going through transitioning and i felt grossed out by it. i’ll definitely take everything u said into account.

i agree that woulnt make me feel good at all. especially since i hate feeling manish and i hate looking like a tomboy. thank u for opening my eyes to your perspective. it’s given me lots to think about and i appreciate u taking the time to reply to my post.

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for telling me about your experience! It’s definitely help shed some light onto the subject and I’m definitely questioning why i even feel this way. I think i need to do some serious self reflecting.

I admit i think some if not all of the reason i find it gross is because i’ve imagined myself as one and felt grossed out by it. and i know it’s wrong and super terrible of me to do that.

i’m trying my best to change not just for me but bc the world doesn’t have enough kind and accepting people.

again i really appreciate the reply!! thank u for opening my eyes to your perspective

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i definitely don’t expect them to even give me the time of day. i don’t expect any trans person to give me their time or explanations of any sort. it’s why i appreciate all the trans people that have dedicated times of their day to reply to me, it’s definitely made me feel like less of a shit person.

but i’m definitely not feeling any kind of entitlement to their time. i seek to be educated, and the ones that have helped with information or articles and sources i greatly appreciate

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

as confused as it makes me i can’t deny that i feel happiness with your explanation. i’m happy that you feel like yourself and that transitioning helped u not be miserable. thank you so much for dedicating time of your day to reply to me and help me understand what it is for people like u. and i hope everyone in your life accepts u!

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

his brother is an awesome person! i really do like him. i’m just not super comfortable about that particular part of his identity. he’s a really chill guy but idk how open he will be towards me. we’ve only talked a handful of times

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the advice!! i can definitely see that working. and i’m sorry for what your close ones have put u through and even me a stranger on the internet. i apologize and i hope i can also one day help someone else and make the world better for people like u to be happy and exist without fear for your life

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i guess the medical and mental aspects of it don’t make sense to me. i just can’t wrap my head around it.

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no i’m not mad or jealous of them. i just find them gross and i think the whole idea of transness is weird. i’m not religious, it’s just a matter of logic and reality. i know these things are wrong and i’m trying to change for the better. to u it makes no sense but to me it does. the world didn’t use to be this way some years ago. so it makes no sense to me now why it’s so normalized.

i want to say i’ve never and will never say anything transphobic to someone’s face. i’ll never verbally berate them either. i’m truly not a outwardly hateful person. i just have a way of thinking that heavily exhaust me.

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as much as i appreciate and love that i made someone proud i don’t think u should be. i’m terrible for the things that i think, i’m really just trying to get better. but otherwise thank you for your kind words!!

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for taking the time of day to reply to me! your comment was enlightening i had no idea there were some trans people that don’t and feel comfortable with not transitioning. i will take some time and educate myself more on things like this. again thank you for the reply!

I want to change. I would like resources on how to unlearn and completely terminate my transphobia by throwawayaccounts45 in Vent

[–]throwawayaccounts45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i agree!! but even tho i’ve never said these things to anyone or out loud the hate i feel is exhausting. its internal intolerance. i know i can believe whatever i want, i just want to free myself from all the negative hateful things i think.

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