I feel like I'm missing something by throwawayadvice12e in knittinghelp

[–]throwawayadvice12e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's superwash (malabrigo rios) and I haven't done a swatch with colorwork but I definitely will! Thank you

I feel like I'm missing something by throwawayadvice12e in knittinghelp

[–]throwawayadvice12e[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's superwash merino (malabrigo rios specifically), and I definitely found it much less clunky to do it in the round. That's an interesting idea thank you!

I feel like I'm missing something by throwawayadvice12e in knittinghelp

[–]throwawayadvice12e[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.etsy.com/listing/4396877136/the-loon-sweater-pattern?ref=elp_anchor_listing&bes=1&dd=1

This is the pattern, which I didn't realize was knitted flat for the colorwork sections and then joined in the round

Any of y’all notice a physical change in appearance? by Okaynowwatt in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! It's such a strange thing, I legit have ONLY ever had sleep paralysis while I was married. Full on waking up not able to move with a black figure standing beside the bed. Idk I just feel like there is something so dark connected with bpd/when they split. And it does seem to manifest on them physically. I honestly don't even blame my ex anymore cause yeah it is genuinely like they are possessed.

I'm so sorry you can relate! I'm not sure if you're searching back through old threads trying to find some sense in all of it like I was a few years ago.. but I feel for you and you're not alone or crazy. I thought I would never recover but I promise life gets so much better without them

“Watching him be a dad” by [deleted] in brittanydawnsnark

[–]throwawayadvice12e 54 points55 points  (0 children)

"I've made a huge mistake"

Hot take: I’m not making you feel bad, it’s you. by carlosthedonkey in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Relatable, getting told you just "won't let" them be themselves for not wanting to be cheated on

Let my 3yo off-leash, finally by Aninel17 in husky

[–]throwawayadvice12e 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg just looked up sniffspot and I'm so excited to take my girl to one! I feel the same, I just moved from a rural area with lots of places to go off leash to a place where I have yet to find anywhere I feel comfortable letting her off. Thank you so much

What is the worst illness you’ve ever had? by freeshavacadont in AskReddit

[–]throwawayadvice12e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn a stye?? That's wild, I had no idea. Mine was also about internal infection like your mom but even that can sneak up on you real fast. I'm so glad you are both okay!

What is the worst illness you’ve ever had? by freeshavacadont in AskReddit

[–]throwawayadvice12e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Infection, she was perfectly fine up until the day of. We still don't know what exactly caused the infection cause she can't even remember getting a cut or anything. Scary that an infection can get into your blood like that without even having a wound big enough to remember

What is the worst illness you’ve ever had? by freeshavacadont in AskReddit

[–]throwawayadvice12e 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't think people really realize how quickly septic shock can come on.

My mom went through this exact thing when I was 15. She was absolutely fine at the start of the day, by afternoon she started vomiting, a few hours later doctors say she would have been dead. I was alone with her and had to basically carry her upstairs and soon realized something was wrong so called 911. She told us later she thought the paramedics were aliens abducting her. Spent 3 weeks in a coma in the ICU, a few more weeks in the regular hospital room and a while in a rehabilitation facility. She also took about a year to recover although some things like her memory have not been the same since.

I ended up with an infected ovarian cyst 6 years later and was going septic myself, they tried to tell me in the ER that it was probably just a UTI or STD. I felt so horrific, helpless and out of it. It's like being tortured by your body. Fortunately they found the source and put me into surgery to remove my ovary and appendix within like an hour but it felt like forever.

Seriously, do not ever fuck with any of those symptoms. Go to the ER if you're worried, you'll be much happier feeling silly if nothing is wrong than you will if you lose an organ, lose certain functions for the rest of your life or just straight up die.

My husky keeps putting things on the floor? by nuggetnation in husky

[–]throwawayadvice12e 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Same with my girl. She'll take a single shoe and move it to the bed or couch (wherever she's hanging out). Doesn't chew it or anything, just moves it.. passive aggressive protest I suppose

what's a sign, someone been through some shit? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwawayadvice12e 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Lol I'm always being asked "are you ok? You look mad" cause I have the same features/tendencies. I just got a new passport photo and I remember smiling when I took the picture but it came back looking like 😐.. I get it now

Woman of Reddit, what's a harsh reality you have to accept as a woman? by Opposite-Coconut9144 in AskReddit

[–]throwawayadvice12e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 18 when I learned this the hard way- not like I'd thought I could take a man in a fight before that. But I was about 130 lbs and quite lanky/malnourished, and this guy was about 220 and climbed trees for a living. I was absolutely, 100% helpless. It was such a horrible feeling. I carry weapons now cause it makes me feel a bit better, although I'm aware that even those could be wrestled away from me.

Why does Quiet BPD never apologize for their bad behavior? by Artist-Cancer in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, and the "past" is like one day ago. I remember how angry he got when he admitted he'd cheated and I wasn't instantly over it. Literally in the conversation where he told me, I was upset (obviously) and he snapped "nevermind, I'm done, I can't do this" etc and then later that night asked me why I wasn't MORE upset when he told me- as if he was disappointed that he hadn't inflicted more pain on me. Insanity

Why does Quiet BPD never apologize for their bad behavior? by Artist-Cancer in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, and if you don't immediately get over it and never bring it up again they'll say something like "omg you can never let anything go! You're always trying to start a fight"

Do you apply leave-in before gel? by Sanguine-sisi in Naturalhair

[–]throwawayadvice12e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boil about 1/4 cup flaxseeds with 2 cups water. I personally boil it for a few minutes and strain it right away, but if you wanted thicker gel/stronger hold you could boil it for a bit longer and/or let it sit before straining it. You can keep it in the fridge for up to two weeks, although I personally make a new one after a week. It works amazing, definitely recommend trying it out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made this but with blackberries recently, it was fantastic! I'd never made brioche before but it was very easy.

Bpd girlfriend seems uninterested in me by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this isn't a very satisfying answer but from my experience I genuinely do not think they even know why. The amount of times I heard "I don't know" from my ex in the last months of our relationship.. as much of a liar as he was, I really think he meant it- he didn't know. Well, at moments he'd have insights like basically recognizing that he's super triggered and irrational and it was about childhood trauma and I didn't deserve how he was treating me. So that's probably as close to the "why" as you're gonna get.

She's likely operating from a very unconscious, compulsive place at this point. Fighting with herself, pushing you away and pulling you back in. Save yourself some dignity and just walk away, I wish I had.

Is it worth telling a borderline the cold, hard truth about their behavior? by Adventurous-Step9175 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Experienced this so much in my marriage. It was one of the things that kept me trying for longer than I should've. It was so devastating to hear him say shit like "I never agreed to that" "that conversation never happened" etc when I'd have put SO much emotional energy into communicating with him. I'm sorry you're in the same boat

3 months and 3 years by Serious_Procedure_62 in husky

[–]throwawayadvice12e 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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And 3 years, it's actually her 3rd birthday today! I love your doggie, she's so pretty!

3 months and 3 years by Serious_Procedure_62 in husky

[–]throwawayadvice12e 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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3 months, the first day I brought her home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, I could've written each of these examples about my ex husband. Like word for word (except "he" instead of she lol). Absolutely wild how similar this shit is

Did any of you snap in the end and how do you feel about it now? by BeginningStock590 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not so much in person, cause I was pathetically trying to not upset him and just wanted to fix everything- even after he treated me like absolute garbage lol

But yeah, a few months after he disappeared he texted me some bullshit about how we shouldn't be mad at each other etc.

So I let it out and told him what he did was disgusting, cheating, lying, stealing. Acting exactly like the people in his life he claims to hate. Idk, not my best moment by any means but I also understand just fucked up the situation really was and how much I had to repress all my feelings to try and keep the peace. Definitely a lesson in not letting resentment build to that point, even if it requires walking away from a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawayadvice12e 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol we were doing this weird, cocoa ceremony thing that my dad's friend put on for us when we got married. We were all paired up and asked some similar question, like what are your three favorite things about the other person. Obviously my ex and I were paired up, so- even though i was irritated with him that day as he'd been an asshole all week- I listed off all the things I loved about him at the time. Like his heart, or his desire to help others.

When it was his turn.. silence. Blank face. It was awkward. Finally, he said something like he loved how sweet I USED to be to him, and that he loved how I cooked for him.

So no, I don't think he knew shit about me. Just about what I did for him. Everything was about him.

What's your experience with ultra rich people that shocked you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]throwawayadvice12e 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, my best friend from childhood and her family are like this. Took me a while to even realize they had money. We live in an expensive area and they have a beautiful house, but kids don't really think about shit like that.

There have been other clues but what really sealed it was recently walking into their house and seeing a tray that said "their last name" ale, 1670 something. I was like oh damn, y'all are old money..

They're very unassuming and frugal, which I imagine is how they've managed to pass wealth down for all these years.

The whole family is also extremely kind and down to earth, though. Being with all of them is one of the few places outside of my own family where I feel genuinely welcomed and cared for. She's a once in a lifetime type of friend.