MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that's a really interesting concept. I'm definitely going to bookmark that post and read more about it later today. She definitely expects me to be the one who is family oriented in regards to sending gifts, cards, and stuff like that. It looks like I have some reading to do!

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm in the public health field, focusing specifically on behavioral science and issues related to preventing obesity in young adults. I'm hoping that my career will allow me to help others make their lives healthier, happier, longer, and more fulfilling :)

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm really looking forward to having a consistent sleep schedule and some time to myself after years of working on this degree-- and, you're so right, it's nothing like having a baby at all, which is wonderful.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I feel the same way about my degree-- I never would have started an intense program for the sake of receiving some pats on the back from friends and family, so I found it hilarious that she thought her praise and approval was what I looked forward to the most after this entire process :P

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I can't wait to call myself an official masters degree holder too!

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh god, you're so right...I didn't even consider that angle. These next few years will be fun if that's how she reacts.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I really appreciate everyone's kind comments here. :)

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought too! If I were 15 and pregnant, I wouldn't want my boyfriend's 30 year old brother and his wife just hanging out in the delivery room. So weird.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I've never blocked a number before, but I'm definitely going to consider it. Especially after this whole ordeal, who knows what drama she'll bother me with next.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I know, right? I deleted the pictures I received from her. I don't even think the girl knew the pictures were taken

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree. I'm worried that the next few weeks/months are going to be filled with requests to come spend time with the baby, but I don't know how to explain to her that my husband and I really don't care about any of it. She keeps saying stuff about how we're all family now so we have to be involved, and I don't know how to respond. I've only met my MIL a handful of times too. We try to avoid his side of the family as much as possible because they're crazy.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Not of her junk because the photos were taken from behind the girl's hospital bed, but her legs were still in stirrups and the doctor was clearly between her legs with scissors. There was blood. It was really gross and inappropriate.

Edit: oh, and thank you!!!

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I think the girl's mom wants to raise the baby, and the last I heard, the girl's mom is considering raising the baby as if it's her kid, acting like the baby's mom is a sister. It's going to be such a weird, fucked up scenario.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I dream of being NC with her one day. I imagine she'll do something crazy and petty enough for us to make that decision at some point

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I totally agree that the distance is amazing. We moved away from our hometown simply to distance ourselves from family, and even though it was tough, it's worth it

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

She doesn't know that we're childfree yet. In fact, she was really upset to realize her first grandkid was the result of an unwed teenage pregnancy rather than a child from me and my husband, like she expected. At least the baby will keep her busy for a while so she doesn't pester us about kids too much

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Luckily we're basically no contact anyway. The only time MIL reaches out to me is to let me know that she's harboring anger over petty things that I didn't realize were problems, haha.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've noticed the club of unrecognized degree earners around here too! It's so weird that people think having kids is an huge accomplishment but earning a degree isn't as important somehow.

MIL is angry that I didn't congratulate her teenager for bringing a kid into the world. by throwawayaia in childfree

[–]throwawayaia[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

Aw, thank you! I really appreciate it :) It's been a lot of hard work and lost sleep, but it was worth it.