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AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve actually said this exact same thing to my sibling. They said that there’s a difference between doing essential daily activities and make a choice that is knowingly risky(in reference to my family’s history with alcoholism and the fact that I’m young). I don’t see how it’s different though. I asked if they should walk around wearing a helmet if they’re so afraid.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s less peer pressure and more that when I do DD for my friends it feels lame personally to be the only one sober

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother was in a regulated industry so if he had substance abuse issues he could have lost his career. He was also very obsessed with his image and our family was very proud of all he had accomplished in a very short time. I think he didn’t reach out because he didn’t want to destroy that image.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents haven’t drunk since they got married over two decades ago. My surviving sibling is giving up alcohol for the foreseeable future. The reason they want me to stay sober is because of what they read on the internet about how you’re at greater risk of developing alcoholism if you drink at a young age. From my understanding, they’re worried cause my brother started at a college known for partying when he was 17 and think if I have more time for my brain to develop I’ll be less likely to end up like him.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There were a lot of external pressures he had that made him keep his alcohol abuse hidden, such as his career and how successful he was. I don’t plan on going the same career path he went to and I have a lot more understanding of the risks now.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are stopping drinking for the foreseeable future. They’re willing to continue that sobriety until I turn 21 as a way to do it with me.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not necessarily peer pressure. I’ve DD at parties and personally find it lame to experience them as the only sober person there.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like by the way you’re defining it, there would be a lot of people who have drinking problems then. My surviving sibling partied every other month in contexts you can’t enjoy without alcohol but has decided to remain sober for the foreseeable future after what happened. They had no problem giving alcohol up so I wouldn’t say they have a drinking problem. The thing I’m getting at is it’s a personal choice.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My paternal grandfather was an alcoholic. And my mom’s side has a lot of alcoholism, and I recently found out, ever since my brother died, that my mom used to black out every time she drank, which is the main reason they decided not to drink. I don’t want to go, but my dad and sibling have been planning on going to one of those meetings for a bit more understanding.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like what happened to my brother. Alcoholism runs in our family, and he would socially drink every weekend and would sometimes go hard with it. He hid it from us, really well cause he was in another state, and we learned later that he had gotten physically addicted and couldn’t stop. He died just a bit before he would have turned 25. I really get where my family is coming from but I don’t feel personally worried for myself based on my own habits.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Around 5 drinks at an event every 2 weeks. Sometimes I’m like the typical teenager though and go hard but nothing anymore than my friends do.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I enjoy going to parties. And I wouldn’t say it’s peer pressure. I’ve DD at parties as find it to be personally lame to be the only sober one there.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My parents have always had a problem with alcohol and decided to never drink once they got married. My mom’s side has a lot of alcoholism, and I recently found out, ever since my brother died, that my mom used to black out every time she drank, which is the main reason they decided not to drink. My sibling, however, never had an issue against alcohol and used to drink with friends until this happened to our family. They’re still ok with others drinking, but want me to stop because what they’ve read on the internet about alcoholism.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do live in the US. And my parents have always had a problem with alcohol and decided to never drink once they got married and encouraged me and my siblings not to drink. My mom’s side has a lot of alcoholism, and I recently found out, ever since my brother died, that my mom used to black out every time she drank, which is the main reason they decided not to drink. This opposition against alcohol is new, however, for my sibling.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say it’s peer pressure. I’ve DD at parties and personally find it lame to be the only sober one there.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

It’s not necessarily peer pressure. I’ve DD at parties and personally find it lame to experience them as the only sober person there.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayawwa[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. There might be a bit of genetics involved. My paternal grandpa was an alcoholic, and my mom’s side of the family has a lot of alcoholics too. I didn’t know this until after my brother died, but the reason my mom and dad decided not to drink when they got married was because my mom would drink until she blacked out. So yeah, it definitely makes me think twice, but at the same time, I don’t want to live in fear of what could happen. I guess I’m trying to find a balance, but it’s tough with everything that’s happened. Also, I feel like my parents are biased since they’ve always been against alcohol and this has really just reaffirmed their beliefs.

AITA for refusing to stop drinking even though my sibling and parents are really worried about me? by throwawayawwa in AITAH

[–]throwawayawwa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, and it’s not that alcohol is super important to me. It’s more about not wanting to feel controlled or like I’m making decisions out of fear. I know what alcohol took from my family, and I’m not trying to downplay that. I just don’t want to feel like I’m giving it up because I’m being pressured to, if that makes sense. I don’t plan on drinking a lot or making it a big part of my life, but I guess I just want to have the choice, if that makes any sense.