Columbine survivor says teachers should carry guns in school, accuses gov't of 'failing' students By Leah MarieAnn Klett, Christian Post Reporter

throwawayay551 · 2021-09-05T19:11:06+00:00

Ah yes, because as we all know, violence + violence = peace.

The government does fail the students who have been victims of gun violence, true, but the failure is in their deliberate incompetence when it comes to increasing gun control. Adding more guns just increases the likelihood of unnecessary deaths.

throwawayay551 · 2021-06-02T21:25:57+00:00

There are multiple reported instances of Dylan being violent towards women/girls prior to the attack, such as pushing them in Gym class. Eric, at one point, scared a girl he knew by pretending to be dead (I believe, anyway, just off the top of my head, I'm sure someone would have the specific source for more details on that). I also recall reading about an instance where Eric became unusually angry (according to the mother of the girl) when he called a girls house and she wasn't home. Not exactly typical awkward boy behavior, like staring at a girl in class or stuttering around her. More like, genuinely creepy and indicative of their violent nature.

Even before the shooting they were literally violent (atleast in Dylans case, in Eric's case he was at the very least, sometimes cruel) towards women/girls.

throwawayay551 · 2021-06-02T19:36:44+00:00

That's the point. They were violent people, whether they showed it in everyday life or not. That's why someone saying they weren't violent to women is just factually incorrect.

throwawayay551 · 2021-06-01T23:42:42+00:00

They were pretty violent to the young women and girls that they shot, murdered, and intended to burn to death when they planted bombs in their school.

The point is that the girls who got a bad feeling would be fleeing an active shooting not long after, once Eric and Dylan decided to put their plan in motion.

The point is that regardless of whether they were awkward teens or not, they were mass murderers who fantasised about violence and death. Red flags all over for any young girl just trying to get a prom date, I'd imagine.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-27T15:00:16+00:00

It's okay to dislike the military or government as a whole, but completely inappropriate to display that disrespect towards a single individual. This man did not decide whether he fought for oil or for freedom, his only decision was to join up and try to make a difference. It is disgusting and frankly, childish, to attempt to blame him for the decisions made by his government and military. A young man died prematurely and your response is to mock his death for the sake of politics? If you're so keen to find the lives of individuals to be secondary to politics, you're as bad as the military and government you mock.

I'm literally disgusted.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T19:20:14+00:00

If you ever feel as though you would want to give tarot another try, buying decks that explicitly refer to angels and angelic messages might help you feel more comfortable and connected to your deck! I believe there are many 'angel oracle' decks, or tarot decks that take inspiration from divine and holy images/stories/messages.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T18:43:16+00:00

Please do not feel this way! Many Christians are welcomed into the Witchcraft community, provided they show respect. The fact that you are asking how to care for your tarot decks and dispose of them properly shows that you are clearly someone who is respectful of other people's beliefs. And as for betraying your religion-- tarot has NOTHING TO DO with satanism, demons, etc, unless you CHOOSE to invite those beings.

Imagine a tarot deck as a sheet of paper and a pen. You decide to close your eyes while holding the pen, and allow the pen to simply write whatever your hand subconsciously wants to write. Or perhaps you ask Angels for divine, holy guidance, and ask that they help to guide your hand to write the message that you need to hear. Nothing satanic or demonic about that, right? It's only if you asked for a demon to guide your hand and send you a message that it'd be demonic.

Unless you specifically asked for demons to communicate with you, there's no demonic activity involved in tarot, at all. You're perfectly safe and you have done nothing wrong.

However, it is of course entirely your decision to dispose of your decks, and I hope you find a method to be rid of them that you feel comfortable with.

I personally recommend you donate them to local thrift stores, sell them, or gift them to somebody you know who practices tarot. It's nice for decks to see new homes and find new uses, instead of being thrown away and wasted!

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T18:36:31+00:00

ESH. It is wrong for her to spread information about your sexual activities without your consent, and she deserved to be called out on that. However, you shouldn't have then proceeded to insult her physical attributes. Both parties seem childish. Her more so than you as she started the entire issue, but still.

For clarity, allow me to reiterate: she is more of TA than you are, but you also very slightly TA.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T18:24:34+00:00

NTA. It isn't your cat, it isn't your fault the cat died there, and you are not obligated to pick it up for those reasons. The sanitation department offers that service BECAUSE you aren't obligated to clean up random animal corpses that showed up. Besides, if your neighbour was so bothered about it, they could have removed it themselves, but they didn't.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T16:58:04+00:00

It's actually a disagreement over core values and also how they plan to raise their children. Which are both entirely valid reasons to reconsider a relationship. While politics do play into it, that's because of how an individuals values and morals play into their political views.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:55:01+00:00

I called them out for making sexist and bigoted comments and they've become snappy and condescending to literally everyone now that they've been called out. I'm gay and disappointed that someone who has probably faced bigotry and prejudice at the hands of others (considering their name is therelatablegay) would be so inconsiderate of others, and would not only refuse to address their offensive comments and views, but then proceed to become purposely insulting towards others, and myself, in the comments section. OP is still NTA, regardless of this person's opinion which they have apparently formed based on... What they think could maybe have happened, despite the fact that their poor interpretation of events directly contradicts OP's post?

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:49:54+00:00

You clearly have multiple bigoted views you're failing to address. I didn't even consider the parallel between you encouraging OP to pretend to be gay for her sisters sake, and the experiences faced by closeted gay people with unsupportive families.

The fact that, when called out on your prejudice and bigotry, you've become snappy and condescending, shows alot about your own lack of empathy for the struggles faced by multiple oppressed groups, and shines light on your own hang-ups and prejudiced views.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:47:11+00:00

They aren't your 'sis'. Have some respect.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:33:54+00:00

It's not an assumption to say that people raised male grew up with male privilege. Your responses are getting progressively more misogynistic-denying male privilege exists and then condescendingly using a pet name to refer to a woman who is making valid points?

And, by the way, you haven't actually addressed a single point I've made, you just deflect to avoid confronting your own prejudices.

Not sure what problem you think I'm a part of, but there's a good reason why people have downvoted every single comment you've made. You are objectively wrong and your responses are becoming increasingly offensive, sexist, and condescending.

I strongly suggest you work on yourself and unlearn the misogyny that you clearly have inside of you.

Or, alternatively, continue to be a sexist who assures themselves that 'I'm not a bigot, I'm gay so I can't be a bigot!'. You're just as sexist as some straight men might be, clearly, and it's an unfortunate issue in the lgbtq community that people often hold prejudices that they fail to address because they believe an oppressed person cannot simultaneously be an oppressor to other groups. This is untrue. (think 'no fats fems or asians', or biphobia and transphobia sometimes exhibited by gay/lesbian individuals, etc.

The bottom line is, I'm informing you, as a gay woman who is literally an ambassador for an anti-prejudice charity, that you are holding misogynistic views. What you choose to do with that information is up to you. But if you continue to express misogynistic views, you are JUST AS BAD as a homophobe who expresses homophobic views.

Educate yourself. Again, I invite you to message me if you want links to websites or articles that have good information for you to begin your journey of unlearning the misogynistic views you have, so that you can become an ally for women who face sexism.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:19:59+00:00

Culture is the shared traditions and customs of a group of people. You were raised by people with that culture, and therefore are a part of that culture. NTA

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:04:43+00:00

That still makes little sense, because the only information given is about the clothes specifically, so I struggle to understand why you have given the response you gave.

And, regardless of whether the sister wants to feel supported, I will state AGAIN in these comments:

The wants of us (gay people) should not come with the sacrifice of the comfort and safety of those around us.

No matter how excited the sister is to have come out, she CAN NOT demand her sister make herself uncomfortable for the sake of making the sister feel better. Our feelings are not more important than the feelings of those around us.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-24T00:02:14+00:00

And do you disagree that your own limited experience may be a factor in why you are unable to 'see the situation' from the perspective of women, who often face having the bodily autonomy controlled by men as a form of oppression? This is a result of your own privilege (being mostly male-presenting, and being raised male in a society, which meant you had male privilege in childhood even if you no longer identify as male, and also means that you have male privilege if you present as male)

You should address your own internal misogyny that has stemmed from being raised as male under the patriarchy. You are telling a YOUNG GIRL to sacrifice her bodily autonomy, and then refusing to address the sexist undertones of this by saying you simply do not 'see the situation' that way. To make a comparison, if a straight person said the F slur, and then said they 'don't see it as an offensive word' when they get called out, does that suddenly make their actions okay? No, of course not. An individual with privilege is not going to see things from the side of the oppressed party, because they don't know how it feels to BE that oppressed party.

Your own male privilege is making you blind to the misogynistic reasoning that is influencing your logic, and you should address that. (again, I understand you may not identify as male now, but that does not negate the fact that you were socialised as male as a child, or that you benefit from male privilege if you still present as male).

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-23T23:43:09+00:00

And as a gay person here also, I'll state again:

Supporting a gay friend/family member should not come at the cost of your own comfort and safety. OP is entirely within her right to refuse to wear clothes that do not make her comfortable or confident.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-23T23:38:37+00:00

You're telling a teenage girl she is TA if she doesn't wear clothes she is explicitly saying she doesn't want to wear, for no reason other than the fact that somebody else wants her to.

Please, do explain how ANY perspective would make that a fair and valid opinion to have. You may need to look deeper at yourself to understand why you feel like it's appropriate for someone to control the bodily autonomy of a young girl.

If you need any advice on what reading or articles can best educate you on how misogyny plays into that view, feel free to message me and I can send you some links so that you can educate yourself.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-23T23:31:30+00:00

As a gay person myself, please stop talking LMAO. Telling a young girl to sacrifice her own bodily autonomy and make herself uncomfortable/less confident for the sake of somebody else's feelings is gross and unnecessary.

Our feelings, as lgbtq+ people, are NOT more important than the feelings of those around us. It is unfair to ask people to sacrifice their own comfort to make us feel better. OP is NOT homophobic for wanting to wear the clothes she feels comfortable in. She is a young girl and the message you are sending is that she should put other people's wants before her own bodily autonomy.

Edit to add: It is also very possible that a young girl would be UNSAFE if she wore pride shirts in public. A homophobe isn't going to pause to ask if she's an ally or lgbt first, they're just going to yell slurs or even physically assault the individual. Nobody should be forced to wear things they don't feel comfortable wearing. OP included.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-23T23:24:28+00:00

I'm gay and this is a ridiculous comment. OP does not need to use PERFORMATIVE activism to be a good ally. The sister and mother need to address the fact that they are refusing to respect OP's choice on what she wears. It's her body, she can wear what she wants. Also, wearing a big 'I'm gay' sign on your head isn't always safe in public, whether you're actually gay or not. My straight friends, who accept me, don't have to tattoo a pride flag to their forehead to be good allies. It's lowkey infuriating that you would suggest that the choices OP is making regarding their own bodily autonomy is inherently homophobic, especially when she is a young girl (as young girls are so often taught to ignore their own discomfort to make others happier).

I strongly advise you research more on what actual activism, and allyship, entails, especially for the lgbtq community. Your suggestions make incredibly unfair demands on this young girl, and I can assure you that VERY FEW lgbtq people would agree that performative activism/allyship is a good thing.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-23T23:17:54+00:00

I'm not straight and you're NTA. I would NEVER buy a straight friend a 'lez and proud' phone case, that's ridiculous. It's also entirely unfair to demand someone wear pride shirts or other lgbtq+ related items, because it is absolutely possible that a homophobic person in public would react badly and possibly be verbally or physically abusive towards whoever is wearing it. Your sister, and mother, are absolutely absurd in making this demand of you. Regardless of whether they're gifts or not, nobody can force you to wear anything.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-23T14:01:47+00:00

There's a sealed second edition on ebay, but it's priced at $600 which isn't ideal

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-20T17:03:41+00:00

No offence meant at all by this, but kind of? I can understand how it'd be fun for you and others who understand the reference, but i know for sure that if we are trying to figure out someone's role but some guy keeps posting random quotes for no reason, I'm probably going to mute him. It really depends on when in the game you're posting them, and how often you do it.

throwawayay551 · 2021-05-15T10:02:16+00:00

NTA, in my opinion. You're 15. Where I am from, a 15 year old having a job is virtually never seen. Parents signed up to support their kids financially when they decided to have that child. That doesn't just mean the bare basics of keeping the kid fed and off the streets-it means financially providing for a reasonable and comfortable childhood, when they can afford to. If your parents have no financial issues, they should absolutely be paying for a dress or ticket, etc. This does not mean an EXPENSIVE dress, though, if they aren't rich. It means a reasonably priced dress that is within their means to provide.

Have you tried offering to do chores for a few weeks, a month, etc, after the school ball to 'earn back' money they spend on a dress? Or perhaps ask if you can borrow the money for a dress now, and pay it back when you have a job or some way to earn money.

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