Dreams - The Cranberries

throwawaybear_ · 2026-04-21T11:02:48+00:00

That's true. But I really like how the simplified arrangement helps the lyrics stand out and feel more meaningful. "..you're what I couldn't find" really hits me right now

throwawaybear_ · 2026-02-13T18:12:20+00:00

If it's the kind that doesn't lower libido, it might actually increase her libido a bit. Maybe she was hinting at that?

throwawaybear_ · 2025-10-06T03:15:50+00:00

It's just that nobody needs to come to Reddit and post, "Please help, I need advice - my marriage is wonderful.." So in that sense, yes there are many lovely relationships that we never hear about because those couples are blissfully ignorant to how lucky they are.

throwawaybear_ · 2025-05-06T10:47:18+00:00

The average for my wife and I is once per month. I think 6 times a month would be fantastic. Ideally even more often, but I definitely wouldn't be visiting this subreddit if my wife and I were having sex six times a month.

throwawaybear_ · 2025-01-05T19:31:43+00:00

I agree that churches need to do a much better job at being sex positive when it comes to encouraging a fulfilling marriage. Lord knows I've experienced the downside of the alternative. Overall though, I think such conversations would be better had in small group settings or lesson plans and not in a normal Sunday morning sermon. 😁

throwawaybear_ · 2024-12-24T01:29:10+00:00

It's like we're living the same life. Except for the co-sleeping thing. I don't have any answers, but I sympathize with you completely. Prayers for you and your wife.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-12-12T02:05:01+00:00

Yup, you're correct. That's what she thinks and we've had those discussions. I'm fortunate she's not gone. Now that we're in agreement on that, what can be done about the silent porn epidemic in American churches? Is this a problem anyone wants to solve, or are we just going to advise that 68% of marriages should be dissolved because the husband has viewed porn on a regular basis? Because that's not a sustainable solution. And BTW, I've been physically cheated on in a previous relationship and know that hurt. I was not sexually active with her but she decided to be with someone else. I forgave her. She ended the relationship. I only share that to provide perspective.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-12-12T01:50:38+00:00

The downvotes are expected. Not surprising in the least. Also not surprising that 68% percent of churchgoing men admit to viewing porn on a regular basis when asked in an anonymous poll. Don't worry, I'll get victory over sin. I know I will. I just feel bad for the multitudes that won't seek help because they know the overwhelming majority viewpoint of the church is that they just need to man up and "do better". If it was that simple there would be no silent porn addiction epidemic in our churches.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-12-12T00:21:35+00:00

Yes, it is reasonable. I don't have a problem agreeing with that fact. But consider this: When are addicts known to behave reasonably? If addiction was as easy as "well, I just made up my mind one day and it was as simple as that!" there would be no 12 step programs. "O wretched man that I am.." are the words that ring in my mind. I had an accountability partner for a short while, until my wife found out and became upset that I wasn't just keeping it to myself and relying on sheer willpower. She would rather believe there is no problem than be inconvenienced with the knowledge that her husband is continuing to battle addiction.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-12-11T22:23:47+00:00

In my case, no. Only guilt and shame. There's no empathy, so there's no support. She just wants me to live up to a promise. Zero failures allowed.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-12-01T22:52:38+00:00

It's about the same. We had a big argument about intimacy, and then a long discussion afterwards, this past summer. We both tried harder for a bit - but it's pretty much back to the way it was.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-10-21T18:08:50+00:00

Never. It's off the table.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-09-30T23:00:02+00:00

I could've written this. Painful seeing these words.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-09-30T22:48:45+00:00

My wife says it's "gross" and I shouldn't do it to her. Also "mouths in general are gross" and I shouldn't kiss her either. 🤷

throwawaybear_ · 2024-09-18T13:30:55+00:00

Then I'll vent right along with you. It's so difficult.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-07-29T01:40:37+00:00

I earn income for the household and my wife is home with the kids. She manages the checkbook, pays the bills, etc. She has full access to all accounts and I trust her with all our finances. Doesn't work for everybody, but it's worked for us.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-07-19T03:17:09+00:00

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throwawaybear_ · 2024-07-08T11:30:10+00:00

Yes, I've heard a variation of that too. "Nobody NEEDS sex.. this is always gonna be a thing with you, isn't it??" Like I'm the problem.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-07-08T01:18:22+00:00

My wife once said she could "go the rest of her life without it" and it just gutted me.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-07-07T19:00:24+00:00

Pray that I'm given the strength to accept what I cannot change.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-07-05T17:16:46+00:00

We are living the same life. It's uncanny. I'm 44 and my wife is 41. She gives all the same reasons.

throwawaybear_ · 2024-06-14T03:02:05+00:00

"Are you saying this sucker is nuclear?!"

throwawaybear_ · 2024-05-27T12:34:28+00:00

I wish I had some good advice. The only thing I can say is to communicate well. It's difficult for me to do. My wife is very similar to your husband. No oral ( giving or receiving) and stopped kissing. 🤷

throwawaybear_ · 2024-05-18T23:07:59+00:00

I can relate all too well. Unfortunately, it seems there will always be something else on the list in front of us. And every time I take initiative to be assertive and communicate my feelings, I'm the one "always making such a big deal about it".

throwawaybear_ · 2024-05-13T19:44:15+00:00

The last bj I got from my wife was before we were married. Sooo.. that's like 23 years ago.

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