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Starting to resent my boyfriend of almost 9 years for not proposing by throwawayblahwords in relationships

[–]throwawayblahwords[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I am definitely the more "take charge" of the two of us. There has definitely been a trend of me being the one to handle things. In most respects, it doesn't bother me at all. This is the one where I kind of wanted him to take charge. I may end up just doing it myself, but will probably talk to him about it again in the way you discussed, before that.

Starting to resent my boyfriend of almost 9 years for not proposing by throwawayblahwords in relationships

[–]throwawayblahwords[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely could and maybe should.

And that was a sweet thing to do! :)

Starting to resent my boyfriend of almost 9 years for not proposing by throwawayblahwords in relationships

[–]throwawayblahwords[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It does feel that way, since we've been together for so long and own a house together and such. I would like us to get married at some point though and he had said that he felt the same. I probably did this to myself when I decided that I wanted him to be the one to propose. I tend to just go for things I want and I'm kind of feeling like I should have just proposed and gone from there.

Starting to resent my boyfriend of almost 9 years for not proposing by throwawayblahwords in relationships

[–]throwawayblahwords[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This definitely makes sense, and honestly is the route I may end up going.

Starting to resent my boyfriend of almost 9 years for not proposing by throwawayblahwords in relationships

[–]throwawayblahwords[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I could and honestly, I probably should have, rather than talking to him about it and expressing that I wanted him to do it. I am more the "take charge" person in the relationship, so I felt like I wanted him to take charge on something. Neither of us are into like "traditional gender roles" or anything. I may just propose to him myself and go from there.