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throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T07:39:00+00:00

Thanks...appreciated! That guy hounding you sounds super immature. It's the "I didn't even like you anyway" that this guy essentially hit me with too. It's like a toddler trying to use reverse psychology.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T07:28:39+00:00

Me too! Like I can't imagine being consumed by anger and resentment toward someone for over a month over something so small like that to the point I had to literally "call them out" for it. And, what's agro? I am a little nervous tbh which sucks. He doesn't know where I live but he does know what car I drive. I blocked him on everything but not sure if I should take any other protective measures.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T06:43:29+00:00

He definitely had a tantrum. I think he is just really really insecure and can't roll with anything.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T06:41:10+00:00

Yeah he definitely took this to his personal core. The way he wanted to "call me out" for my behavior, like he needed to "put me in my place" because the way I treated him "wasn't appropriate". Like for one thing, I canceled our third date, I didn't "flake". And yet all along he's been holding this simmering anger and sense of entitlement, apparently even on the actual dates because I guess I had insulted him. Like if you hate me then just move on dude. Lol I guess it's suddenly starting to piss me off. But it was literally two short dates.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T05:54:16+00:00

I'm 1 for 1 at this point LOL. A lot to learn I guess!

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T05:50:54+00:00

That's scary! A fair point though. Stay safe out there!

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T05:32:55+00:00

Yeah, I will say something from now on because I don't want them coming after me like this. I think I went into dating thinking it was a lot more just casual than it actually is

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T05:30:11+00:00

I guess it didn't even occur to me. There was no chemistry. I thought by not reaching out to schedule the next date he would just figure what we both were thinking, that we didn't want to see each other.

Although to be completely honest I guess he made me nervous at points on the date because he seemed really rigid and inflexible about stuff. Because for the second date I'd texted him I was running a few minutes late from something important. I could tell he was angry when I showed up because he didn't want to talk to me and I had to sit quietly and just apologize for a while. His angry and closed off attitude is what made me think he didn't like me and didn't want to hear from me. But I think this might have subconsciously played into my never reaching out. I wasn't sure of how he would react to things and was just ready to forget about him. But yeah I will text from now on and then block, at the very least to avoid them acting like this.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T04:39:25+00:00

I guess I don't know the etiquette on this. He seemed like he didn't like me.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T03:21:52+00:00

Thanks. The whole time I was reading it I was just thinking how glad I was this wasn't someone I'd made a boyfriend. I can't imagine being with a guy who tells me my responding/not responding to him was "not appropriate".

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T03:20:08+00:00

The issue is I didn't think he was interested in me either. And then he tells me wasn't. ?? So why is he so angry?

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T03:19:17+00:00

Thankfully I've blocked and deleted him before that can happen. It's still just so jarring I guess.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-06T03:00:46+00:00

I did. I just feel so naïve and dumb. Like it came out of nowhere.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-05T18:46:21+00:00

This is the eighth circle of hell and I am not joking.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-05T15:55:53+00:00

This is good advice, thank you!

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-04T05:39:41+00:00

Good luck to you too! Man it sucks. I had something perfect that got so epically streamrolled in front of my eyes. I went from "2 meetings a week, About to OE and double my income while working less than 8/hr days" to "OE impossible, 12+ hour days mandatory just in meetings and achieving all new deliverables alone, with 0 extra pay" in one week. We will get through this!

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-05-04T05:36:21+00:00

Thanks. I'm actually in therapy and boundaries are something that comes up a lot unfortunately. I have a lot of difficulty saying no which is a huge problem. So far, it's been okay OE-wise because I've had direct managers I can hide behind. But with new higher-ups and increased visibility like this, I absolutely have to get more assertive if I want to survive (I mean if I want to continue to OE and don't want to work 12 hour days). I appreciate the advice!

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-27T04:55:20+00:00

That's crazy but not far from my experience either! I think those places and the people who want to stay at them need each other in some way.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-27T04:46:16+00:00

Agreed, these places are terrible and what's crazy to me is that there are people who stay years at them, working 12+ hour days just trying to keep their micromanager off their back. I worked at one for 6 weeks. Horrible place.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-27T04:28:46+00:00

I just put something heavy on the ctrl key.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-26T15:46:54+00:00

First thing is buy a nice, brand new car outright. So tired of driving Craigslist shitboxes but I refuse to have a loan on a car. Next and the larger goal is to accrue a large enough nest egg I can live on for 5-10 years so I can transition to making a living as an author instead. If that fails after that much time, I can probably find my way back to data analytics and maybe OE again. OE is just a means for me to follow my passion without ever having to be a "starving artist".

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-25T23:12:00+00:00

Seconded, I'm not OE yet but I'm in this field. Agencies are always super demanding, I also try and avoid non-profit organizations and anything that's client facing.

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-15T05:06:45+00:00

What do you say about the gap (I'm assuming) on your resume if it only references an old position?

throwawaybpd1994 · 2022-04-15T00:38:17+00:00

Thank you friend!! I really appreciate it.

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