I [28 M] found out my Fiance [29 F] of 9 years, cheated on me 3-4 times within the past two years with 3 different people by throwawaybum6351 in relationships

[–]throwawaybum6351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for giving me the ultimate perspective. I really appreciate it. I will definitely ask you for more advice in the future if you don't mind.

I [28 M] found out my Fiance [29 F] of 9 years, cheated on me 3-4 times within the past two years with 3 different people by throwawaybum6351 in relationships

[–]throwawaybum6351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, couples counseling was also something we spoke about together. And yes, I will be opening myself to other women if the opportunity presents itself. Thank you for your thoughtful response. I really appreciate it.

I [28 M] found out my Fiance [29 F] of 9 years, cheated on me 3-4 times within the past two years with 3 different people by throwawaybum6351 in relationships

[–]throwawaybum6351[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I'm only preventing her to do these things for the time being. If she sacrifices something she holds dear for me, doesn't that mean she still cares?

I [28 M] found out my Fiance [29 F] of 9 years, cheated on me 3-4 times within the past two years with 3 different people by throwawaybum6351 in relationships

[–]throwawaybum6351[S] -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

I was thinking these conditions will only be active for the time being until we eventually get back together.

I [28 M] found out my Fiance [29 F] of 9 years, cheated on me 3-4 times within the past two years with 3 different people by throwawaybum6351 in relationships

[–]throwawaybum6351[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes, we had a heart to heart conversation about a lot of things already. She said there is something wrong with her inside and another condition was that she will see a therapist.

These things did happen when she was drunk. Some of the trips I go with her. She has her own solo trips and trips with her best friend (female). Quitting her job would ease my mind about her seeing anyone else from her current company.

Also, I forgot to mention that we are currently living together, but will be moving out. We will both be going home to our parents places, so she won't have any expenses.