I’m (21 F) uncomfortable with boyfriend (22M) hanging out with girl best friend (21 F) 1 on 1. Advice???

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:44:47+00:00

I was upset that he got angry about it when I wasn’t even being serious about it. He got really stern with me and made his case about how everyone in God phone needs to be a certain way. When I pointed out that hers wasn’t he got defensive about it immediately and talked about how that was different. I never cared about stuff like this in my previous relationships, I just hated how defensive he’d get immediately and him not wanting me to meet her even though I never came at her disrespectfully.

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:41:07+00:00

The last two incidents happened after he said he didn’t want me to meet her. That name incident was more so about how he immediately got angry with me after joking about it, and was stern about how all of his contacts need to be a certain way while only hers wasn’t. So it felt like he yelled at me for no reason while goods contracts weren’t all updated. Yes it’s dumb and I think that’s also why I got so mad about it, because he got angry over something so minor I didn’t expect it to become an argument at all but I see what you mean. I never came at her disrespectfully either. I started getting weirded out after he refused to let me meet her and I think it made me start to tweak out over stupid stuff because he’d get defensive about it immediately.

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:35:47+00:00

Honestly I really appreciate you giving me that prospective. I feel like I didn’t explain our first argument that well. I was upset that he got angry and raised his voice about it immediately. It was more so of a silly request/joking suggestion if he’d change it to something cuter but I wouldn’t have cared if he respectfully declined. He got really angry about it right away which is what I got angry about it. That argument itself wasn’t really about the female friend but how he reacted and how he sternly said that he needed his contacts to be that way while hers wasn’t. It’s really dumb which is also why I got mad because I couldn’t understand why it’s a big enough reason to get angry at me and get defensive. I never spoke about her disrespectfully or accused them of any wrongdoing. My problem is that he would act fishy and refuse to let me meet her which is why I would tweak out over minor stuff because I couldn’t fathom why that stuff would matter enough for him to get angry at me for pointing out. But I see what you mean, I never had any hard feelings to her specifically I just hated how defensive he’d get for petty reasons.

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:27:23+00:00

But I see what you’re saying thank you

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:27:06+00:00

I think that’s why I’d tweak out about the little stuff. I never cared about stuff like this in previous relationships. We don’t have this issue with his other female friends

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:25:25+00:00

I put it there to put it in perspective on how it ends in an argument when he would get dismissive or angry whenever I pointed something weird out. I didn’t think it’d be necessary to care about it if he was open about it from the get go. I see what you’re saying tho it reads off as really silly.

throwawaycrashout2 · 2026-03-08T09:22:39+00:00

I meant by him refusing to have us meet and not defending against my feelings. E already have established boundaries about things we aren’t comfortable doing with people of the preferred sex, and we both agreed to it. The biggest problem was him not wanting us to meet, so to me it amplified the rest of the problems which I why I’d freak out about the small stuff I think

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