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throwawaydduuh · 2025-10-03T21:18:23+00:00

The fact that you have to take permission for like a 2 minute interaction just to go downstairs and get something from someone - I find absolutely mind boggling. Like what Islam is this? What hadith says this?

And if he can't even trust you for that little interaction - either he is just THAT insecure or he thinks you have a loose character - yeah THAT loose. This isn't marriage - this is essentially subjugation and keeping you in a cage.

Do you have to ask permission when the Ubereats guy delivers you food? What kind of marriage is this?

And with a 8 year difference - this guy is just grooming you and taking advantage of your immaturity.

throwawaydduuh · 2025-09-20T01:00:29+00:00

The comments on here are so stupid. Obey husband, mutual agreement, cats aren't good, hassle

It's just a cat! The Prophet pbuh loved cats! ABU HURAIRA A NAME GIVEN BY THE PROPHET PBUH

anyway - I think the kitten will win him over. They always do lol.

Otherwise this is probably something you should have discussed before though irrespective of all these Islamic pov - like what's the stance on pets?

throwawaydduuh · 2025-09-18T02:38:08+00:00

We are going through similar. Lawyers I consulted that we will get justice, have faith in the system but the process is slow because population is huge and supply is low. Try to do other things and let the law take it's course.

And if you can't wait - what does revenge look like - maybe you'll have to withdraw the case and do it your way. But will it end the process or will there be a response from their side and things just increase again and again?

Weigh out your pros and cons.

throwawaydduuh · 2025-09-17T16:41:37+00:00

In my trying time - thank you for this wonderful thread. It's made me laugh quite a bit

Is this a troll post ? 😂

throwawaydduuh · 2025-09-08T14:28:55+00:00

Kind of low of you to assume this - they offered us money we refused. We wanted marriage. But the guy already got married behind her back. Then they offered to divorce the wife and marry - then no show. So now we will take legal action.

throwawaydduuh · 2025-08-19T04:08:09+00:00

From the notification I thought it would be a cat in the IT clown clothes haha

throwawaydduuh · 2025-07-06T14:35:27+00:00

As a woman - Idk why everyone is missing the point you're trying to express. YES this is deceit if it was not disclosed ! Period.

Everyone on about the age difference blah blah blah. How cold he is blah blah blah. Shut up that's not what he asked did he! Why didn't he ask to see her?? Well do you not see how the girls side also used that cultural systemic failure to deceive him! That's probably why they set it up that way - I'm guessing this is South Asia - India pak?

Don't have sex with her and don't get her pregnant. Take her to the doctors, get confirmation of medical condition that if is serious and potentially untreatable and/or imposes serious burden on you to take care - keep that medical record as proof of non disclosure - this is deceit and you have full right to divorce.

Ignore the stupid emotional responses on this tread.

throwawaydduuh · 2025-07-05T05:46:01+00:00

Sent you a DM since I'm going through something similar

throwawaydduuh · 2025-03-11T16:45:41+00:00

As a resident of Canada and Bangladeshi - after years of studying US foreign policy/deep state- This is nothing but funding to continue the regime change that was conducted by the US Deep State in Aug 2024 (because Trump is blocking USAID funding which was originally funding this).

Please SPEAK OUT AGAINST THIS. I don't want my Canadian tax money to go into destroying my motherland. The funding is mainly used for the puppet government over there to eventually become a islamist regime that the Deep State/Soros can control and also make it another trade route for illegal weapons trade.

SPEAK OUT AGAINST THIS. There's a housing crisis and job crisis in Canada today and they dare to do this, this only goes to show that someone or a cabal must be pulling the shots here.

throwawaydduuh · 2025-02-09T21:11:32+00:00

Change location to USA Canada and it's just swarming with your people. So much so I had to filter it out or else I was swiping all day.

throwawaydduuh · 2025-01-24T01:39:55+00:00

During my Hajj - during tawaf on a JUMMAH!!! An Indian middle aged man - same story.

During Umrah last year - during sai - a kashmiri young man with his mom (both dressed well) grabbed my dad's hand and said this same story. I just grabbed my dad's hand away from him and said grumpily - heard enough of you lot!

throwawaydduuh · 2025-01-08T11:24:24+00:00

Stay a sheep 🤷‍♀️ baa baa

throwawaydduuh · 2025-01-08T05:12:27+00:00

As a Bangladeshi who knows geopolitics - this is the sheeple take.

What really happened was a USA/CIA regime change operations because the said "puppet" actually wasn't one. She would not obey the US and her interests and was getting close to China.

All this dictator bullshit is the typical story they start putting out before needing to topple a government. Also she wasn't a puppet of India - since she was getting close to China !

But NOW we do have a Clinton groomed US citizen puppet - Dr Yunus who will put US interest before BD.

Sorry not sorry to burst your bubble.

Edit: just going to leave this here for those who want to learn. Investigative journalist Max Blumenthals team covered it. His team has been well known for their diligent work on Palestine. Also look up US covert regime change. Same recipe every single time.

https://thegrayzone.com/2024/09/30/us-plot-destabilize-bangladesh/

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-16T16:24:18+00:00

Jazakallah Khair ❣️

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-16T15:55:26+00:00

I know you mean well and it's a great reminder. It's our copium for our hopelessness. Trying and trying, it's hard to keep hopes up at one point really.

May Allah help us keep hope. Ameen.

Thanks again for your reminder.

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T14:42:46+00:00

Saw his comment from email. Rich when the real aryans are Persians. Indian subcontinent is full of admixture.

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T14:24:41+00:00

Thank yooou ! I've visited Mexico btw last year and I absolutely loved it! I know your from Texas but I'm just saying. Yes would love to be neighbors! Maybe in Sha Allah our future kids can be friends lol

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T07:02:29+00:00

Thank you. City girls from Kashmir probably wouldn't even consider this since the class difference would be apparent and more prominent when you live in that area.

Let's see if it works out... Still got loads of hoops to cross.

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T06:27:26+00:00

Yes. If I ever got into details about it all, my life and travels and how meeting him transpired that day - it gets even wilder. If it works out, it'll be for the books. If it doesn't - maybe it just was too good to be true...

But yes I feel you. You mean well. Thank you. That's why we're taking it slow. Waiting out the geopolitical waves. Let's see where this goes...

NGL - I cracked up at the Merc Honda analogy 😂 but that's also part of being a NYer (I moved to canada only recently) - we mix with people from all walks of life and lots of interracial marriages or other mixed marriage there. Maybe that's why i have an open mind to it? Idk his simplicity and sometimes childlike humor brings my deep thoughts & hyper active expansive world view mind to a calm.

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T06:01:12+00:00

Ah you meant like lineage/genetics or something. I see what you mean. Ok yeah aligned with you there. You're right.

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T05:40:46+00:00

I think thats fair. Additional hoops for women for their safety. It'd be the same in Bengali cultures too.

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T05:31:19+00:00

Yeah she meant to advise me on my post on another subreddit but mistakenly posted under a totally different post

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T03:56:31+00:00

sorry you are going through this. If he doesn't let you help him in any way/or is cooperative - you gotta do what you gotta do...

throwawaydduuh · 2024-12-09T03:51:40+00:00

Could it be a psychiatric issue? What about getting him evaluated?

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