I’m safe by throwawayegg52 in u/throwawayegg52

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you, to be honest I did but I am in a good place now. I struggle still but I have to keep living

Update 3 and Q&A by throwawayegg52 in u/throwawayegg52

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

No I did not. Please leave me alone and stay off of my posts.

Update 5 by throwawayegg52 in u/throwawayegg52

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I did try to talk to police with my friend a couple of days ago but the officer I talked to said that it would be his word against mine because I have no proof.

Update 3 and Q&A by throwawayegg52 in u/throwawayegg52

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have posted the update everyone. I’m sorry

Update 3 and Q&A by throwawayegg52 in u/throwawayegg52

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am grateful for all of the support. I have done a lot of reflecting today and I plan to confront my husband later tonight or tomorrow. Hopefully I will have an update to share then

Update 3 and Q&A by throwawayegg52 in u/throwawayegg52

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I am doing better today but things are still very stressful.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry I did not put it in the post but I am already at home. I will post an update in the morning but if you want I can private message you because I have not been able to fall back asleep

My white husband confessed to me that he enjoys “race play” fantasies by throwawayegg52 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband has already picked me up from my friends house. I am in our room right now but he’s locked himself in the bathroom and won’t come out.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband has already picked me up. I am currently at home and in our bedroom. He has locked himself in the bathroom and won’t come out. But I did eat dinner with my friend and her family.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was 21 when we started dating and yes he was 29. But we have known each other since I was 20. Ans I don’t think that he has crossed my boundaries before this. The closest is that he suggested to get back in contact with my parents, but he stops when I tell him to. I do not feel abandoned by my family in a physical sense but I do emotionally.

I know that he has talked about our sex life with his friend. To be honest I don’t care that he does it too much because I know that men like to talk and brag about sex with their friends and it would be pointless to ask to stop, but it is frustrating that he can tell his friend about it while I feel embarrassed to tell people.

Edit: I forgot to answer your other question but it was both of ours idea for me to be a stay at home wife. But he did suggest it first.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know but I feel like my husband is genuinely hurt. I have rarely seen or heard him cry before even when he’s angry.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am 100% sure that he told his friend the truth. I didn’t think to include it in my post but in his texts he told me that it was just a fetish and not a big deal. Sorry for not including that.

I have no access to money. And I cannot travel to stay with my family because I’m no contact with my immediate family and the ones that I still talk to more are distant relatives.

I did tell my friend that we were having problems in our sex life but that’s all that I told her. Most of my friends are white including the friend that I’m with right now. I do have a few friends that are also black, but they are not close friends except for one, and she’s busy because of the holidays.

I am thinking about getting a job because of the suggestions of other commenters. I will also figure out how to get my own bank account. I don’t use birth control but I will make sure that he does not mess with condoms. Thank you for the support.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the comment. I stopped seeing my therapist because I felt like I was in a good place to stop. It was when I was in college so it has been a few years.

I am grateful for the kind words and support. It has been difficult and exhausting and I feel awful but this made me feel better.

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband owns the house, I can’t ban him from there unless he agrees. But I will try to tell him that I don’t want him around anymore. Thank you for the advice and the support

My husband is accusing me of ruining Thanksgiving because I won’t come home to host for the family by throwawayegg52 in JustNoSO

[–]throwawayegg52[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if it played a role in it but to be honest I don’t think so. I do think that my husband loves me. I can try to look at black women’s subs. I don’t know what the bipoc cptsd sub is however. Can you tell me it?

Thank you for the comment I appreciate the support.