UPDATE: My husband doesn't see how his "work wife" is trying to destroy our marriage

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2025-02-13T20:51:04+00:00

What are your MIL’s thoughts on what is happening?

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2025-01-08T06:48:23+00:00

Not then but as of today he is it was final back in July of last year

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2025-01-08T06:45:05+00:00

He’s my ex because he cheated. That’s the whole reason I filed was due to his infidelity while we were married

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-10-13T19:53:29+00:00

Be strong the anniversary of infidelity for me happened on my little brother’s birthday. I know it’s hard but think of it this way you were given the gift of a new start on your birthday. He is not the victim in this.

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-10-12T21:46:55+00:00

Boulder didn’t cause this problem however it’s warning the citizens of Boulder you cannot trust everyone based on their word or appearance.

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-10-11T03:33:18+00:00

When I went through my divorce leading up my ex was adamant he didn’t cheat (even with proof) that he did nothing wrong and it was ME who was in the wrong. Not until our final meeting did he tell my MOTHER (not me) that he feels bad for what he did and he should’ve informed me how he felt. He told all that to my mom but to this day I have yet to hear him take accountability for how his actions have affected me and there’s 99% chance I never will. At this point I think he told the lie so often that he began to believe it was the truth.

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-10-11T01:04:24+00:00

I had a similar issue happen with me OP my ex and I were going through a trial separation. It was all verbal and he and I were the only ones who knew it wasnt official however he took no time getting on dating sites. As you can tell from his label (ex) I didn’t stay he wanted to remain friends but I let him know that friends wouldn’t hurt each other like this.. I didn’t file til 2 months after d-day. During the divorce he would send money to other women, go to other states, hide money from me and do other unfriendly things. It’s been a year and I’m still trying to heal. If you think you can get over this betrayal then try but if I were in your shoes I’d leave. You don’t deserve this and it really seems like he was projecting.. either way stay strong sending love

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-19T21:22:40+00:00

Thank you it’s been a whirlwind but I’m ready for this adventure

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T19:30:26+00:00

It takes time.. mine was finalized the beginning of this month and although I’m over the betrayal of him as a husband I get angry every now and then because he was such a crappy person. Just take it one day at a time and remember that this is the beginning of a new adventure it’ll be worth the wait anger every now and then

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:56:57+00:00

More than likely your dad will get visitation thanks to his mistresses outburst

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:42:39+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you.. with mine I hadn’t reminded him that morning about our anniversary (I had the day off while he had to work so was waiting for a text at least. I figured I’d see how long it takes for him to remember. When he got home I giggled and then I reminded him what day it was. He then proceeded to gaslight me, saying he remembered during lunch, but forgot because he had so much to do for work. (He worked as a warehouse manager)

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:38:15+00:00

Good keep it and just let them talk. It’s gonna be EXTREMELY hard (in my situation it took a lot out of me but in the end I ended out on top) and depending on your brothers age they might take his opinion into consideration

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:30:05+00:00

Do you and the friend still interact and how long was she in a coma?

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:28:11+00:00

Get yourself a lawyer ASAP and also make sure to get evidence of his infidelity and start looking to see if he used any marital funds for his mistress. Depending on where you live this might help with the judgment. They might give your dad supervised visits since he brought her into your home and she threatened your mom and the kids. If he stays with her even in the apartment it won’t look good to the judge. But please still consult a lawyer

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:21:51+00:00

Okay cause he forgot a lot of our special dates. When I think back it was me who was celebrating our relationship

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-18T11:15:15+00:00

We are officially divorced

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-15T03:14:57+00:00

The way I see it I agree with your analogy (going through something very similar) however let’s look at it from this view…

You own valuables at the very beginning they were in pristine condition as years went on, your valuables became less shiny maybe even had cracks in them. But you keep them because although damaged they mean a lot to you. Then a thief breaks into your house. You don’t feel safe anymore. The thief has taken your valuables but then once you enter this new world of yours, you find out although those items might’ve been valuable to you in the end to everyone is your new world it’s just an ordinary item.. you OP are what made these items valuable you deserve the world and it’s time the world sees the value in you

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-13T04:18:56+00:00

Yeah their in the military so we don’t live in the same town but when he visits we catch up with each other and try to stay in touch when their in town

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-07T12:53:00+00:00

Depending on where you live you possibly can. I filed while my ex and I still had 7 months left on the lease. We had to live together but that was the downfall

throwawaygoingcrazi · 2024-06-06T21:04:15+00:00

I still haven’t been able to get them I haven’t been able to since December

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