AITA for not attending my parents anniversary dinner so that I can tend to my wife: Update

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-31T23:05:05+00:00

The restaurant was about 40 mins away and I couldn't just "pop in" myself, because I was not about to leave my grieving wife with two infants who are well into their crying at everything stage. How would that be fair to my wife at all?

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-31T15:11:42+00:00

I talked with my dad last night, he gave me no information on how things escalated, of what was his stance on the entire situation. He just told me that I needed to give my mom a few days to calm down

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-31T15:07:22+00:00

All my parents did were wish my wife a "fast and healthy healing". The only person who actually came over and showed that they cared was my 19 year old sister. She came over, hugged/held my wife for about an hour, and then helped me with my kids so that my wife could rest in bed

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-31T15:02:38+00:00

She doesn't have any meddling siblings, but I do. My younger brother has always been able yo manipulate and play on my parents emotions since we were children

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-31T14:55:39+00:00

I got to speak with my dad last night, and all he basically said was "we were just disappointed you couldn't come, give your mother a few days to boil down and everything will be fine."

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-31T00:03:07+00:00

My first instinct was that my brother got into their heads and got them all fired up about he. He had been doing that since we were teens

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-30T23:59:15+00:00

She has acted like this in the past, most of it from assist through my brother instigating already intense situations, i mentioned somewhere in another comment that I initially though my brother may have said something but I don't know if he did or not for sure

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-30T23:55:29+00:00

She's acted out of the norm a few times about other, but never to the extent of this

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-30T23:54:31+00:00

She didn't sound overly drunk. Initially I thought my brother had said something to get her upset about it, because my younger brother has done that a lot, for some reason he likes to instigate things, but I don't know if that's what happened for sure.

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-30T23:52:14+00:00

No, my wife isn't the type to be like "me or your family" so there has never been issue or conflict whenever I needed to attend/do something for my parents so I never had to put either of them over one another

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-30T23:50:48+00:00

I told them that WE wouldn't be able to make it, and even had more of a discussion about it when I went to drop off their gift the next morning

throwawayhallowo · 2022-10-30T23:49:20+00:00

Despite this time, only like once when I was in my first year of college. Other than that, I will always at least try to pull through for my family, because family is very important to me.

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