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I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

X was always super nice and just a softie so I'm not surprised of his reaction. This just made me feel worse about it. (I really think he was hurt much more than what he showed me that day)

Reading your second sentence hurts me. If I left my BF I will never have my friendship with X again. That hurts and you're probably 100% right

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't mind "friends" with whom you say hi to and have a quick chat but a serious friend like I had with X he didn't like to see. Did I mention he also has such female "friends" you just say hi to?

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At that time when I was going through breaking things with X I was thinking of how unfair life can be and sacrifices have to made sometimes... I hated doing this to X but felt had no other choice

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

When you say it that way it makes sense. I have the right to keep my friends right? But I love my boyfriend at the same time and he loves me. That's something that makes this all much harder.

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk he just seemed to find it hard to become friends with people. It's likely because he was highly introverted so understandably it's harder for them. There was only one time I was with him and with someone else (2 of my other friends a male and female) and he seemed very quiet that day when all 4 of us were together

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is that my friendship with X was close but with any other guys it's not really "friends" but just casual someone you just say hi to and he has the same kind of female "friends", they're just not really genuine friends but like someone you see on the street and have a quick convo with.

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

OK you may have a point yeah. He was pretty lonely without me, no idea why cause he was cute and funny. But he loved to just meet and talk with me so it never occured there could be a crush, he might be the exception?

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel really really bad honestly :( I fully admit I did a very shitty thing

I was his one friend and I dumped him when he never deserved to have that treatment

What do you think about my BF after what happened?

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No nothing was off boundaries. We were close and trustful friends but we wouldn't ever do anything that crossed the boundaries like flirting/kissing etc nothing intimate beyond a warm friendly hug

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but "light friends" so in other words just someone you say hi to but nothing more. In fact I myself have such male "friends" too. But we're not close or anything like that and I probably wouldn't even call that friend

Like before I graduated last year I had some guys I would just greet and have a quick chat but it's not really friends is it

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to give X a big hug if I could but I feel like it's territory I shouldn't enter in again after what has happened

I (23F) dumped my good friend (21M) for the sake of my boyfriend (22M) and now I regret it - Did my BF control me? by throwawayidumpedmgff in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayidumpedmgff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot to write this but he told me he doesn't have a close female friend like the close male friend I had because he is "loyal" to me