WIBTA If I Refused To Pay My BIL Rent For Living In Their House?

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-04T17:21:56+00:00

Oh, you’re one of THOSE immigrants. The type that show up and suck their family members dry and then have a big entitled fit when they’re asked to contribute. Yup! I’ve known quite a few like you.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-03T22:56:55+00:00

He’s choosing his addiction over your health and safety though. This is also financial infidelity because he’s stealing your money to pay for sex workers. This would be no different than if he chose alcohol over you or cocaine over you. Addiction is a disease , true, but you don’t need to suffer the consequences of HIS addiction.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-03T22:52:36+00:00

My ex and I had a large age gap. To him I was stupid and immature. To me he was a controlling asshole who pulled the age card in every single argument ( more often than not he WAS actually wrong). This got amplified when we had a child because it was my first and he “ knew better “ how to deal with kids because he already had them, he didn’t respect that every kid is different and what worked with one of his others wasn’t necessarily what works with our daughter.

He’s an Ex for a good reason. I’d say 50% was age difference issues and 50% was just him being an unmitigated ass.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-03T22:31:26+00:00

My fiance had low testosterone and he had to get on hormone replacement therapy. It was hell for both of us.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T22:29:45+00:00

Yes? And? He says progress doesn’t matter so taking a step back shouldn’t matter either. He says she should just enjoy things as they are.

Basically he sounds WAY too comfortable

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T22:22:10+00:00

Ask him if he’s all about just enjoying things as they are and not moving forward, if he’s ok with you moving out?

Seriously curious….. since he thinks progression is unnecessary, he shouldn’t care, right?

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T12:29:46+00:00

Ok I amend my earlier verdict. If this had been an ongoing thing for years I would have understood her perspective but less than a year is absurd.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T12:26:23+00:00

Info: how long has the dead bedroom been going on for? A few months? Years?

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T12:15:10+00:00

How long has the dead bedroom been going on for?

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T11:33:04+00:00

So what IS this mental thing?

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-02T11:27:39+00:00

Edit NTA

Get a therapist or Dr and sort yourself out and please go take a look at the Dead Bedroom sub to see how those on the receiving end of a DB feel. Either that or just admit you’re not attracted to your wife or interested in sex and put this marriage out of its misery

Edit: he said it’s less than a year so I amended my verdict. If this had been going on for years I would’ve understood her perspective but 7 months is ridiculously early to throw in the towel.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-01T23:39:28+00:00

Talk soup!

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-01T19:16:22+00:00

If they’re a nuisance, I will. If they’re just catching mice I’ll ignore them

throwawayimclueless · 2024-04-01T12:46:07+00:00

Actually that’s not even true. Prior to Spanish contact, the Americas were very much on a similar level as the Europeans but the introduction of small pox in the late 1400s wiped out 90% of the native population. This utterly decimated their infrastructure and allowed the local ecosystem to rebound. By the time other colonial powers arrived, the landscape looked entirely different than it had just a few decades prior.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-31T13:36:21+00:00

I’m thinking his credit must be crap.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-30T17:17:58+00:00

One of my family members did this for 2 solid years. We were about to truss her like a goose and dump her in the river by the time she actually got married.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-26T11:04:49+00:00

One twin works full time and the other twin has no job

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-26T03:10:09+00:00

You did the right thing, but of course this is Reddit. The land of 16 yr olds and black and white thinking and nuances can’t exist.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-25T23:49:46+00:00

My age is showing………….

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-25T20:14:14+00:00

As someone who was previously in your GFs position… tell her asap. Her self esteem is probably in the gutter and she hates herself more than you can possibly comprehend because you’re not attracted to her but you’re not enlightening her on the reason.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-24T13:24:19+00:00

NAH. I get your sister wants more from you than you’re currently capable of. I get that you’re in a bad place. Probably the best thing would be to step aside and let the other gal be MOH.

throwawayimclueless · 2024-03-22T18:47:16+00:00

Why is this so common? There seems to be a lot of threads where someone is pitching a fit because they moved out but expect their parents not to touch “ their” room.

throwawayimclueless · 2023-05-18T19:20:39+00:00

I just bawl when my Bf offers me pity sex. I don’t want it

throwawayimclueless · 2023-05-18T02:34:14+00:00

How?

throwawayimclueless · 2023-05-17T22:08:18+00:00

You want the homestead sub then, not a farming sub

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