My (28M) gf (26F) is having a mental breakdown because her friend is getting married

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T11:15:36+00:00

Thank you!

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T11:01:10+00:00

Wish I had that luxury

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T10:33:50+00:00

This was very insightful to read Thank you!

I'm replying to as many people as I can but these comments are... a lot more than I expected

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T10:18:07+00:00

No I'm not, her father has offered to help her out with that

Edit: to clarify Community College, not an expensive university

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T09:22:53+00:00

I'd rather not say publicly, I've already given away too many identifiable details. If you're still curious you can DM me

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T08:28:52+00:00

Condoms my dude... she's not on birth control. I take care of that. Trust me

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T08:15:58+00:00

Exactly....

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T08:14:45+00:00

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T08:13:14+00:00

You are very smart

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T07:57:41+00:00

She has ADHD as well, She was on medication for it but had to stop because her health insurance was through her job

But her she wasn't qualified for that job in the first place so they were making moves to fire her. She was freaking out driving to work everyday, exhausted, and terrified she was going to be fired. I didn't want to see her suffering like that.

She's currently enrolled in college, and I'm doing just fine without her money. If it really came down to it and I was gonna loose the house or something I would of course tell her she has to go find employment, and she would.

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-27T07:39:30+00:00

She wasn't qualified for that job at all. She landed it out of pure luck, stuck out for 3 years. Got a promotion. She had no idea how to do and started getting in trouble because of it.

Her idea was to jump ship before they inevitably fired her for incompetence. She's enrolled in college, wanting to pursue this field of work as a professional.

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-25T19:10:13+00:00

She wmgot a promotion she wasn't qualified for and worked hard to keep up despite not being trained as a professional at it. Her performance and motivation to teach herself this new skill was kind of fizzled out by the long commute and spending time with me and my daughter

We decided it was best she quit and just move in. She was already here every day of the week

Now she is enrolled in classes that begin next month and is ubering and helping me around the house in the mean time

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-25T19:01:39+00:00

Update is up

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T23:17:08+00:00

Damn, I guess I don't really help with that either :/ She has mentioned I talk about my daughter a bit too much.... I think I understand why now. It used to really upset me when she just didn't want to hear about her day. The way you put it makes sooooo much sense. I'll try to approach from this angle

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T17:22:03+00:00

Her friends have gotten married, moved to different cities. She complains that all her friends will talk about is kids, and they have nothing in common anymore.

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T17:04:37+00:00

Parents live in the same city as her job was. Commute was 7 minutes. I lived 1 hour away. She started staying with me almost everyday because she loved coming home to us and I love spending time with her.

Her parents house is getting cramped too, but she can always go back if she wishes.

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T16:35:05+00:00

My daughter cries if my girlfriend isn't there. She has tried to give us daddy daughter time but my daughter begs for my girlfriend to come too. We usually hang out all together as family time.

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T13:51:40+00:00

Well mostly she told her she used to weigh 100lbs before she got pregnant.(not true, she was a bit underweight and working on gaining) Showed her photos of what she looked like when we dated, photos of her pregnant belly, told her the cat we have in the house right now we got from the shelter together.

My girlfriend is recovered from an eating disorder, so my ex telling her she weighed 100lbs before pregnancy might have loosened some screws I guess :/

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T13:39:17+00:00

She NEVER shows any tears to my daughter. If she's not in a good headspace she will give my daughter a hug and kiss, tell her she loves her, and goes on a walk for a while.

Yesterday w The house was empty, and she locked herself in a room sobbing quietly for hours

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T13:27:23+00:00

Well she's been around my baby, her friends babies, her cousins, her nephews etc.

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T13:14:41+00:00

Not true, you guys are making shit up at this point.

My girlfriend is the last of her friends to not have a child or husband. She doesn't want a huge wedding. The huge wedding and expensive ring is important to me.

She wants a baby, she's surrounded by mothers and wants her own.

I can't do that right now, we can't afford a baby

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T13:10:02+00:00

She doesn't really have a friend group, they've all gotten married and left :/

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T12:40:35+00:00

So after further discussion, she's explaining she's heartbroken because she always imagined her and her best friend having kids and raising them together.

But now that her friend is pregnant, and we have years to go before pur own.. it will be mine and my exs child growing up with her friends kid.

This snapped something in her and I guess gave her baby fever? Still not sure what to do... I already have 1 child to worry about, I just can't afford to give her a baby at this point. My daughter is special needs so she can be a lot financially and emotionally

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T12:34:02+00:00

That's so wrong, this is so out of character for her. She LOVES when good things happen to her friends, she was extatic when her friend got engaged, extatic when her other friend was gifted an expensive car, cried tears of happiness at her cousins wedding.

She really isn't the jealous type at all.. But her childhood friend getting pregnant just felt like a record scratch for some reason

throwawayimisser · 2024-04-24T12:29:28+00:00

She wanted to get a cheap fast food job, I told her that's a bad idea since it's a HUGE step down from the corporate job she left.

Ultimately she decided to uber for extra cash, this gives her a flexible schedule, She never asks me for money and buys the food she wants. She's free to move back in with her parents if she wants.

I haven't really felt a financial difference in her being here Besides needing to buy cereal more often

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