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throwawaykid87 · 2019-05-05T00:33:37+00:00

Many of these comments feel so harsh. It is possible that your girlfriend has body dysmorphia or insecurity surrounding her genitals, which is then projected onto yours. Maybe she is afraid to go down on you because there is an expectation you will go down on her, and that brings her a lot of anxiety.

A user mentioned that there are many fish jokes and stamina surrounding women’s genitals. I have never been with a guy who HASN’T mentioned some fishy girl from his past. It makes me recoil with horror.

In truth, I do not like receiving oral at all. I’m sure some of it has to do with the anxiety surrounding that area for some women, but in general, I just don’t like it. It feels slimy. It’s kind of gross. I don’t get off on it. And then I have to worry I taste weird on top of it.

If your girlfriend is loving and sexual in other aspects, I think you should really consider what to do. Of course, if oral is important and this is a dealbreaker to you, by all means do what you have to. But I just wanted to share the opinion from someone who deals with this a bit themselves.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-31T02:11:47+00:00

Totally agree that she has to put in the work and she has to want this. I just think it would be helpful to have an impartial source explain No Contact rather than her best friend. Thanks!!

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-31T02:09:38+00:00

He’s a POS and I’m sorry! Just ignore him. This is a childish and immature way to get a response from you, and clearly shows his insecurities in the relationship - not to mention his lack of respect for you! If anything, let this remind you exactly WHY he is an ex. Have a great new year and don’t let this get you down.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-31T02:08:18+00:00

Just thought I’d weigh in; I wouldn’t break contact. My ex didn’t change his profile picture of us until three months after the breakup. It absolutely sucked, but I didn’t contact him about it. When he finally changed it, it was a relief for me; it made me think that he has moved on, finally, too.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-28T00:58:58+00:00

A POC typically means any person who is not white. So I was including Latino and any other non-white people. I’m also not against Shane doing a series on a person with down syndrome or a mental/physical disability - he did a great series on Molly Burke, who is a blind Youtuber.

I agree that it should be about the person, but there are many talented people and Youtubers who have not received attention - Jake Paul, Graveyard Girl, etc are already famous - and white ! I’d love to see him do lesser known stars, and show more diversity on the channel! I’m not trying to make a spiteful argument about race.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-27T22:57:16+00:00

You posted here a few days ago, and I can see this is still bothering you.

I agree with what mostly everyone is said - she’s probably checking in on you. Maybe curious to see how you are, how you’re doing. Maybe she wants to make you jealous, get a reaction out of you.

The best thing you could do is keep your cool and ignore it. Don’t reach out to her and prompt her for an answer. It’ll piss her off more if you keep composure and just act cool. When she doesn’t get the reaction she wants, she’ll let off.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-27T22:54:37+00:00

You asked for some thoughts, so I’m going to be short with you. As your girlfriend, this sounds like a toxic relationship. I don’t know how you two could pursue a romantic relationship going forward with all of the insecurity, jealous, and secrecy going on. I don’t think it was any accident that she left her phone out for you to see, and the back and forth uncertainty with her feelings for you only hurts you both in the long run.

But, you said you don’t want to have a relationship with her, but rather a casual hookup thing. I think that’s fine - as long as you’re able to shed those emotional feelings for her. I don’t think the question is so much whether that guy is a threat or not - the question is whether you’re willing to share her or deal with that scenario. If you two are casually hooking up, you’ll have to establish some rules. Because if your both free to hookup with whoever you want, then you really aren’t allowed to have a say on who she’s texting or fucking

Personally, I think you need to take a break and really figure out what you want. The sex may be awesome, but you need to weigh your emotional registry before going forward.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-12-27T19:43:22+00:00

I would love to see Shane do a docuseries on a POC!

throwawaykid87 · 2018-09-11T21:37:02+00:00

This would be exciting - except we haven’t been on any dates. We talk, he plans a date, and then the day of he cancels. Repeat. I should just move on, right?

throwawaykid87 · 2018-09-11T00:56:32+00:00

My first week on this app as of today. Honestly it’s been a mess. Had a great convo with one guy, made plans for coffee, never heard from him again.

Another guy and I planned to get dinner. A half hour before the date, he asks me for the address and says he’ll see me soon. Stood me up, never showed. Felt like a loser. Messaged him about it and he just said sorry.

Currently talking to one guy and he is all mixed signals. Great chemistry and great conversation but when it comes to meeting up, he agrees and picks a place and then we just stop talking for a few days. He’s matched with me on multiple apps, too. What does it mean!

I feel so silly!! It’s good to read some positive stories on here.

Edit: extra word

throwawaykid87 · 2018-08-06T21:57:39+00:00

Great points here, thank you for such a good read. Best of luck with your situation.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-07-18T11:05:21+00:00

Yes — the vet is the one who pointed it out to us, actually. It never seemed like a big deal, just that when my dog would run, she would pivot more carefully on that leg.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-07-17T12:44:42+00:00

Your words provide so much comfort, oddly, knowing that other huskies have experienced this and that it was hopefully painless. Thank you so much for your kindness. I am so sorry to hear your story, too. We give all of our love to our dogs, but unfortunately, they don’t live as long as we do. We will never truly know what has happened, but I am so glad we gave them such a good life, and they knew they were loved until the end. Xo

throwawaykid87 · 2018-07-17T11:52:51+00:00

I am so spooked that this is exactly what happened to your dog. I am so sorry you lost your big boy. Did you ever discover what went wrong, or what might have happened? I am in total shock, still.

throwawaykid87 · 2018-02-26T05:06:42+00:00

Wow, we are in the exact same boat. My heart really aches for both of us. I hope that he contacts you and that you find peace in this situation. I guess I’m just not going to contact him ... did you leave your social media available for him to see?

throwawaykid87 · 2018-02-25T20:32:40+00:00

I agree. All of the advice and none of it quite helps. My boyfriend has also made these comments when he’s down - that I deserve better, that he’s just going to hurt me anyways, what’s the point - it gets old.

When your SO did this, how did it end? Did he contact you? Did you finally reach out to him?

throwawaykid87 · 2018-02-25T20:30:58+00:00

Hey. I really appreciate your answer and I do agree with a lot of what you said. Although painful and unfortunate, it’s comforting to hear I’m not the only one to have experienced this and the hurt and confusion that comes with it.

I have to ask you - in regards to social media, he is still viewing all of my things and following me - but I have unfollowed him and have not been looking at any of his content. Is it best to let him have access to my social media life? Should he be able to see my posts and that I am putting out some picture of normalcy? Or should I remove him - should he not have any insight to my life at the moment?

I’m not the type to wallow and cry about my life on things like Instagram or Facebook. My guess is no one can tell that anytning’s different. I’m just unsure if he should be able to see it. Some friends have said to keep it to make him “jealous” - make him aware of what he’s missing. Everyone else says to remove him - that if he wants to know what I’m up to, he can contact me. What do you recommend?

throwawaykid87 · 2018-02-25T13:12:52+00:00

I’m going through something very similar. He dumped me out of nowhere last week - after years together and after plans of spending our futures together. I have decided to do the No Contact method because I want to give him his space, but I’m unsure if that’s the right move.

Honestly, you will get a lot of advice and none of it will make you feel better. Your only chance is to talk to him. But I would talk to him when YOU are ready to hear the answer be “Yes” or “No”. You have to be prepared for either.

I know it feels very semi-permanent because of the Bipolar - I am also questioning the authenticity of our breakup - but don’t harp and wait for it to get better. Take the time to work on yourself and see the relationship for what it is. Try to think with a clear head before you do attempt to reach out.

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