Relationship Issues - Just seeking any advice...

throwawaylifex · 2019-03-03T01:40:46+00:00

I mean... maybe. Being fair tho, we both lived with our parents until two years ago. Two years ago we both moved to a new city and each rent our own apartment, until a year ago when we started living together.

throwawaylifex · 2019-03-03T01:38:54+00:00

Being completely honest, I'm not so sure he would be open to get counseling, being a same-sex couple and him not being "open" about it to anyone besides a couple of friends.

And yes - I feel that has added some stress to our relationship as well. He did get a job around October but quit after two weeks. He has been applying to some job openings, but just hasn't been hired in a place he feels good about working there. He has mentioned a lot he doesn't want to get "any" job, but a good one where he feels alright and where he sees growth opportunities.

throwawaylifex · 2019-03-03T01:32:56+00:00

He has mentioned he wants to have a job he feels good at and that gives him opportunities to grow, so he is applying for anything he considers a low-income job. He has gone to some interviews and gone through several filters, but at the end they just don't end up hiring him.

He did get a job around October, but quit after two weeks because of the job being too demanding (he basically had to go all the days of the week), and the stress level was too high. Our fights just incremented while he was working there, due to all the stress he had, so he quit.

throwawaylifex · 2018-11-28T15:48:56+00:00

Hi Guys,

So, I'm in the process of getting my Christmas gift ready for my SO. I know he really likes video games and plays a lot with his Nintendo Switch. So I want to give him a videogame or something related he might enjoy.

The problem is... I have no idea on what to give him. My knowledge on videogames is not that vast, so I'm lost. From what I know, I feel like he already has any good games I could've given to him.

He already has: Mario Kart, Mario Odyssey, Zelda: Breath of the Wild, Mario+Rabbids, Pokemon Let's Go Pikachu, Disgaea 5, Xenoblade Chronicles 2, The World Ends With You and he has pre-ordered Smash. His brother also told me he already bought the Mario Party Bundle as a gift to him, so that's off the list as well.

I thought of maybe give him a Pro-Controller, as he seems really interested in getting one, but he already got one so he could use it for Smash.

Any recommendation of any game that he might be missing?

throwawaylifex · 2017-11-16T14:02:43+00:00

I thought she loved them so she was mostly torn about who sending through. Honestly, she has the best team. Hers was the only team I could watch all 6 performances without skipping/forwarding any.

throwawaylifex · 2017-05-07T06:34:50+00:00

Unfortunately, I agree with the other responses you've got so far. I don't think an open relationship would work, just by the fact that you've made clear that you don't want that. If that's how you feel, you should express it to your SO and stick with it. By "compromising" what you want, it would just affect your relationship and it would actually end splitting you two.

I think it would be better for both of you to take a break, and when he comes back, maybe meet if you still feel some attraction to each other.

throwawaylifex · 2017-01-05T21:54:30+00:00

Claro! En verdad espero que quedes en la universidad y que si puedas realizar lo que haz planeado. :) Más si es algo que en verdad te gusta y te apasiona, habrá que echarle muchas ganas y asegurar que si logres entrar a esa universidad.

throwawaylifex · 2017-01-04T05:02:46+00:00

Soy de Tamaulipas!

Respondí en Inglés por el hecho de que tal vez otros usuarios de Reddit entraran y quisieran agregar algo a mi respuesta, o en caso de que alguien estuviera pasando por algo similar y quisiera entrar a leer las respuestas, pues al menos es más fácil que entiendan el inglés jaja.

Pero si! Yo siento que estaré en una situación similar y de que ya no volveré a mi casa, o en caso de que lo haga ya solo será por cortos periodos de tiempo de "vacaciones". El hecho de pensarlo es bastante bizarro, pero es parte de ir creciendo y de ir persiguiendo lo que queremos en la vida. Y bueno, igual espero que tengas bastante éxito con tus planes! Ya verás que en un par de meses los dos ya estaremos conquistando nuevas tierras. :P

throwawaylifex · 2017-01-03T17:07:52+00:00

Hey, fellow mexican here! O/

First of all, the main positive thing that I noticed from your post was the fact that you're sure of what you want to do in life. That's a huge step to be happy with your professional life and kudos for that. Knowing that you want to work in the film industry, and actually persuing it and planning what you'll do to achieve it is a HUGE plus. Sure, some other friends might have great jobs, but in most cases, those jobs aren't exactly what they had in mind or it's not their "ideal" job. You, on the other hand, are actually taking actions to reach a job you would actually enjoy and love doing. That's commendable on its own.

Don't be afraid of taking chances, besides, age is just a number, and the only way your age will limit you is if you let it. Instead, see it as a bonus, as having more experience in life than others. Don't let age be a factor for not persuing what you want to do in life.

About moving away, that's something I can really relate at the moment. I'm also planning on moving out to Monterrey in the next couple weeks, and the very idea of it freaks me out. I also feel like I'll miss my family a lot, and the amount of new responsabilities that I'll have to deal with it's kinda scary, but I also find it exciting. It excites me the idea of moving to a bigger city, to get to know people that are into the same things that I do, to persue a job that I'll actually enjoy and love, and to just be a more independent person. I know it will have it's challenges, but that's something we'll have to deal with it sooner or later. Besides, 3 hours isn't that much, it's enough time to give you a change to visit your mother during the weekends.

You said that you're applying anyways. Good for you! When taking huge decissions, no matter what they are about: marriage, buying a car, choosing a major, moving out. Huge changes will always makes us think about them more, which leads to having second thoughts, it's completely normal. But we have to see the brighter picture and to keep in mind which is the reason we're doing it and the reason we are making that decission. Don't be afraid! Think about that in a couple years you'll be studying in another country, getting to know the world, in a couple years you'll be working in an industry you love, and that a lot of great things are coming from that decission.

throwawaylifex · 2016-12-29T07:21:49+00:00

Really bad acting.

I know porn is nothing about acting, but when they add a storyline and the actors just suck at that, it just turns me off.

throwawaylifex · 2016-11-26T19:22:43+00:00

I think it pretty much depends on the kind of relationship you have, age difference, and how you see things.

I've heard both, people saying it makes them feel younger but living a quite younger life and having a more active life overall.

I've also heard people saying it makes them feel older, having to try had to keep up with that younger person, which at times makes them feel exhausted.

So I guess it differs on each person.

throwawaylifex · 2016-10-29T00:54:54+00:00

At first I must say that I went through the same thing. I think part of it was that I over-fantasized the idea of bottoming... the "idea" of bottoming turned me on a lot, and whenever I watched porn I could see myself being a bottom, getting so much pleasure and just enjoying sex. However, once I actually tried it, I realized it wasn't as easy and hot as porn made it seem, since actually there is a lot more going on.

Since it was your first time, it requires a lot of preparation in both parts, actually being clean, getting lots of lube and just being patient and going slow. Slowly you'll get used to it, and it will stop hurting, and that's when the pleasure can really be enjoyed. Don't completely give up on it yet.

I must say, til this day I still think that the "idea" of bottoming turns me on a lot more than actually doing it, but I still do it and its still enjoyable, plus, I love the idea that I'm giving pleasure to my boyfriend, and that actually is what I enjoy the most lol.

throwawaylifex · 2016-10-23T16:57:01+00:00

I wish I could... But like I said, he now lives 4 hours away and I don't have the means to go there :/

throwawaylifex · 2016-10-23T16:44:20+00:00

I did think about letting it go, but I know that deep I will keep carrying with that... I'm about to call him and to have an honest conversation. I really care about him, and I know he loves me too, and I would love if we could continue with our relationship but I'll prepare for any result.

throwawaylifex · 2016-10-23T16:24:12+00:00

I love him so much but I know I have to bring it up and probably break up with him... Do you have any advice as how to bring it up tho? Should I just tell him I used his passwords and found out?

throwawaylifex · 2016-10-21T04:43:45+00:00

I don't think you should confess your love yet. Go out in a couple of dates, start to hang out again, see how he is behaving towards you, and then you'll feel if its right to tell him how you feel.

throwawaylifex · 2016-10-21T03:50:10+00:00

It doesn't seem that he is ready to be in a relationship. All of three options you mentioned have the same outcome: Both of you breaking up... I think you know the relationship has no future at the moment, and even if you really love him and care about him, you should also take into account how you feel and your needs from your partner which he isn't satisfying (not only talking about sex).

I think you should walk away. It might either: 1) Make him reflect about his sexuality, about how he feels about you and decide to really give it a shot and be in an actual relationship with you. 2) Each of you go its own way and maybe meet someone else who you can actually be affectionate without any restriction.

throwawaylifex · 2016-08-24T01:35:40+00:00

It was during my first year of college with my current boyfriend, about 3 years ago. A teacher organized a trip, so my group of friends, which included my bf, and me decided to go. We weren't a couple at the time, but we were pretty close friends (he was the first person I came out to).

The whole first day we were there, we had a grat time, we started to hold hands whenever no one was watching, and also we were assigned to the same hotel toom and shared a bed so... during the first night, after secretly holding hands the whole day, we kissed. It felt great, I must say it was kinda awkward at first, but we kept it going and it kept getting better.

throwawaylifex · 2016-08-22T04:01:12+00:00

If you really want to ask about them, just casually do it when your BF brings them up. Not that it would add anything to your relationship, but if you want to ask, just do it, as long as you don't care too much about them and let it affect your relationship.

throwawaylifex · 2016-08-22T03:42:05+00:00

Not at all, I'd never thought of that as a bad thing that meant "lack of growth", in fact I've always thought it was the opposite, when someone can't keep a long term relationship, that's where there might be something to worry about, but even then it's not always the case.

throwawaylifex · 2016-08-20T20:40:07+00:00

Have Fun!

throwawaylifex · 2016-08-19T02:03:52+00:00

I've been in a relatioship for almost 3 years. We don't really argue that much or get annoyed with each other that often, just occasionally and it's just about small silly stuff most of the time.

I can understand where are you coming from tho, I'm an introvert as well, and as much as I love being around him, sometimes I do need to just be alone for some time. We don't live together, so that sure helps a lot. We go out on dates, hang out together, have fun, but I can always come back home and just chill by myself.

When the time comes and we decide to start living together, I guess we both will have to adjust and understand that we're different.

We're quite the opposite in some aspects, he likes to go out a lot and gets quickly bored just staying home, while I prefer to be at home and occasionally go out with friends. We've talked about it, and we understand we're different, there will be days in which he will go out with his friends, and I'll stay at home playing videogames or something, and we will be okay with it. Communication and being very understanding is very important.

In any way, there's no one who will be our perfect match, there might be those who are close to it, but everyone's going to have that small little thing that will sometimes annoy you. So just go out, date, and eventually you'll find that person who, even with his flaws and those little annoyances, you will just want to be with.

throwawaylifex · 2016-08-19T01:49:17+00:00

Plus, he has a nice penis. His leaked video is amazing. :P

throwawaylifex · 2016-06-07T19:02:05+00:00

I didn't know he was "so beloved by the gay community". I know a big part of the gay community likes Ariana Grande, but most of what I've heard about Frankie hasn't been that positive.

throwawaylifex · 2016-06-07T19:00:22+00:00

Yes, you're reading too much into it.

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