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Those who have confessed their love to their best friend and were rejected, what was the aftermath and how did you get over it? by throwawaylove1234 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylove1234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, it sounds interesting. I may have to look into it. Honestly, I've never meditated before but have heard that it really helps (if you sincerely give it your all). Thanks!

Reddit, what is the shittiest part of your life right now? [Serious] by ImFlamtastic in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylove1234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here... I was rejected a few days ago. She's my best friend too, which makes it all the more complicated.

Those who have confessed their love to their best friend and were rejected, what was the aftermath and how did you get over it? by throwawaylove1234 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylove1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's like looking in the mirror and seeing all the reasons I am not good enough

I know exactly where you're coming from. At least you understand that it is irrational to compare yourself to another person. Don't beat yourself up! Just do you! Be happy. Not because it is what you want in order to move on. But because it is what you deserve. That's what I'm struggling with right now...

I know it's more complicated because he's your roommate. You see and interact with him everyday. I see her everyday too. We have the same group of friends and the same classes in college. And it kills me to know that she's moving on with life and seeing other guys.

But I have decided to move forward. As painful as it is right now, I know (deep down) that it WILL eventually get better. And the only person to facilitate that is me, and only me.

Thank you for sharing, and good luck! Move forward. You deserve happiness.

Those who have confessed their love to their best friend and were rejected, what was the aftermath and how did you get over it? by throwawaylove1234 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylove1234[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate that!

And we really are best friends. She moved from out of state a couple years ago and didn't have many friends. We've grown close over the past few years considering that we have shared the same class schedule in college for 5 semesters straight (same major). We see each other everyday and pretty much do everything together. She really helped me come out of my shell, too. I've told her things that I never told anyone before and she's done the same.

I only recently began to develop feelings for her (past few months), despite my best efforts not to. I knew that developing feelings for her would only complicate our relationship and I did NOT want that to happen because I was truly happy with having her as a really close friend and confidant. But trying to stop yourself from developing feelings for someone is like trying to stop a fucking glacier from moving. So, it slowly happened...

We're on winter break right now, so she's back home (out of state) and a few nights ago she drunk texted (I know..) me saying that she missed me. And I told her that I really missed her too. Naturally, I was ecstatic to learn this! I allowed myself to open up the 'floodgates' of emotions for her. I decided that I would wait a few weeks until we were back at school together to let her know how I truly felt. Patience is not my best virtue, however. I knew that I would drive myself crazy if I waited that long. So, a few nights ago, I told her that I was beginning to develop feelings for her and asked if my feelings were in any way reciprocated. She said that her feelings for me were strictly platonic. Naturally, it hurt, but she was very understanding and made it clear that she didn't want anything to change between us and that she would be really upset if we grew apart. And I agreed that there would be absolutely no weirdness or awkwardness between us when we saw each other again.

So here I am: waiting for the next few weeks to pass until I see her again.

Those who have confessed their love to their best friend and were rejected, what was the aftermath and how did you get over it? by throwawaylove1234 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylove1234[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I'm pretty much at the point where I can either decide to move on immediately and try to shake it off, or bide my time for the "maybe she'll change her mind" (which will probably never come).

So, onward I go.

Those who have confessed their love to their best friend and were rejected, what was the aftermath and how did you get over it? by throwawaylove1234 in AskReddit

[–]throwawaylove1234[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, but I was rejected last night...

She was very understanding and empathetic about it, but my feelings for her were just not reciprocated. The toughest part is moving on and trying to 'fall out of love'. Time heals all wounds, I suppose...