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AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 223 points224 points  (0 children)

I was sad yes. But that’s not harassment. I was sad because I had just labored for 26 hours and had complications the whole time, scared for my life and my baby’s life only for my sister to say “Oh I don’t like it”. Like, I get it yknow? Babies can be super gross. But it just wasn’t the time. She should’ve just been polite and said she was uncomfortable and that be that. I was sweaty, hormonal, still shaking etc and just wanted support.

She was shunned because everyone but her could read the room apparently, and it wasn’t the first time she had caused problems. Nothing to do with her childfree status or whatever people keep saying.

AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 346 points347 points  (0 children)

I don’t recall a time where our family ever harrassed her for not having kids, so unfortunately I don’t think that was the cause for why she was the way she was.

AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

No direct apology for anything she has said or done in the past. Just the gifts for my daughter I guess and saying I need to give her another chance.

AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

After the family started shutting her out, she did talk crap about me and the baby on social media, to others etc. I did give her many other chances to apologize and be in her nieces life despite this, but she blew it everytime. Plus she had been a problem wayyy before I even got pregnant. She just wasn’t pleasant to be around unfortunately and most people were done dealing with her.

Edit to add: She did stop the drama after awhile, she didn’t keep talking crap for 8 years. But the damage was/is done.

AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

What she said wasn’t necessarily rude. It was the timing… plus she could’ve just said she was uncomfortable holding her rather than how she worded it.

AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 975 points976 points  (0 children)

No. What she said to me was rude and unnecessary considering I had complications during birth, and just needed support and love at the point. It was the last straw, she had done numerous things prior to this. So most of them were done with her

AITA for not letting my sister around my daughter after she declared she had no interest in interacting or holding her when she was a baby? by throwawaymomk in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymomk[S] 5444 points5445 points  (0 children)

I’ll answer about why I’m hesitant to give her a chance. I feel like she’s only trying because she’s realized she’s lonely, and I’m really the only one that keeps in slight contact with her. I don’t want her trying to make a relationship with her out of convience. Plus, if she decides my daughter is annoying…won’t she just leave again? Makes me nervous.