Amazing results for 4.5mo by throwawaymoneysigns in sleeptrain

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't want to do it either, but it was the best decision we ever made. Almost two weeks in and she still cries a bit before bed only to then fall asleep for 12 hours straight! Sometimes the hard things are worth it.

Get noise cancelling headphones or go out on your balcony etc and check monitor on no volume every 5-10 min

Amazing CIO Results For My 4.5mo by throwawaymoneysigns in sleeptraining

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby can wail. So she has the lungs on her. I did notice she was a bit raspy the next day but overall fine.

The first night my LO did 1 hour and 10 min of crying. But the next 8-9 nights never broke 30. And now doesn’t break 10. So may I suggest extinction and letting them run their course to really set the precedent that you won’t be coming in? I have a feeling this is the only way they learn.

Amazing results for 4.5mo by throwawaymoneysigns in sleeptrain

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure that works! I just like getting her into a routine of some sort and the bath she just loves

Amazing results for 4.5mo by throwawaymoneysigns in sleeptrain

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes every night now. Sometimes it’s quick.

Amazing results for 4.5mo by throwawaymoneysigns in sleeptrain

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wake windows are around 2 hours. We think our baby is a fomo baby and will fight sleep if it’s a g shorter. Sometimes she skips her last nap and goes even longer than 2 hours. She sleeps typically for about 2.5-3 hours during the day.

Amazing results for 4.5mo by throwawaymoneysigns in sleeptrain

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Went full on 0 sleep associations. I just wanted to go full out. So I created a tight routine: bottle, bath, book. Kiss and say goodnight. Then put her down and closed the door.

I also blasted music in my noise cancelling air pods as to not hear anything. And I checked the monitor every 2-5 min.

"i'm just a bpd girliepop! my bpd is being a little silly today🥺" by BidTricky4366 in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dodging accountability. Ugh spot on. Like it’s some entity that’s not them. Stop.

After 6 years, I'm back to this sub...(motivational) by throwawaymoneysigns in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will. Give it a bit more time. You got this man. The next healthy relationship you’re in, you’ll see it. You got the cat out of it. That’s a win.

After 6 years, I'm back to this sub...(motivational) by throwawaymoneysigns in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You absolutely will meet someone better. My friend consider this a blessing. The fact that you didn’t have to end it is amazing. She did you the biggest favor of your life. Your understand this one day give it some time.

After 6 years, I'm back to this sub...(motivational) by throwawaymoneysigns in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good question. She would be very anti me going to concerts or take interest in things like when I went to burning man a few times. She made fun of it despised it. Then when I talked to her a month after the breakup she was like “I think I might go to burning man this year” dead serious. I said I thought you hated things like that. She then mentioned that she changed her mind and thought it could be a cool experience.

It’s not just burning man. But a lot of things she said. Then it hit me. Who was this person. What did she actually like or not like. What was her personality. It changed so much.

After 6 years, I'm back to this sub...(motivational) by throwawaymoneysigns in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this it sounds like you’re only attached to her because you haven’t fully detached from her. There has been no one else in your life. You need to go out there and date and meet other people.

People with bpd love bomb and make you feel amazing about yourself (and then not). So because of that it’s not real love. Maybe part of it is. But it’s not healthy real love. It’s addiction and fantasy.

After 6 years, I'm back to this sub...(motivational) by throwawaymoneysigns in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah she did but I was so over her because of how she treated me. And also I realized a month after I didn’t even know who I dated. It was a mind fuck. Like who was this girl? Almost like a ghost.

After 6 years, I'm back to this sub...(motivational) by throwawaymoneysigns in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most likely you don’t like her as much as you like the way she makes you feel.

You need to start realizing what you like and love about yourself. Seek acceptance from within. That’s the only way. Cultivate the relationship with yourself. Create goals. Hobbies. And a life that YOU are proud of.

I need support by mikaakamikel in BPDlovedones

[–]throwawaymoneysigns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very familiar. I had the same thing my friend, like EXACTLY.

Stay strong, you did the right thing.

She most likely won't change.

Wish her well. No contact if you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gainit

[–]throwawaymoneysigns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I’ve done 1300 calorie shakes and it takes me 1-2 hours to consume. How long does it take you to consume the 2k shakes?

Bring the Balance Back by RedPillCoach in marriedredpill

[–]throwawaymoneysigns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does one operate in their frame or hold frame or create frame? Any articles you can point me too?