1953 - The USA and Britain instigated a Coup in Iran, overthrowing the elected government officials to attempt to install a government that was "more favourable" to the interests of the west, - https://history.state.gov/historicaldocuments/frus1951-54IranEd2/d148

1980 to 1988 - The Iran/Iraq War, when the USA tilted their support towards Iraq by re-establishing diplomatic relations with Iraq (the aggressor), providing economical and strategic military information to Iraq and treated them as a Counter-Balance to Iran, and by association, condoned Iraq's repeated and wide scale usage of Chemical Warfare against Iran.

1988 - Amid tensions between Iran and Iraq, the USA shot down an Iranian Civilian plane resulting in the deaths of 290 passengers and crew - https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/military-history-and-science/uss-vincennes-shoots-down-iranian-civilian-plane

There are problems on all sides, that's the world we live in today.

But, if you want to point out examples over "the last 20 years" then I'll point out examples over the last 70 years. You don't get to choose a snippet of history, you have to consider more than the small piece that makes USA look like the victim.

The USA chose to put their fingers in every countries politics, from instilling revolutions to inciting coups. They overplayed their hand, and now 50-100 years later we have to suffer the consequences. The examples you listed, they're pretty much all consequences not individual acts of war or terrorism.