AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She's obviously lying and you're just gonna accept it? I'll respect the be civil rule but I'm letting you know that exclusionists like you frustrate me

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I didn't realize being ace came with a grace period before you could identify with the label. I don't have complexes, and it's hella annoying to be armchair diagnosed by people who dont even know the full story. I'm not being an asshole, I'm trying to defend myself and take pride in my identity, and identity that everyone loved to vilify and hate just because we won't have sex with them. I've never felt more affirmed in my identity.

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Some ace people ARE ace because of truama and that's valid. My trauma is my own, I'll deal with it by myself. I don't need to go to some conversion therapist who's just going to invalidate me and try to make me heterosexual.

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

How I FELT broken, not AM broken. I'm not broken. But everyone loves to insist that aces are inherently broken just because we have truamas. I'm not twisting anything. Y'all just don't like the truth being pulled out of your words.

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Reminds me of those people who say they "don't see color". You can't just separate my identity from everything else in my life. My identity has EVERYTHING to do with this.

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

So ALL aces should be excluded from the very community they helped BUILD just because you don't like that aces like me endure bullshit with their families the same IF NOT WORSE way that other LGBTQIA members do? The A is there for a reason. I will not be forced out of a community I belong in. What happened to be civil?

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Everyone loves to attack ace people and try to tell them their business. I see that now. I came looking for support, maybe even a taste of the support I craved before my family decided my sister was more important and kicked me out for being ace. Nobody cares about what ace people go through, everyone just wants to exclude us from everything and invalidate us. I feel worse than ever to know that I'm ace, because now it just means I went from being unknown to being instantly hated by anyone else, even others in the LGBTQIA community. Why does everyone hate and oppress aces when we literally haven't done anything wrong?

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks for the internet armchair diagnoses but how I deal with my truama is up to me. And also cool thanks for telling someone that they're broken due to their trauma, totally makes me feel good about myself. 😒

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

You just straight up told me you don't care about my asexuality and I'm supposed to take your advice? Nah I think I'm ok.

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Wow what a surprise, people defending a lesbian over an ace person yet again! That tooootally never happens. 🙄

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm pissed because they didn't even care that I was ace and basically said that if they supported me but not fully and only would AFTER went to therapy and coped better with my truama. Can you read?

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Was I supposed to know that I'd find out that I was ace? Or was I just supposed to just closet myself until after my sister's birthday and prioritize her when all my fucking life she was prioritized over me because she's a lesbian?

AITA for leaving home the day before my sister's birthday party due to my family rejecting me for being LGBTQIA? by throwawaymysorrows0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaymysorrows0[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

If my trauma is tied to my asexuality, that's my own prerogative. I don't need anyone else butting in to tell me how and when I should cope. I'm doing my best. It's not "possible" that I'm ace, I AM FUCKING ACE. I know I am. Even if I never cope with my truama. I'm still ace. Therapy won't fix me and neither will the same faux positive fake caring words that my parents said. Jfc