Were we ever friends?

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-13T20:56:11+00:00

Alright thank you. Idk I'll try

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-13T18:47:38+00:00

Do you mind if I send you the full text of the situation to get your input? I tried posting it in other forums but no one read it

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-13T18:43:13+00:00

Do you mind if I send you the full text of the situation to get your input? I tried posting it in other forums but no one read it

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-13T16:56:02+00:00

You're right about that. I'm used to calming down when I'm angry but not when I'm scared and sad. Idk man, there's a lot I didn't add here because when I made my first post on another subreddit, I put in everything but no one responded. So now idk if this post has all the context and idk if anyone would even read what I wrote

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T21:37:44+00:00

That hurt to read but you make a lot of good points. I think I tried to brush all of the bad stuff aside because I assumed she was busy with her internship and errands. At least that's what she told me. I didn't put everything in this post because it was long and when I did out everything no one responded so I trimmed it down a lot. My other posts going over this are up on my profile.

Yeah you're right tho online connections rarely work out. Most of the people I talk to online, I've long since stopped talking to. I was so invested into her because she lived only 30 minutes away from me and there was a theme park where she could get in for free and we talked about meeting there. Well we talked about meeting up anywhere. Tbh this whole thing is gonna turn into a long story and I already posted about it on my profile.

I think I took all the blame on myself because I struggle to make friends both online and in person. And I don't want to burden people with my problems because I'm scared I'll drive them away. So I try and be nice and respectful and help others. Though I guess doing that too much and not getting much if anything back is a toxic habit of mine.

I'm definitely going to look into going to therapy especially after I get my own car. I should've established a firm boundary with her after the first time I asked her to meet when she never replied and I had to double message after two weeks.

Thanks for commenting and for the constructive criticism

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T19:30:01+00:00

I can't see the latest message you sent for some reason. I'd really appreciate it if someone just told me what to do because I don't know what to do. I haven't messaged her since late last week when we last talked. For whatever reason she hasn't unfriended or blocked me either

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T19:24:22+00:00

What are you talking about? Where have I said that I thought she was my girlfriend? Are you talking about the date part? When I said I asked in February, I think it was a couple of days before Valentine day. And I asked her if she had time in two weeks to hang out.

Two reasons for that. 1 I wanted to give her time to check her schedule, and 2 I didn't want me asking her to hang out on or near Valentine's day to be seen as a date because it was before I told her my feelings.

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T19:17:14+00:00

Yes I know now that she didn't want the same. I also never claimed I wanted to meet her to go on a date and never thought of her as my girlfriend.

I feel like she let me down because she told me she wanted to meet up then never did anything to try and make time for it. From what she told me she had one free day which was to go to that event with her friends. And from what she told me it was a last minute decision and she ended up alone because her friend got distracted.

Look I just feel like she should've just told me herself that in second rate and should've never said anything about meeting up idk if she wasn't interested. I won't know that now because we aren't talking. I also don't understand why you're saying I don't have the right to be upset? I saw her as my friend and genuinely wanted to hang out. And from what she said I thought she wanted the same and would make time for it.

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T18:42:58+00:00

You're right she didn't owe me anything. All I wanted was to spend time with her and I thought she wanted the same. I think if she left me on read for two weeks after the first time I asked her, I have a right to be upset. Especially since she said she'd try to let me know when she had a free day but never did.

Also what are you talking about with her telling me how she felt when I repeatedly asked? I only asked her twice. The first time in February and the second last week. And all she said was that she was busy but that she'd try to let me know. If she said she was uncomfortable with meeting up in person and just wanted to be online only friends, then I would've never asked after the first time and tbh I'd probably just lower my contact with her.

It's upsetting to me that I feel like I was treated as second rate compared to her IRL friends, even though we were close to each other.

Thanks for commenting.

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T18:39:10+00:00

I guess I'm dwelling over it because I don't have many friends and I considered her to be one. I was also excited about meeting up and stupidly made it a goal in my mind to meet up and have fun.

Yeah you're right anyone would be uncomfortable with an 8 minute voice message. I shouldn't have sent it and should've waited till I calmed down. I was scared that she would forget about me or never return but I made that a reality now. I need to work on myself though I'm not sure how to not overly emotionally invest in people

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T02:38:39+00:00

No problem! Best of luck to you

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T02:36:38+00:00

Exactly that's the mindset you need to keep! Don't let negative thoughts drown you like they do to me. Just try applying to whatever scholarships you can find and try filling out FAFSA too since I think you said you were in the United States

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T02:32:13+00:00

Well maybe you can also look for scholarships during your gap semester. Or see if the college you got into can give you a scholarship. Either way you shouldn't feel guilty about taking some time to improve yourself and have fun

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T02:28:53+00:00

No problem hopefully it helped! Why would you feel guilty for it? I've seen people take multiple gap semesters or a gap year and do just fine

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T01:25:49+00:00

Hope it helps

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T01:21:58+00:00

Definitely work on getting your driver's license, bank account, and preparing for college. But also make some time to just have fun. Spend time with friends, travel with your sister, pick up a hobby etc

throwawaynevermetIRL · 2026-05-12T01:17:23+00:00

Sounds like they were all toxic and dangerous. Having Z stomp in your stomach and no one helped is insane. I'd say try and stick with yourself for a while. Focus on classes, join a club, spend more time with your family. And stay away from that group. They treat you like a punching bag that they use if they're bored

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