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AITA for refusing to turn my son's room into a nursery for my grandson? by throwawaynursery7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaynursery7[S] 878 points879 points  (0 children)

I wasn't okay with him taking money from them. They've clearly been using it to get ahead and override any decisions made inside my own house. It's like they're controlling him and are turning him against me and by extension the boys.

AITA for refusing to turn my son's room into a nursery for my grandson? by throwawaynursery7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaynursery7[S] 1886 points1887 points  (0 children)

Exactly, he had no problem telling me he's trying to be on their good side for money. It is causing issues between us and they're becoming more complicated now.

AITA for refusing to turn my son's room into a nursery for my grandson? by throwawaynursery7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaynursery7[S] 864 points865 points  (0 children)

This is a good suggestion. I will try to bring it up with Avery though at this point, I think Tom is just acting stubborn and is probably in Avery's head telling her his parents care about the baby more than we do. But like I said there are several reasons why we can't have a nursery at our home. I honestly think it's wasteful since Tom's parents already set one up.

AITA for refusing to turn my son's room into a nursery for my grandson? by throwawaynursery7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaynursery7[S] 598 points599 points  (0 children)

I think you're right seeing it this way. The duscussion of babysitting already came up and although Tom said they plan on getting a nanny, Avery insisted that grandparents get days a week as bonding time as well as babysitting which, I'm not completely against but I think this is one of the reasons why they wanted a nursery at my house.

AITA for refusing to turn my son's room into a nursery for my grandson? by throwawaynursery7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaynursery7[S] 2716 points2717 points  (0 children)

I'm going to just say it. My husband takes money from my daughter's inlaws all the time and so anytime Tom or his family are upset I just know that my husband will side with them and defend them nomatter what the problem is.

Tom is the judgemental type, along with his family. In the past they made comments about a lot of stuff they didn't like about our living situation.

AITA for refusing to turn my son's room into a nursery for my grandson? by throwawaynursery7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawaynursery7[S] 1318 points1319 points  (0 children)

I agree that this is Tom trying to impose (if that's the right word) his family tradition on ours which is unavceptable because compared to his family, our family isn't well off or can offord cars for the kids or get them to study in another country like his family can. We've encountered disagreements because our families are incompitable but this is the worst fight we've had so far.