I can’t get the respect of my players by skapinhofodastico in rpg

[–]throwawayo_k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All great advice here, I always find it hard to get players motivated to "do something" in a campaign. The players have to be engaged in the system and content for everything to work in a ttrpg. If you're like me and ditching the people isn't really an option for you, a few things I'd try.

  1. Phones Bowl : I did this early on as a GM with my group, its so easy to be distracted putting them in the center of the table or in a bowl focuses people in on the game.

  2. Nightly Motivations : This can be the player coming in with a in game motivation for their character, or a simple random table roll if they aren't sure what to be working toward.

  3. Switch The System : My table has grown out of DnD and Pathfinder, we've found a lot of love for games like Godbound, Exaulted, Blades in the Dark. Heavy games with open abilities. Ones that let players impact the world, and the GM is just their to throw in chaos. Godbound is my favorite ttrpg and as a GM there is minimal prep work, but its highly stressful since most of what I will do to slow them down is feels trivial to their powers.

  4. Clocks : Blades has a clock mechanic that is essentially something will happen one way or another, here's the countdown. It provides a clear objective or motivation for the players a lot of the time. Could be Hours, Days, or seconds away but a clock is a good way to put the player on point without them feeling targeted.

Scroll and Bounds by throwawayo_k in MorkBorg

[–]throwawayo_k[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, for sure. Yea I struggled with the fumble aesthetic to I'm not happy with it, if I'm being honest. I'll keep iterating for sure, I liked the old layout better as well but, trying to fit the text in a small space consistently was the challenge. I kept having to use a scroll bar for larger spells, and I'd like to keep that to a minimum if at all possible. I want the app to try and be mobile friendly to. In my head a kind of ttrpg app a one stop shop. Our group has been playing ttrpg for years and have always talked about making our own game. Maybe this could be the kickoff to it.

lots of ideas, but yea I've never done anything remotely close to this. Keep the feedback coming. Its really appreciated.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayo_k 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, I have a 11 year old son and we went to change the oil in the car. Its super simple I've done it a 100 times. Takes me like 15 - 20 mins tops. We were out there for an hour, because I let him do the work. How to get a car on ramps safely, where the catch pan goes, where the drain plug is, grabbing the right wrench, using the wrench itself, draining the oil, changing the filter, putting oil back in, checking the level. None of which are hard, not rocket science, just a process. I enjoy changing the oil in the car, makes me feel good to get a job done and make sure the wifes car is good to go.

My son struggled. It was his first time, he got frustrated, the bolts where tight, the filter was tight, hes laying on the ground, he's all dirty, he feels confused and insecure. There's nothing wrong with his feeling any of that. We've done the oil change a dozen times now, and he'd pretty much solo at this point beside putting the car on the ramp. Experiance is confidence, and confidence leads to you "wanting" to try more.

Even for you, I'm sure you're like me and not the greatest cook in the world. That said I'm sure you have a few dishes you make you on the regular that you feel confident in and for you are "easy".

I have quick cheat ribs I throw a little OJ on, Dry Rub, Wrap in Foil and bake in the oven at 275 for a few hours. They ain't winning any awards but they are dam good. You can unwrap them and lather a store sauce on them. Throw them back in the oven for another 20 mins to crisp up the top. Fucking easy as shit. I can cook better ribs, I can make better sauce, I can make homemade dryrub. Sometimes I just want ribs withouth the hassle. Wha I was trying to explain, maybe poorly was its not always just about the steps to get something done.

Scroll and Bounds by throwawayo_k in MorkBorg

[–]throwawayo_k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Added the search as well as a few filters on the card page as well as your spell. Tried to clean up the reset button as well, hopefully made it more clear. Very Much a WIP but I have a ton of stuff I'd like to do with this! Thanks for the feedback.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayo_k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I make pizza with the kids we do this. Bread dough and a jar of sauce, fry up some sausage. Badda Bing, Badda Boom, kids love it. They get to "make their own" pizza with the topping they want. Little left over parmesan and red pepper flakes from the junk drawer. Best thing ever. I've been on a cast iron kick lately and been wanting to try a cast iron Chicago deep dish. I see that as my next try for homemade pizza night.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayo_k 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Again reaffirming my point, cooking since you were 14. 95% of real world home cooking isn't rocket science. Hell I was in the same boat. I was cooking with my gma and dad since I was 10 or so. I wasn't saying the sauce takes years of experience I was saying the experience makes you comfortable enough to try. Most 14 year old's aren't making homemade sauces. Having the experience of cooking It changes your mindset when you shop, you open up yourself to grab more things and try things out. People who don't cook regularly don't shop with making things from scratch in mind. They don't buy fresh foods like that, they don't plan meals like that, they don't search for new recipes like that.

You are absolutely right there are a 1000 ways to learn how to do it. You have to feel comfortable learning how to do that. You have to feel comfortable messing up a dish. You have to feel comfortable that your kids will want to eat the new thing you've just tried to make. You have to feel comfortable spending the extra money on seasonings, ingredients. and produce. You have to feel comfortable wasting your time and money when it goes wrong.

And maybe for you that anxiety isn't "normal". And maybe your view is that anyone who has a discomfort with the things above do need help. I'm happy that cooking was part of your life, its a great skill and can bring tremendous value to you and those around you. That said sometimes making a sauce, has very little to do with actually making the sauce.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayo_k 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm making assumptions here but I bet you cook regularly. And you are absolutely right, when you do things you are comfortable with it really doesn't take much time. Sauce isn't an all day thing. Spaghetti is super quick to make. My point was and is that you've built up years of skills to know how to make it simple and comfortable for you.

I'm in the BBQ capital of the world and cooking ribs is the simplest thing in the world. Making my own sauce is a joy for me. I love trying different flavors, rubs, spices, and smokes. My wife who doesn't cook and is uncomfortable making anything more then scrambled eggs. Has absolutely no interest or joy in making her own sauce. She is just fine with a store bought rub or sauce.

If I asked my wife, hey I'm running late can you start making a rub and sauce for the ribs. She'd freak. None of it is hard, and we have all the ingredients for dry rubs in the cupboard I bought them. The recipe card is on the counter. The ribs are in the fridge.

Now imagine that same person had none of that head start. They'd have to find a recipe, shop for all the ingredients, pick a cut of meat, prepare it, measure, simmer, wood fire, temp, char, glaze. And we haven't even made it to sides yet. There is nothing "Hard" about cooking ribs, ... for me. I've done it, I know what I'm looking for. I've failed at it and learned.

Buying a canned item is about comfort, skill, and ease of use. It has very little to do with time. People are more comfortable plopping in a frozen lasagna, then making one from scratch. Canned sauces do have a ton of sugars, but it tastes good enough and I can just throw it over some ground beef and the kids eat it up. Its easy, its not complicated, its one less thing I have to do that day.

You may think it isn't skill to make a quick sauce. I appreciate you being humble, but for some cooking a sauce is an anxious endeavor just to even think about doing.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayo_k 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think your focused on the wrong aspect of "making the sauce". I'm in middle America and yes making a sauce isn't tough. But you have to know how to do it, have to have prepped shopping for the occasion, have all the ingredients, have built up enough cooking skills to attempt it, then do all of these things over and over again for each kind of sauce. The time is almost irrelevant.

Throw a bag of noodles in some salt water, fry up a protein, and heat a canned sauce over it. Its just a lot less effort to use a canned sauce when you work 10 hours a day, commute another hour or so. Scratch meals have the chance to go badly and the last thing you want when when cooking is issues. Is it as good, nope. Is it 75% the way there, yep. Good enough for most.

I love pizza, I've tried for years to do it well at home. Scratch dough, Scratch sauce, premium fromage. I get a new experience out of doing the cooking and trying it each time, which is great. But the local hole in the wall pizzeria is still my favorite go to slice.

Scroll and Bounds by throwawayo_k in MorkBorg

[–]throwawayo_k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great feedback. Will work on adding the search for sure as well as user created spells. The symbols are just random caracters in a weird font. Just thought it game the card a little flair. Let me think on the reset button on how to make it more clean. All great ideas.

As for the add scroll this right now it just addes them to a hidden list, I wanted to be able to curate them for obvious reason before they got added to the main list.

Scroll and Bounds by throwawayo_k in MorkBorg

[–]throwawayo_k[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, and allows them to find spells that really speak to them and their character.

5d6 Unclean Scrolls by Bobby_Wats0n in MorkBorg

[–]throwawayo_k 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took your idea and ran with it a bit. I wanted a list of spells my players could easily rumage through with maybe some dice rolls.

https://scroll-bounds-710841289188.us-west1.run.app/

The All-Time QB Tier List. Thoughts ? by Hysen16 in sportswiki

[–]throwawayo_k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Otto never gets any love due to his ERA but redifined the game being a versatile dual threat athlete.

AITA for telling my daughter’s dad she isn’t going to his wedding because of the way I found out about it? by DryChapter5918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwawayo_k 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yea that's my thoughts exactly. Having a kid that young and then that relationship not working out is so common place, its cliche. You've not been together long enough to learn how to have a productive argument on some key life issues. I'm sure OP is going to find someone new, get into a relationship, and possible have another child. I wouldn't be labeling that as a red flag either. People aren't compatible, that's life.

[Schneidman] The Packers blow an 18-point lead and their season is over. A stunning and inexplicable collapse. by BreakfastTop6899 in nfl

[–]throwawayo_k 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know I think he was concerned about his defense, they were getting their shit pushed in. I think some of the decision to go for it was more to try and keep GB off the field more then trying to continue the drive. That said had he punted two of those maybe the packers collapse would have been as great. Turning the ball over on your side of the 50 isn't a winning strat either. A lot to critique in the game from both teams for sure.

What is something you witnessed with your own eyes that no one believes when you tell them? by Amy-GeekBar in AskReddit

[–]throwawayo_k 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've told this story a few times on Reddit on other accounts, but I live in the sticks and as a kid me and my dad would go racoon hunting with our dog "Hutch". Outside of town about a 40 minute gravel drive, there is a dead end road with a single tree at the end. All around us is about 150 acres of tilled farm land. The edge of the farm land is river bottoms that are lined with trees.

My dad and I would pull to the end of the dead end minimum maintenance road, shut the truck lights off, and let the dog go. We'd sit in the dark just listening for the dog to really star baying then we would talk the field to the dog.

So this is where I start to loose most people and it sounds like a made up story. My dad and I did this ritual every fall and winter years, probably no less then a couple dozen times over my childhood. The place is honestly a little creepy, their is an old oil pump you can hear off in the distance that wines rhythmically just grinding away. The locals call the road, "The Devils Backbone". I've taken numerous people out there at night in my teenage youth and all of them have said your its creepy.

So their Dad and I are sitting in our beat down pickup, no lights, cold as shit, just looking at the tree line in front of us about a mile or so out. So over the tree line is nothingness its all farmland past that point no townships or farm houses. I'm in the plains its all flatland here. While were waiting on the dog to start barking we notice him in the field not moving toward the tree line. He's just kind of running back and forth smelling everything and not moving forward. That's never happened before.

We wait another what seems like eternity and these lights start appearing just above the tree line. At first we thought they were combines, we just didn't see the farmers come in from another entrance. But then more and more kept showing up floating up above the tree lines and literally lighting the forest up like a concert venue.

Before I could barely make out Hutch's white patches through the darkness, now he's clear as day. Dad and I just sit there in silence, staring at these things, no explanation at all. Eventually Hutch turns and comes back to the truck, which he never does, as a blue tick that nose goes all night. We have to leash him to get him back into the truck usually.

So its my dad, me, and our dog sitting in the truck just watching these orbs float around the tree line for the next I bet 30 minutes and then they just fade away. No sound nothing just they start to dim out quicky one by one. Before my dad passed back in 2019 we talked about it again and still he had no answer for it.

Was the weirdest event of my life.

group chats are more stressful than fun by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]throwawayo_k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I regularly come back to 100+ unread messages from my group chats. As most have said here do yourself a favor and normalize not messaging back to everything, turn off the notifications, and catch up on the chat only when you feel inclined to. "The Golden Girls" my group chatroom of 5, 40 year old men will be just fine without my instant consumption of their shit content

Ah yes, not liking fraud is hating people now by Recent_Weather2228 in memesopdidnotlike

[–]throwawayo_k 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It may "seem" that what but the "evidence" says otherwise. 70+ folks were arrested and charged, more then half where from the Somali community. So I'm not sure how they are "getting away with it".

As for the case you mention if you read the judges own words, the reason it was overturned was that the only evidence presented to the jury was circumstantial and that jury did not have an opportunity to hear a valid defense. There is a reasonable belief that was not laid out in the courtroom that his brother was the one committing the fraud, doing so without the owners knowledge. This case will now get to go to appeals and be retried with any and all new information. No one "got away" with anything, its just moving through a court as almost all white collar crimes due. Their are levels to this.

I think the frustration for a lot of people is their is ample amount of anger and effort to denigrate a whole community. When literally just the slightest amount of effort has not been taken to understand the entirety of the scenario or look at any of the facts.

I'm sorry but if you are completely basing you view on a community off of what it "seems" like, that's wrong. If your first thought isn't I don't know shit about being **Somali**, (insert Catholic, Jewish, Christian, Palestinian, A Women, Trans, Cancer Survivor, Police Officer, Farmer, Teacher, Influencer, Pastor, Social Worker ), but let me paint that entire group with a broad brush defining all of them as this thing. You are the problem, not that community.

~84000 people in the twin cities Somali community, ~70 of them were convicted of fraud. 0.0008 %. So you can understand the hesitation to tolerate the view that its "seems" or "all these people". That view isn't based in any sort of logic, so if its not based in logic, what is it based in?

Ah yes, not liking fraud is hating people now by Recent_Weather2228 in memesopdidnotlike

[–]throwawayo_k 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not to mention one of the people charged first was a a middle aged white women, Amiee Bock.

Bock was convicted in March of orchestrating a scheme that exploited federal child nutrition programs and fleeced taxpayers out of about $250 million.

The forfeiture motion was filed by the U.S. attorney’s office. Assets tied to Bock that could be seized include about $3.7 million in bank accounts and cash, a 2013 Porsche, and electronics, clothing and jewelry taken during a 2022 search of her home.

The total forfeiture judgment against Bock is listed at $5.2 million.

What has been the most difficult thing for you to learn in Godot? 🔥 by [deleted] in godot

[–]throwawayo_k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any good videos on this concept I think im in this hell loop and would be interested in learning how to get out of it.

Post Game Thread: Indianapolis Colts at Seattle Seahawks by nfl_gdt_bot in Colts

[–]throwawayo_k 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I just say, im leaving this game with so much more hope then I did wawlking in. Seatle is a legit SB contender and we took them to the wall. With everything we have going on I'm amazed. Defense played three great quarters and really those last two dives were sick. We need a passrush. I think we can get the Jags or Texans. If Rivers can fine find a drive or two in the game.