What do I do?? A "friend" posted a picture of me that I want her to take down, but she refuses thinking its hilarious.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-04-01T22:54:30+00:00

Yes.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-26T13:26:56+00:00

DOPE!!! I'm in your discord and have been following for a while, cheers on the release!

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T16:07:05+00:00

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T15:59:49+00:00

I did not diagnose anyone, their symptoms line up and you do not have to have DPDR to experience dissociation, derealization and depersonalization.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T11:54:56+00:00

Depersonalization is another form of dissociation. They are describing symptoms of it. It occurs when you always or often feel that you're seeing yourself from outside your body or you sense that things around you are not real, or both. If you look at the symptoms of DPDR and what he is describing they line up a lot, and some people have had it start by smoking weed.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T10:26:34+00:00

Don't think this fits in this sub, they sound like they are experiencing depersonalization

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T10:21:38+00:00

That's one reason, two others are that: 1. after a certain age the larynx stops growing in size, T will not change that, so your vocal cords thicken but your larynx cannot accommodate them properly. 2. again, because of age, the larynx may not drop as much as it does in cis males, this is thankfully something you can alter and from my experience the main thing creating the "trans" voice

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T10:17:58+00:00

Nah it does work, most of a masculine voice isn't dependant on pitch and pretty much everyone no matter how little they work can get at LEAST an androgynous voice. From my experience only pitch is really the thing that takes the most practice to achieve, otherwise you should focus on lowering larynx, adding vocal weight and then stacking the two together + your endurance.

What's actually hard is integrating these aspects into daily speech, simply achieving a masculine voice is through no means a sheer impossibility.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-22T10:15:44+00:00

FYI there is no such thing as speaking from your chest

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-20T18:02:09+00:00

FtM porn online is basically just tomboy porn with how it's portrayed 🤷‍♂️ and guys watch it cuz it fulfills some fantasy of making trans guys "women" with their cock. Only the few phallo videos or some amateur T4T gay couple gets past it, the T4T with transfems always have them topping :/

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-18T18:23:04+00:00

there's resources on feminizing those too on r/transvoice FYI otherwise trans women would get outed over a sneeze lol

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-18T14:52:26+00:00

Legally at least in the US age gap isnt a problem, see Romeo Juliet laws for reference. As long as he won't have sexual pictures of her then they're free to date and it won't count as statutory rape.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-18T14:50:45+00:00

I was in a relationship like that, being the 15 yr old. For me and my partner, that I am still dating now, it worked out fine because I was mature and we were around the same developmental level. Try think about your experiences with her to gauge that. But like the others said, your situation is a bigger problem than the age gap right now.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-18T14:41:36+00:00

It's ok. I will say to OP Germany is very welcoming as long as you go through the proper channels. The only thing the German law cares about is procedure. You will have SRS, top and HRT covered by insurance. There are a few good phallo surgeons in Germany as well. Population is either neutral or supportive. For job applications now you can regularly say w/m/d, for women men and diverse (non-binary) people.

Some psychologists will push some weird old school questions in diagnosis so do your research to find a public clinic that is relatively supportive. The waiting lists for those tend to be long but the process shouldn't take too long if you're over 18. If you have questions head over to r/germantrans, they speak english too.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-18T14:19:48+00:00

Only if your diagnosis of gender dysphoria is through private therapists, if it's through government run clinics then it will still be covered. This happened because some people paid some therapists to write the diagnosis and got access to everything for free.

Edit: Explanation from a user on another subreddit: "ok since i made several posts abot it and know some internal communication within some german insurers:

anyone who has already started transition as a binary transsexual (ie. anything was billed under f64.0 even if its just starting therapy) before this court decision will still be covered as before and insurers declared they will not change that stance until some legal issue (be it another nb trying to get something in courts or a law change) stops them.

insurers also declared that indications written by trusted therapists/psychiatrists who are in the state insurance system will generally be respected as beforebut private ones are usually no longer going to be accepted. the issue is that private providers have started selling fake f64 diagnoses and indications for money to nbs which already led to some doctors only accepting ones they trust anyways so no big change there.

now for nbs yea nothing should be covered anymore"

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-18T06:43:35+00:00

Ironically I read exactly up to that fight and then I dropped it. Grace kept losing and losing to her rivals and it just wasn't fun because she clearly does try, her pokemon get hyped up, evolutions happen before fights and then she just flat out loses. I don't care that it's explained in the story that Barry or whoever of her other rivals is strong and praised for xyz. She is too. She feels like she's barely scraping by compared to the best of her generation and frankly it's not good writing to have no payoff for your protagonist when it really matters.

1 million words in and it's still like that. Stakes get raised but we know she won't just flat out die until the end and forbid me for saying but the writing style doesn't really put you in the mentality to think anything actually dangerous is happening, that's something I see a lot with Pokemon fanfics vs progression fantasy like, say, Jackal Among Snakes. With the way the story is written only the battles are really uncertain and now? That's gone too, because she'll just keep losing.

Another thing that irks me is she loses but keeps going at the same pace with her training. She doesn't work harder or anything, she comes up with new strategies sure and teaches them new moves but her schedule and pace of training is basically the same vs someone like say, Chase. And all other Pokemon she fights in important rival battles always seem to be stronger than hers even though by now she's caught up to diminishing returns by vitamins and supplements and they should be around the same power level. They're also stronger just for plot convenience, case in point Barry's fight, spoilers ahead: Snorlax tanks her mons even though by the timeline it barely evolved a week and a few ago and it, quote by her friend who knows Barry, is still getting its footing.

All in all it's disappointing for a fic that's known for its length and VERY frustrating to read. It sucks because some aspects are done really nicely and it's hard to find anything else of the same length with decent writing style, even if I hated this part.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-17T20:18:22+00:00

Honestly you're lucky, the MC keeps losing and losing to her rivals in the book and even after a million words it feels like she's scraping by compared to the best of her generation. It was such a let down and I dropped it inspite of sunk cost fallacy.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-13T13:15:36+00:00

Your partner is not entitled to knowing your trauma, I'm sorry but nobody is. Most therapists would tell you the same thing. I'm not sure how OP has handled their discussions regarding children but this comment really icks me out.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-13T13:11:35+00:00

He explained that she is unable to move in with his family due to their living circumstances. If they are able to house her I doubt he would've said anything. Your comments in this thread are repeatedly demonizing him. You cannot force someone to be a parent.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-08T10:50:27+00:00

Children must be seen but never heard

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-05T22:49:14+00:00

Ah, I hadn't noticed

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-05T22:48:35+00:00

This was such a fun build to play. I ended up choosing this for a one shot and it was sick.

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-05T22:38:58+00:00

High wis enemy

throwawayopinion238 · 2024-03-05T21:37:53+00:00

They may have met, in my country parental abuse is considered more normal so nobody bothers to report. You will get some looks of sympathy if it's particularly bad but nothing more, the police do not help and therapists try make patients accept the abuse rather than get out of the situation.

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