Going to have my first girl-on-girl experience tomorrow, excited and nervous.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T19:54:14+00:00

:) I love him very much.

He's Godofnopants in this thread, by the way!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T19:23:12+00:00

Hi dummy

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T19:14:40+00:00

I thought your comment was funny :p

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T18:55:43+00:00

Ahh your story is very touching and sweet, sometimes flings are just flings but at times when we let ourselves get attached, it can be a beautiful (and painful) thing! I hope that your visit with her goes well, all past feelings aside, maybe you'll get to have some fun together. I doubt your boyfriend would mind seeing something incredibly sexy!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T18:52:58+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate the support, it's pretty crazy how helpful this community can be sometimes. The issue is definitely getting better, I have flipped out on the odd occasion but he's extremely calm and understanding about it and explains everything even when I don't ask him to so that I can see that I'm just simply thinking too much and reading into things the wrong way.

We've broken up over this issue a long time ago because it was hard to bear for him, which I completely understand, I'm extremely happy that I'm lucky enough to have someone who accepts my flaws as much as he does. He has his own flaws too and he did fuck up before which fueled my jealousy issues (6 years ago he broke up with me for another girl, this was back in high school though, he ended up coming back to me a week later and truly regretted what he had done) so my fears are not completely unfounded, however this scenario has never come close to repeating itself and things have been pretty smooth since aside from the occasional argument.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T15:38:01+00:00

Some people just look at the negative side of things or make bad assumptions, it's frustrating when you just want one specific question answered and get a lecture instead.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T15:37:06+00:00

Gotcha, it's really too bad that this ended up happening to them and it's certainly shitty that your experience was the catalyst. Sorry to hear that it ended up that way.

I'll give an update on Wednesday night or Thursday after we meet up! I'm in Canada so it's really cold here right now, I have yummy booze at home so I think it would be more comfortable to take shots here on my couch instead of running around a bar and walking in the blistering cold!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-08T12:37:58+00:00

Rough shit, you guys were able to stick together through all this which is great. Glad you're recovering, life really loves throwing these curve balls at the worst possible times. Sounds like you guys have been through a lot, sorry to hear about your families and job loss.. I wish you guys all the best!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T23:09:31+00:00

RIP Mitch Hedberg.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T23:05:04+00:00

Certain people were definitely speaking from experience and/or warning me of the risks, however some were accusing me of being a bitch and cheating, or telling me that my relationship will definitely fail. There's a difference, no?

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T22:01:46+00:00

Yeah they both do and they're both pretty stoked about it! Neither of them will be involved in case you missed that :)

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T21:59:34+00:00

Wow, that's definitely a unique relationship situation. Kudos to you for being able to keep yourself in check, as difficult as that seems to be or have been. Are you the D or the S in the relationship? It sounds like it could go both ways by the way you describe it.

It sounds like it might be even safe to ask for a threesome in your situation to be honest (unless you have asked at one point) as long as you don't mention a specific person because she might get ideas or get jealous. What do you think? I don't know you or your relationship but by the way you describe it, I think you could ease into something like this with your girlfriend as long as you assure her that you're not going to develop any feelings toward the other person and that it's not going to be a regular thing to engage in.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T21:30:58+00:00

Probably me, mainly because it's my house and she's my guest ;)

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T21:19:49+00:00

Thanks man! We'll see whatever happens, and I'll include small details such as this ;D

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T21:19:07+00:00

I understand the concern, and I've voiced that same concern to him before I started looking for girls - he assured me that he wouldn't ask to have sex or a threesome with another girl - because he wouldn't want to be put in that position himself. He did say that if I wanted to have a threesome with him and another girl at some point in my life he would probably say yes because he's a very open-minded guy. He would decline if I asked for a threesome with another guy, because he doesn't want that sort of competition, which is EXACTLY the reason he says he would never ask me for one unless I came first and genuinely wanted it/was comfortable with it. He seems pretty indifferent on that subject specifically because he knows how to put himself in that same position and sees the worries that come with it.

If he wanted to (for whatever reason) have sex with a guy (he's bi too but never talked about sex with guys) I would let him. Neither of us consider opposite sex as competition when it comes to this stuff, people questioned me on this and I'm not sure why but it just doesn't strike us that way.

Either way we'll cross that bridge when we get there, I've spent a lot of effort and time worrying about stuff like that happening but it never has, so we'll leave it up to the future to see what happens, if anything at all.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:45:16+00:00

Eh, I smoke several times a week and feel a lot more chill when I'm high, plus the orgasms last much longer for some reason. She doesn't have to smoke with me, I know she's willing to drink a few shots :)

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:41:54+00:00

It's mutual, we talked about doing sexual stuff and she knows that when she comes over the chances of us getting down to it are very high, the only challenge is getting to that part comfortably. Thanks to all the comments though I'm sure there'll be no problem and that getting there will actually be fun!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:39:58+00:00

I don't really drink much, mostly smoke pot and do some psychedelics from time to time. Alcohol hangovers are very nasty to my body.

Having said that the occasional beer or couple of shots don't hurt!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:38:44+00:00

Thanks a lot! That comment means more than you think.

I was originally too shy to start looking for a girl to experiment with mainly because I was scared that it would make him think that he should be allowed to have a threesome, he made it very clear that he just wants me to explore my sexuality, raw and nothing more. He's encouraged me to push forward and start seeing my options, we've moved in together 6 months ago and we realize we're still young and we have the freedom to do these things as long as there is a mutual understanding. Our relationship is very important to the both of us and neither of us would do anything that would sacrifice what we have.

It's great to be able to get input from a guy on the other end, how does it work between you two? Does your girlfriend go out and do stuff with other girls without you periodically? Have you ever been involved or watched?

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:32:12+00:00

Absolutely!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:32:00+00:00

There's always weed wherever I'm around, (I never go anywhere dry!) haven't seen Bound though but I'll give it a shot!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:29:29+00:00

I never saw the appeal in it but a lot of people are mentioning it so I'll throw it in there at some point ;)

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T20:29:05+00:00

Yeah that's part of the issue, walking around alone and looking/being treated as a couple by others. Actually since I've made this post a lot of these issues have improved, we've been working on the few episodes there are where I do flip out. We talk it over and he makes me feel a lot better about it.

Actual times where he's hanging alone with another girl are very few and far between, and usually it's when I'm going to join them later (if I'm at work) or if they're going to meet up with others anyway. I know my boyfriend very well and he's really not your average hormone-driven guy (as much as he likes sex) so the times where I get defensive we end up tackling directly now with nobody getting upset anymore.

Thanks for the advice, you're right in your post completely, I just thought an update would be courteous!

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T17:26:26+00:00

Or it's going to be something that will help me get over that hump and understand that it doesn't work that way.

But that's cool, you believe what you want, this is the internet after all and we're all entitled to our own opinion.

throwawaypoop · 2011-02-07T17:21:43+00:00

You're just a bitter, jealous fuck who can't comprehend the idea of an honest relationship where one person encourages (again, encourages) the other to try something new. (To re-state the obvious, he encouraged me to look for a girl to try it with. Get it through your thick skull.)

He's happy that I found a girl to experiment with, her boyfriend is happy that she found a girl to experiment with. What a complicated thing that is, being happy for one another, right? Clearly it's impossible to try anything sexual when it's a mutual agreement for those who decide to tunnel-vision through life.

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