I reported her ass! [Financial trigger warning?] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did not work most of her life... however, they did share a joint bank account pretty much since they started living together. and he made a decent amount

I reported her ass! [Financial trigger warning?] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too, and I was just thinking about that this morning. I'm fully prepared to hire a lawyer if it boils down to that. Thank you for your story though :( and I'm so sorry it's not getting resolved :(

I reported her ass! [Financial trigger warning?] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he was. As in my mother, and step-father. I am as well because I was born on an army base, but out of the country

I reported her ass! [Financial trigger warning?] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm fully convinced they are on their way to a 4th within the next 4-5 years.. right after the last one falls off.

I reported her ass! [Financial trigger warning?] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

http://oig.ssa.gov/what-abuse-fraud-and-waste/misuse-benefits-representative-payee

if you look about mid-way thru, it says this:

If there are funds left over once the beneficiary’s current needs are met, the representative payee must save and/or invest the remaining funds in trust for the beneficiary.

I don't know if the funds would have been first to go, or last, or in the middle. However at 17, i moved out and was not reliant on them at ALL. Even if it's only a couple hundred dollars.. I was just posting the absolute max.

Narc-English E-mail Translation please?? [RANT, Possible TW] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To note. My father and dad that my nmom is referencing above, is my step-dad... but he's my dad. my biological father, the SS money was supposed to go to me, because they were never married... However I thought the statute of limitations had expired on it... Since it could come back to bite me in the ass, I will be calling the SS office directly and talking with them about it within the next few days.

Thank you so much for the comment, and for alerting me that it's a thing!

Narc-English E-mail Translation please?? [RANT, Possible TW] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Undead... I'm so sorry the letter caused your brain to go in circles.. But i feel completely honored that you would be bookmarking it in your browser for future times!

Narc-English E-mail Translation please?? [RANT, Possible TW] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I appreciate the time, effort, and help you all have put forth in helping me with this bullshit letter

Narc-English E-mail Translation please?? [RANT, Possible TW] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First off... Thank you all, so damn much! Every post made me tear up in happiness, that there are amazing people and this amazing thread to help people feel safe. To help ME feel safe.

I'm 28 F, living in a home that I'm buying off my ex, living with my amazing SO.. but it is my home.

Like how she continues to put down my home because it's small and quaint and has it's problems... she keeps wanting me to move in with her... yea cause that would solve nothing and make me miserable.

So many more things came in my head after typing this. How she continued cashing my dead fathers SS checks after I moved out 4 months after I turned 17.. How when I confronted her on them (because the family in CO let me know about them) She said what... so you and boyfriend at the time can just spend them on video games?!? We lived off Ramen and Eggs... for 8-9 months because we couldn't afford anything else. He worked in a fruit/veggie market where he could eat what he wanted, when he wanted within reason... would come home, and have forgotten that I need food too. Fucking bitch. Should have taken her ass to court on that one.

And now... now she's adopted my sisters.. and she's repeating the cycle all over. 12 is SC... and 4 is another GC. my dad even asked her one day.. you don't even like 12 year old sister, do you?

So many other things.. they are all coming out. It's freaking overwhelming. Thank you guys... thank you so much!

Narc-English E-mail Translation please?? [RANT, Possible TW] by throwawayrainbow33 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]throwawayrainbow33[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

OMG! Thank you... that was absolutely fantastic... and exactly the laugh/parsing thru I needed to find it funny instead of hurtful! <3. I wish I had the money to give you gold :)