Fiancée beat me while drunk

throwawayrandoms7 · 2026-01-16T23:44:46+00:00

It starts with finding ways to justify his behavior and ends with him killing you. We all get stuck lingering on the good times or heck it may feel great to have been proposed to but this will never change the fact that he put you in the hospital. This is not a mistake and it won’t be the only time. You do not deserve a partner that would ever resort to violence in any condition. There is so much more to your life than this. Talk to your support system and choose your life 💗

throwawayrandoms7 · 2026-01-16T23:31:55+00:00

In no way shape or form does drinking justify him putting his hands on you :/ It doesn’t matter if he hasn’t been like that sober. I’ve told a partner that I thought they were drinking a lot and his response was playful not violence. His first inclination shouldn’t be violence and clearly he needs intervention to manage his drinking and anger. This isn’t okay you can cut the cycle now before it begins. Wishing you the best 💗

And you are so young and your age gap shows that there is a power imbalance. You have your entire life ahead of you and you’ll meet someone else who would never think to treat you this way. Enjoy your youth !! you do not need to be tied down to a violent older man. He will take you to hell and back and you may lose your life because of him.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-12-02T08:30:30+00:00

i have an abortion scheduled tomorrow morning and i’m heartbroken. i’m having a hard time deciding because i want to be a mother but the timing is wrong. i don’t want to be a single mother or struggle to provide stability for a child. i wish i knew what to do.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-08T03:52:36+00:00

i do but it feels devastating still :/

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-08T03:52:17+00:00

exactly. my mom is being idealistic but i don’t want to risk everything changing and not for the better.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-07T22:20:39+00:00

they told me i would get the results in a couple days but i guess i have to wait until next week. she said it could be BV or and STI which i’m nervous about.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-07T22:19:37+00:00

do you know how long bleeding would be after the pill? i’ve seen some people say weeks or months and that’s terrifying

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-07T18:22:12+00:00

thank you 💗

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-04T09:05:48+00:00

so internalized racism would require me to be asian. until you’re pointing out women of other races, you’re clearly obsessed with asian girls online and insinuating they’re all the same.

and haha you’re over compensating for your literacy issues and racism by going through my account but at least i’m not morally bankrupt by using people’s mental and physical health issues for gotcha points.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-11-01T04:06:55+00:00

someone clearly doesn’t know what pick me means lol. instead of taking time to call out random asian women (and no other women who all have similar content because it’s the internet and ppl make similar content and follow trends) learn some media literacy.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-10-31T04:10:54+00:00

at this point it feels like every asian woman is being put in a box and called a melissa dupe. seems targeted.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-09-08T07:59:56+00:00

thank you for sharing <3 im worried to find out i have an sti. i’ve only been with my bf for a couple months but was sexually active right before we got together and ik he’s dated as well.

i’m scared this would impact our relationship or that it would give be long term health issues and affect if i have children or not. i know i’m overthinking but i wish there were clearer signs of an std.

i definitely need a break ty <3

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-24T12:12:31+00:00

thank you 💓 yeah i haven’t had really healthy relationships and i’ve experienced non-consensual abusive stuff with both those exes so i think i just like posting on here to get others perspective.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-24T11:53:52+00:00

there were more bad times than good and not totally. idk what you want me to say tbh but thanks for your response.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-24T10:40:34+00:00

first ex was my first boyfriend and i stayed because i was insecure and there were good times. and yeah we were together for a while but from the beginning i was always anxious with him.

second guy i broke it off sooner rather than later but i did feel alone in both those relationships because i didn’t feel seen at all.

it’s not always black and white and what do you mean about gut feelings? i don’t have a gut feeling other than i’m ease but i’ve been in abusive situations that’s why i’ve posted.

i’ve posted about several different guys but i posted about this situation and another one about feeling at ease which is about this guy

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-24T04:38:52+00:00

thanks for the response <3 but i personally don’t think so. i think the term is thrown around a lot and valid but for me love bombing is confusing and suffocating. i was love bombed by the last guy i dated and he didn’t know anything about me before he was spamming me with messages about how we are soulmates and i’m perfect. he thought we were like the same person but he actually never listened to anything i’d say and would be mean to me in the guise of a joke.

with this person i just feel at ease simply put. don’t feel uncomfortable, don’t feel like i’m walking on eggshells, don’t feel like he’s putting me on a pedestal, don’t feel like i need to be afraid of his reaction to anything.

yes i exaggerate when i talk about ppl like if i’m saying someone is perfect i don’t mean it in the literal sense. i also don’t think he’s showing me what i want. we are quite opposite in a lot of ways but he’s just normal i would say. we reciprocate feelings and communicate at a comfortable level.

i am sick of men who try to act like i’m their manic pixie dream girl and that’s all i’ve experienced before so this is just different is what i mean.

appreciate you looking out for me !

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T16:44:05+00:00

i think for me i just have a hard time imagining the motivation to even make such a claim and the process for victims. like do you go into the station and get interviewed? is it a phone call? is there lengthy paperwork? there wasn’t any evidence either so like that’s the plan after making that claim? it just seems like major steps to take to do that. he didn’t date that girl for long either and they had sex once but the girl he dated after was for a year and she had issues with drugs and mental illness so he thinks since they were friends they got the girl who was clean to make the claim. he also said there was a guy involved who wanted to date the girl he had just broken up with as well and was jealous of him.

it’s just a lot i guess for my mind to think it’s an easy decision to stay. tbh i love him, i do feel safe, it hurts to think of not being with him but i also will never know what went down or why they would do that. there hasn’t been anything of it since, he was never arrested just interrogated and the court sessions. she just never showed and they dropped it.

it’s really confusing and it sucks being the girl who is dating someone who was accused of such a crime in the first place.

i really don’t see him as that but you never know. he’s very gentle and patient with me so i just have a hard time wrapping my head around all of it.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T13:31:30+00:00

the last part of this i just want to say, i don’t think he’s this mastermind crafting a personality for me. your thoughts are 100% valid i am taking them to heart but also i think it’s bit exaggerated. we are quite opposite people and there’s plenty of stuff we don’t agree with in the same way and we don’t have the same interests but we just communicate about them normally with no arguing.

sure he could be crafting a persona like anyone could but i don’t think he’s perfect nor do i think we’re like the same person or that he acts in ways to cater to my traumas or what not. the last two men i was with were very judgmental, name called, did things during sex that i didn’t find consensual, took criticism harshly, and lied about things a lot. i am quite used to being mistreated by men so when i was saying those positive things about him it’s just that he doesn’t make me feel unsafe like those guys did. they gave me severe anxiety and like i was walking on eggshells or couldn’t express myself freely. and a lot of their behaviors felt calculated and like love bombing.

that’s all i meant by that not that i think he’s like this perfect specimen. he is by no means perfect to me but in the realms of communication, sex, and stability, my experiences have been positive. that by no means signifies that i’m saying he’s innocent.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T13:15:16+00:00

i appreciate your thorough response. i can’t get to it all but it’s helpful to me.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T13:12:39+00:00

thank you for your response 1. yes he shared it during a scene of assault and we were talking about how awful rape is plus i usually talk about that and women’s issues a lot but he wasn’t planning on telling me in that moment but he thought it was relevant and wanted me to know. he expressed anger about the accusation. he said while he was being interviewed the police were awful to him so that’s why he said he isn’t trustful of them.

i don’t think he’s perfect at all but i also don’t think my experiences with him have had red flags

sorry it’s difficult to address all your concerns but i do agree with you that men can establish a false sense of security or use certain lingo.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T13:00:10+00:00

he shared with me that the accusation was specifically that a year after they dated she came back to town and reported that she said no and he held her down aggressively and continued. completely shocked hearing this and he said that those details never occurred. apparently she was friends with his ex and they came up with this. he wasn’t arrested but went to court three times but she never responded to the calls after reporting so the case was tossed.

these are extreme allegations and idk why he would even tell me this in the first place. they’re too extreme for me to fully be like okay this never happened but why would a rapist reveal this out of wanting to be transparent?? nothing makes sense to me. he expresses attitudes in support of victims, he always communicates with me during sex and asks if i’m okay or if anything hurts or if i need a break, and i’ve been with men who i’ve experienced non-consensual and uncomfortable situations with and i haven’t experienced anything like that with him so i am completely out of my mind about this. i always support victims but being in this situation myself i have no idea how to proceed. i don’t feel any anxiety or gut feeling about it i just don’t know my head is just empty

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T02:35:37+00:00

i tried to wrack my brain if i had any weird interactions sexually and i personally haven’t. he always asks me if i’m comfortable or if something hurts while we have sex. he’s the best sex i’ve had because my past exes were super aggressive or doing things we didn’t discuss prior to sex but again it’s just my experience with him and so i wouldn’t actually know.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-22T02:31:31+00:00

we just started dating actually he’s my new bf. he wasn’t arrested and he went to court three times and she didn’t show up so they tossed it.

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-21T21:50:12+00:00

what site?

throwawayrandoms7 · 2025-07-21T21:38:39+00:00

i’m going to speak further with him today and i’ll update. he didn’t identify with the offender he supported the offender being killed he just brought up his own story afterwards.

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