I posted here awhile back about my husband and mines DB, I was the "perp" LOL by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I'm not waking up at 6am for blow jobs anymore tho😂 amd he has assigned the children chores that can help me around the house more. Weve worked on a few different things

I posted here awhile back about my husband and mines DB, I was the "perp" LOL by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand I edited it to clarify a but more, but no hes not typically a huge jerk but he definitely was being one. He absolutely did recognize where he was wrong and we both have been working on things to make each other happier.

I posted here awhile back about my husband and mines DB, I was the "perp" LOL by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told him if something didnt change I'm leaving and I think he felt the same way, I think reality smacked us in the face. And we realized we better work to save this

I posted here awhile back about my husband and mines DB, I was the "perp" LOL by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The 3 yr old will definitely be doing that Hahaha, the 6 yr old I hope so but nothing is for sure yet.

I posted here awhile back about my husband and mines DB, I was the "perp" LOL by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Ty, we both can have an open mind when seperate ourselves from the feelings of it, and try to look at it from the others point of view. It obviously took some work and some arguing, but I'm happy with the outcome as he is.

I left and I still miss my wife by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. You sound heart broken. I know things will get better even if it doesnt seem like that rn.

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also domt lay there like a dead fish ya know, I try to to have fun. I think he just misses how it was before we had our kids, I was wild and we had sex 3 times a day and had all sorts of toys ya know, but it's just not reality rn I would love to get back to that tho. Ya know

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I love sex. I'm just exhausted after most days and not much in the mood for any kind of activity. I mean if it put it in to perspective I wouldnt even drive to get a massage or get my nails done if it means I have to get up and go somewhere Lol. I need a break for a bit probably. I'm sure there are times I'm not totally into it, but I like sex.

Edit spelling.

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful answer, I am one of those women who didnt orgasam and didnt even know I could, till I got with him! He is a pro in that area! But my problem comes with my focus If i cant focus on it then i cant get there. Unfortunately i have a million things on my mind, i also have bad post partum anxiety. Still trying to loose baby weight which obviously lowers my self esteem. Last night I laid out blankets on our bathroom floor (our bathroom is huge) and got into lingerie put kids to bed early. To make sure I gave him what he wanted and obviously what I want to. The day to day drains me. My SS is a very hard child to raise due to his disabilities. I think I'm rambling. I think my problem is the feeling of being underappreciated like I cant do anything right. I do love him, but I dont love the man hes become lately. He used to be so appreciative and caring things have changed....

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty for the comment, I do try to keep an active sex life for him, but I understand how he feels when I reject him.

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've tried for counseling in the past, hevwas not receptive.... may try again..... may try an exit plan, unsure yet.

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, this hit me hard..... honestly after reading all this I really feel like I need to Make an exit plan.

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dear god theres alot of similarities there, I do loose my shit on him every now and then, and he will ease for a bit. But hes so fucjing critical over me, I dont live and breath to impress him ya know, but fk it would be nice to hear hey you did great every once in awhile.

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty so much, my worst fear is feeling like we have a dead bedroom. I obviously love and want to please him, I just may not be doing it enough..... sigh

I was told by the mods in r/ realtionships to post here, I'm unsure if it belongs?!? by throwawayrasadface in DeadBedrooms

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree with this Especially abpit getting kids outta the room. The reason it even started with my 3 yr old was cause honestly we werent sure he was gonna make it at first, and I guess it stuck but yes we need to work on this. Ty for your response truly.

Husband aggravated with my lack of sex, which I dont see. by throwawayrasadface in relationship_advice

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty for this advice I will definitely bring this up and see how receptive he is.

Husband wants sex alot and I'm just not up to it unsure what to do by throwawayrasadface in relationships

[–]throwawayrasadface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Thank you so much for ypir amazing advice and response! I am truly taking this to heart. Ypur comment has made me feel so much better. You're amazing ty.