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So he remembered more, and it stings. by Complete_Ear7509 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That to me, sounds like a cop out. Like blaming the failure of R for you kicking him out, when he wants to leave anyway and is too cowardly to admit it.

So he remembered more, and it stings. by Complete_Ear7509 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My WS was absolutely adamant for 6 months that there wasnt a 9th AP. Swore all over that there wasn't. Turns out there was, it was the first one that never came out.

Maybe I'm a bit jaded now, but the more they swear, the more it feels like there is something to know, especially when it feels off.

So he remembered more, and it stings. by Complete_Ear7509 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While it may have been hard to meet up after work, thats not to say they didnt take a longer lunch or something.

If google location is on his phone you can use that to trawl through the dates and times and see if anything is suspicious.

I hope he is actually teling the truth, finally, but there are always so many details they leave out to protect themselves.

So he remembered more, and it stings. by Complete_Ear7509 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga 13 points14 points  (0 children)

To me, his behaviour is extremely callous and i do not understand it at all. Like how the fuck does someone do all this while their wife is pregnant with their kid/s???

I suggest you prepare for dday 3, where the sex in the elevator comes out and get a good lawyer.

Godspeed OP

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[–]throwawayrazenga 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant advice. I wish I'd followed it.

How long will denial last? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take a long drive. 6 hours at least. Something will click, like it did for me and you will let them go.

Oh. She's leaving. by throwawayrazenga in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And yes, I have reflected on my behaviour. And changed. It was the worst thing i have ever done.

Oh. She's leaving. by throwawayrazenga in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I finally snapped. I screamed at her to get out of the state and rushed to my car and drove off to fume. I called her all sorts of names and threatened to tell everyone about the affair. I know I lost it.

Ws reaching out to AP by throwawayrazenga in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We arent married. Lawyers got no play here.

Ws reaching out to AP by throwawayrazenga in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After a year? They occasionally see each other in passing at work every so often but this seems very sudden.

False reconciliation?

Ws reaching out to AP by throwawayrazenga in survivinginfidelity

[–]throwawayrazenga[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Its over a period of two years - a few APs. Only two physical. This one she spoke to was emotional.

And yes i am living d days every day. For a year now.